Kwaye ke, umkhosi. Ngelishwa, akuyena wonke umntu onokuziphepha ixesha lokuphila kwakhe ukuze azuze ilizwe lakhe. Kuze kube oku kulungile, kusengumcimbi ophazamisayo, kodwa, nangona kunjalo, inyaniso ihlala. "Andiyazi ukuba ulinde umfana osuka emkhosini okanye akunjalo?" Lo mbuzo ucelwa inani elikhulu leentombazana, kodwa akuzona zonke ezibonakalayo ngokuvakalayo. Oku akumangalisi, kuba kungekhona ukulindela othandekayo kukungcatsha, okuza kugweba kakhulu. Kodwa ungathini ukuphepha iingxabano nokwenza okulungileyo?
Ukuba, emva kokuba iqabane lakho lifumene i-samani, umbuzo "awukwazi ukuba ulinde umfana osuka emkhosini" okanye "awuveli entloko, kufuneka uhlale phantsi ucinge ngokucophelela. Ewe, unokuqalisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba lo luhlobo oluhle kwaye unyaka wakho awuthethi nantoni na. Kodwa, ukuba uneminyaka elishumi elinesixhenxe okanye elishumi elinesibhozo ubudala, enyanisweni, lo nyaka unokuba luninzi kakhulu.
Ngokomzekelo, uya eyunivesithi, qalisa ukwenza abantu abaqhelana nabo kwaye kungenzeka ukuba phakathi kwabahlobo abatsha kuya kuba nomntu oza kukwazi ukutsala ingqalelo. Unokuyichasa? Ewe, zonke iintombazana zithemba ukuba abathandekayo babo bahlukile, bahluke, banona bekhethekileyo kwaye bahlakaniphile.
Kodwa ukuba singaboni umntu ixesha elide, uhlalutyo lwezenzo zakhe kunye nokuthelekiswa luqala ngokungabandakanyekanga, ngakumbi ukuba kukho into ekuthelekiswa nayo. Abantu abatsha ebomini bethu basenza sicinge ukuba sinokuxabisa kangakanani umthandayo.
Ukuba kunye nomfana oya emkhosini, ube nolwalamano oluqinileyo, ngoko akukho nto imangalisayo kukuba ubonakala ekhethekileyo kwaye ekhethekileyo. Kodwa ungakulibali ukuba ubomi buqala nje, kwaye mhlawumbi kwindawo ejikeleze ikona ulindele isigqibo sangempela, kwaye lo ngumntu olungileyo oya kuba yimemori enhle. Yingakho, cinga kwaye uzihlalutye, ufanise imeko e no kwenzeka kunyaka ozayo, ukuba ungenzi kumntu, ubuhlungu.
Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba awukwazi ukulinda - xelela ngoku kwangoko. Musa ukulinda usuku lokugqibela ngaphambi kokuhamba, njengoko oku kuza kubonakala ngathi kukuhleka. Thetha kumfana kwaye uchaze ingcamango yakho. Kakade, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kukhubeka aze aphule ubuhlobo. Ungamangaleli okanye umthukuthelele ngenxa yalokhu, kuba ulungile ngokupheleleyo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, mhlawumbi umfana uya kuba nako ukuxolela kwaye mhlawumbi kanye uya kukubulela ngokunyaniseka kwakho. Sekunjalo, inyaniso enenzondelelo ingcono kunamanga amnandi, njengokungathi abaninzi nabemi abaninzi beplanethi yethu babengenakuphikisana nale nto. Ngoko ke, ungazami ukucela ukuxolelwa okanye ukhuthaze ukuba uhlale ungumhlobo. Mane uhambe, uvumele umntu aphile kwintlekele yakhe, ayibalekele kwaye aqale ubomi obutsha ngaphandle kwakho.
Inokwenzeka ukuba, wena ngokwakho uya kumphosa okokuqala, kodwa ukuba, ngokukhawuleza, yonke into iqala ukulibala, ke qiniseka ukuba wenze into eyiyo kwaye ukhetha ubuncinane bonke ububi. Kodwa ukuba, emva kokuhlalutya zonke iimeko ezikhoyo kunye neemvakalelo zakho, waqonda ukuba usayithanda intombi yakho kwaye sele ukulungele ukumlinda ixesha elide - oko kuthetha ukuba olu buhlobo luthetha kakhulu kwaye maxa wambi ufanele uzincame izinto ezithile. Ngendlela, malunga namaxhoba.
