Kakade ke, intombazana enhle kakuhle neyintombazana isoloko ikhangisa abantu. Ngako-ke abafana bethu bahlelwe - bathanda amehlo. Kuba nayiphi na indima inendima ebalulekileyo idlala ngombono wabanye. Emva koko, amadoda ahlala ethanda ukuhlela uhlobo "lokuthintana", apho banquma khona kunye nokuba kuyafaneleka ukudibana nentombazana ethile. Ewe, le nto ayinakubizwa ngokuba ngumkhangeli kakhulu, kodwa ukuxhomekeka kubahlobo ngamanye amaxesha kumangalisa. Yingakho kufuneka uziphatha ngendlela enokuthi umntu akhathalele indlela abahlobo bakhe bakuphatha ngayo. Kodwa kungcono ukwenza ngokufanelekileyo ukuze bona bavuyiswe nawe. Kodwa indlela yokuziphatha ukuze loo nto ihlaseke ngam? Ngoko ukuba akaze abone nabani na kwaye awanamkele kuphela. Ngoko ke andizange ndibone ukukhanya kwakhe okubhaliweyo kubhekiswe kwintombazana ethile.
Abafana bathuka kakhulu xa intombazana ithetha kakubi ngeenkampani zabo. Yaye ukuba wenza okuchaseneyo? Ukuba wenza ubungane nabantu bakhe abasondeleyo kwaye ningayiqondi iintlanganiso zabantu? Into eyona nto ayikugqithisi intonga kwaye ingabi "mntakwenu" kwiqabane lakho. Abahlobo bakhe mabahlale bekhumbule ukuba uyintombazana, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo liphatha njengoko lihlobene nomhlobo. Ngokukhawuleza kubalulekile ukuba uqwalasele ukuba ukuba umntu uyinkampani engamangalisi, akufanele uzinyanzele kwaye ube ngumhlobo kunye nabo. Kodwa kwimeko apho abafana bethanda wena, unako ukuzinzisa udibanise nabo.
Kule meko, kulula kakhulu kula mabhinqa asetyenziswa kwiinkampani zabantu kwaye ngokukhawuleza azibandakanya nabo. Ezi ntombazana zinokuqhagamshelana nabantu abatsha ngeeyure ezimbalwa kwaye ekugqibeleni uba ngumhlobo wenene. Into ephambili akuyi kugoba intonga ukuze iqabane lakho lingabi nomona. Yaye unokuba nomona kwiimeko ezimbini: kubahlobo kunye nabahlobo kuwe. Kungabonakala kuwe ukuba unesihawu kumnye wabafana, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukuba abafana baqala ukukuqwalasela umhlobo ongcono kunabo. Ngoko ke, kule meko, qiniseka ukuba uzama ukunamathela kwixabiso legolide kwaye ugweme ukugqithisa. Ukuba wenza konke okulungileyo, inkampani yenkampani iya kukuphatha ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye xa kwenzeka oko kuya kumkhumbuza ukuba uyona mhle kwaye uyaphukisa intombazana enjalo ayikufanelekanga.
Bonke abafana bathanda abo bafazi abaziyo ukuxazulula iingxaki zabo, kwaye bahlale bexhomekeke kuncedo lwakhe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akufanele ube ngumfazi, ohlala ekhetha yonke into kwaye ecinga ukuba umntu uyaphantsi. Kodwa ukuba insizwa iyakubonisa kanye indlela yokutshintsha isondo kumatshini okanye ukufaka inkqubo yokusebenza kwikompyutha, zama ukukhumbula oku kwaye uzenze ngokwakho ngokuzayo. Abafana bayakuvuyela ukuqonda nokuxelela abanye ukuba intombi yakhe iyazi indlela yokwenza umfazi. Eentliziyweni, abaninzi abantu abanobugcisa becala bawacekisa abancinci abasetyhini abasoloko beba nengqondo yomntu kwaye banomuvo wokuthi ukungakwazi kwabo ukwenza into ethile yobugcisa kuseyihlazo. Yingakho xa wenza loo msebenzi ngokwakho, umntu uyaziqhenya ngawe, uzixelele ukuba emva kwakhe yindoda elumkileyo.
