Ngokuhamba kwexesha, abantu bayasetyenzisana kunye kwaye bathathwe ngokungathandekiyo yintoni enye iqabane elenzayo. Akunakutsholwa ukuba ukuvakalelwa kwimeko yokuthuthuzela nokuzinza kubi. Kubi ukuba umntu ucinga ukuba ufanele upheke, uhlambe, unakekele njalo njalo. Ewe, xa kuyanconywa, kubi, xa belibale ukubulela kwaye bahlale eentanyeni zabo.
Indlela yokwenza umntu anakekele ngayo?
Unokuhlangabezana nokuxhaphaza okunjalo, kodwa unokumelana nalo. Musa ukwenza iinguqulelo, kodwa unokwenza umonakalo kwaye wenze indoda yakho ikuxabise kwaye ikukhathalele.
Musa ukuzibophelela ngomsebenzi
Abafazi bathanda ukuthatha indoda yabo ethandekayo, indlu eshushu kunye nehashe. Bazama ukugcina yonke into phantsi kolawulo. Kwaye ntoni amadoda ethu? Bavela emsebenzini bekhathele kakhulu kwaye bahlala phantsi ukuze baphumule, kunye nabasetyhini emva komsebenzi bazilungiselele isidlo sakusihlwa, baqhubekile, benze ngokufundiswa kwabafundi, kwaye kusadingeka bashiye amandla okulala kunye nabo ngokwabo.
Cela uncedo, kuba oku akuwona uphawu lobuthathaka. Ngokuqhelekileyo, yeyiphi yamadoda eya kwenza imisebenzi yawo. Ufuna ukumncedisa, imihla ngemihla, ukucela ukuba uncede, ngenxa yokuba ukuwa kwehlisa ilitye.
Zithande kakhulu
Kwixesha elide, ukuzidela kuye kwaphuma kwimoya. Xa ukhusela ngakumbi umntu kwizinto zobomi bemihla ngemihla, xa ubeka ubomi obuninzi ngokwakho. Uwunaki ukunyamekela kwakho, iimfuno zakho kunye nexesha oza kuchitha kunye. Okokuqala, masithandane nathi.
Ingxenye yomsebenzi ishintshelwe kumahlombe amadoda anamandla, siza kubeka iingubo zangaphantsi ezincinci, asiyi kukulibala malunga nokuhlanjululwa komzimba, i-drop of perfume oyintandokazi kunye nemizwelo iya kuvuka ngokukhawuleza. Ufuna ukuzithemba okuphezulu kwaye uvele uzive njengendlovukazi. Emva koko, amadoda athatyathwa kwala mabhinqa awalandela, anelisekile ngokwabo. Kuvela isangqa esichukumisayo. Ukuba awuzithandi, ngoko indoda ayiyi kukuxabisa kwaye ikunyamekele.
Ukuzingca
Kufuneka iboniswe ukwenzela ukunika ixesha elifutshane. Qala ngemini engamashumi amabini imihla ngemihla. Buza umyeni wakho iimzuzu ezingamashumi amabini udlale nomntwana, kwaye okwangoku uhlamba uze uzienzele umquba. Kwaye ukuze ufikelele kumlingane, sebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zengqondo.
Unokukhuthaza isiqingatha sesibini ngento yokuba ukubonakala komfazi kubonakalisa indlela umntu akhathalele ngayo umfazi, kunye nomfazi-malunga naye. Khumbuza umyeni wakho ukuba eceleni kwowesifazane olungele kakuhle kwaye ontle amahle kakhulu, kuba kunomfazi ohlushwa ongakhange ahlambuluke. Kwaye xa umntu eyokwenza umsebenzi oguqulelwe kuye, kungekudala okanye kamva uya kuqonda ukuba kunzima kangakanani kuwe, kwaye unjani okwenzela intsapho yakho.
Dlala ngaphandle kokufikelela
Amadoda abazingeli, ngamanye amaxesha uncedo ukususwa kubo. Yiba mncinane, ungahlali okanye uhlale ixesha elide kwindawo egcwele indawo, udlala ngothando nabantu abasemphakathini. Uya kuba nomnqweno okhulayo kwaye akayi kulinda uze ube yedwa kunye naye.
Yenza inzondo
Abasetyhini babeka umgudu omkhulu ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba kwabo, xa belibala ngokwabo. Kwaye amadoda akhathazeki kakhulu ukuxelela umfazi ukuba ngowona uninzi kakhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuncoma kungalindelwa iminyaka.
Khawucinge ukuba kufuneka uchaze ngokwakho. Qala ngeempawu eziphezulu zezakhono kunye nezakhono, uze uhambe ngokubonakalayo kwimbonakalo. Kwaye uvakalelwa ubuncinane kwintonga. Kwaye awubi nakakhulu, kodwa ungcono kunabanye. Ngoko ke, indoda yakho inenhlanhla nawe.
Khumbula ukuba ungumfazi
Ewe, ubufazi bupholile. Kodwa musa ukulibala ukuba thina singabesini ngobuqili kunye nobuthathaka. Abafazi banomkhuba omubi-ukuthatha yonke imisebenzi. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, indoda ihlala kufuphi nawe kwaye kufuneka umyalele ukuba enze imisebenzi yasekhaya, ukunyanzzela isikhonkwane, kwaye ungenzi nto yonke. Musa ukuthwala zonke iingxowa kuwe, makumvumele umntu ohamba kufuphi nawe, kuba kufuneka kwaye kufuneka akukhathalele. Yaye ukuba wenza yonke into yakho, ngoko uya kutsala yonke loo mthwalo kuwe.
Abasetyhini bafanele batyhale, ukuba amadoda ayeke ukunyamekela nokuwaxabisa. Kubalulekile ukuphinda uqwalaselwe ngumntu, inkxalabo yakhe, ukucinga kwakhona ngemibono yakhe malunga nobudlelwane kunye nobomi.