Ukuba iqabane lakho likucela ukuba ungahambi kwindawo zokuzonwabisa ngonyaka kwaye wazi kakuhle abantu abatsha, ingakumbi abafana, bacinge ngako. Iinkcazo ezinjalo - inkcazo ecacileyo yokuba umfana akakuthembi, unomona kakhulu kwaye ufuna ukulawula ubomi bakho. Indoda esaneleyo ayiyi kubeka loo miqathango. Uyaqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba uhlala yinxalenye yoluntu apho kufuneka usebenze ngokugcwele, ukuze ungabikho. Ezi nkcazo, kwindawo yokuqala, zibonisa ukuba le ndoda ibuthakathaka kwaye idangele. Ukuqaphela ukuba emkhosini akayi kuba mnandi, ufuna ukwenza ubomi bakho buyimfutho, buze bube buhlungu. Abantu abanothando abanokwenza oko. Ngoko ke, sigqibo sokuba ulungele ukwakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nomntu onjalo. Ngendlela, akufanele uzinikezele ezo zithembiso ngokwakho, ukuba umfana akaceli.
Ngoku kubonakala kuwe ukuba ngaphandle kwayo awuyi kuba nomdla. Enyanisweni, umntu ngumntu oguqula. Kuya kuthatha iinyanga ezimbalwa uze usebenzise ubuhlobo ukusuka kude kwaye khumbula ukuba unokuzonwabisa ngaphandle kwayo. Ngako oko, kungcono ukuba uqaphele ngokukhawuleza ukuba awuyi kuba yindoda, ukuhlala ngefestile kwaye, ukulila imini nobusuku, uya kulindela ukuba abuyele. Uya kucinga ngako, khumbula, biza kunoma yimuphi ithuba elifanelekileyo, kodwa awuyi kunqaba ebomini bakho obuqhelekileyo. Umntu onothando uya kuqonda yonke into.
Kakade, umkhosi wamanje ngokucacileyo awuyiholide kwibala Ngangaphambili, iqabane lakho liya kufuna uncedo nenkxaso, ngakumbi kwiinyanga zokuqala. Kungenxa yoko, kufuneka uzame ukudibanisa naye kangangoko kunokwenzeka, ukumkhumbuza ukuba uyona nto ibhetele kwaye uyomelele, ukuba ulindele kwaye uyaqhayisa ngaye. Ukongezelela, zama ukumtyelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo njengoko uvunyelwe amathuba okwexeshana kunye nemali. Yiba nethemba lokuba intlanganiso uza kumnika amandla omtsha amandla kunye nokukhuthaza amandla. Ukuba ukhonza kwisixeko sakho - uye kuye kuye nawuphi na ithuba. Kwimizuzu emihlanu nawe iholide lejoni. Unyaka ngaphandle komthandayo unzima kakhulu. Kodwa, ungazivumeli ube lusizi kwaye ukhale. Uyakuqonda ukuba konke oku kuya kuphelela, le ntsha iya kubuya, kwaye ubomi buya kuphinda buqhume.
Ngoko ke, kufuneka nje ulinde kancane. Iqabane lakho limele libone kwaye live intombazana enamandla kwaye ekhulile, eyona nto iyayibuhlungu kuye, kodwa ayiyi kudimazeka kwaye ayithethi ngokuzibulala. Ukuba ungumntu onjalo, kuya kuba lula kumntu ukuba asindise umkhosi onzima kunye nokulindela ukubuyela ekhaya. Kwaye uzibuze imihla ngemihla ngesitayela: "Andiyazi ukuba umlinda umfana osuka emkhosini okanye akunjalo?" Akukho nto leyo, iingcamango ezinjalo ziya kukuphelisa ukuba uhlukane. Yintoni ke onokuzisola ngokubuhlungu ...