Ukuba ufuna umntu ukuba akuqonde, funda ukupheka. Ngomntu, ukukwazi kwakho ukumondla ngento ehle kakhulu kubaluleke kakhulu. Abafana banokuziqhayisa nabahlobo emsebenzini ukwenzela ukuba intanda yakhe ikwazi ukumondla ekhaya aze afake into enandi kwaye enelisayo ukusebenza. Ewe, kukho amadoda afuna ukupheka ngokwabo, kodwa awamkelekanga kwimithetho. Kwaye nokuba loo mntu, kubalulekile ukuba akwazi ukumkholisa kunye nolunye uhlobo lokutya. Sekunjalo, ungalibali ukuba "indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu ilele esiswini." Kwaye oku kuvela kwi-genotype. Ndiyavuma, enyanisweni, kwangaxesha elidlulileyo, ukukhawuleza nokuxakeka kwaba ngumzingeli ophethwe kakuhle. Nguye onokubamba nokufumana amaninzi amatsha, oku kuthetha ukufumana ukutya okwaneleyo nokunyusa intsapho.
Umfazi oyinyani ngumfazi, okokuqala, uyazi indlela yokuzithandayo. Yingakho, ukuba ufuna umntu ukuba ahlaziye ngawe, awukwazi ukukhalaza ngaso sonke isikhathi, ubomi bakho, umsebenzi, ukubonakala, kunye nokunye okuninzi. Yinto enye yokwabelana ngeengxaki kunye nolunye uqobo - ngokukhawuleza ukugubungela ukuba ubomi behlulekile, awukho mntu kwaye unokukubiza ngandlela-thile. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abafana bathanda ukukhusela amantombazana abo amahle, kodwa abayicombulule yonke ingxaki yabo kwaye bayithuthuzele ngenxa yezizathu. Unokuba ushubile ngaphandle, kodwa, ngelixa unentonga ngaphakathi. Kuphela nentombazana enamandla kwaye engokomoya inakho umntu kwaye unokufuna ukubopha ubomi bakhe. Hlalani nisoloko nithandana nonke. Yiyakwazi ukuzenzela izinto ezincinci kwaye ungavumi ukuba iingxaki zonakalise ubomi bakho kunye nomoya. Ukuba umntu uvakalelwa yinto enhle, evela kwintombi yakhe yentliziyo. Yena ngokwakhe uvakalelwa ngamandla kunye nomnqweno wokwenza into ebomini. Isigxina esisigxina siphendula kwaye sikwenza ucinge: kutheni ufuna le nto?
Naliphi na umntu efuna i-back back and support. Ungakhohlwa ukumkhumbuza ukuba uyamxabisa, uyamhlonela kwaye uyamxabisa. Kufuneka abe nomuvo wokuthi indlu yakhe isondele kuwe. Amadoda ayenamandla kuphela kunabesifazane. Kodwa ngokuziphatha bahlala bebuthathaka. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba umthandi wakho ungazifihla iingxaki, kwaye ngezinye iinyembezi, kufuneka aqondwe, axhaswe kwaye ancedwe kumzuzu onzima. Kwaye nababhali bezona zinzima kunokuqondwa. Umele uphulaphule uze ufunde phakathi kwemigca, oko kukuthi, ukuva phakathi kwamagama. Amadoda ethu athetha rhoqo ngeengxaki zabo, kodwa asikwazi ukuva nokuyiqonda. Kodwa ukuba intombazana ifunde ukuziva intanda yakhe inokuthi intuitively, ngokuzithandela okanye kungekhona, iya kumxabisa ngayo, inhlonipho nothando ngakumbi.
Amadoda anobuntu obuqinileyo. Ngako oko, ungazami ukuzivumelanisa nesoka lakho kuyo yonke into. Ukuvakalisa iingcinga zakho, xubusha. Kodwa musa ukuzimela ngenyameko ngokwakho, ungamkeli umbono wakhe uze udibanise amagama abo bathandekayo. Amadoda akhathaza kakhulu isidima sabo kwaye ezinjalo izenzo zinzima ukuba baxolele. Yiba njalo kwaye ungakhohlwa ngobulumko babasetyhini, ngoko uthando lwakhe ngawe aluyi kuze luphele.