Indlela yokusebenza ngokufanelekileyo kwimibutho yokuhlala ngokuzonwabisa

Akunandaba nokuba uqala ulwalamano okanye sele useneminyaka elinesibini kunye namava, ngokutsho koNjingalwazi weScience Psychology u-Alfred Hebert waseMunster, ukuba uthando lwakho luyaqiniswa, ukuvisisana kufuneka kube kwiindawo ezintlanu: ngokwesini, ngokumalunga nemali, ekunxibelelaneni, kwimilinganiselo yobomi , kwizicwangciso zekamva.

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Ngaba umanyano wakho ubuhle? Yomeleza
Ngenjongo yomeleza iindawo ezibuthathaka zobudlelwane bakho!

"Unamandla okwakhiwa kwesiseko, umanyano uya kuba namandla," uProfesa Gebert ukholelwa. Ngoko ke, qalisa ukugxila kwimimandla emithathu. Zama ukwandisa izinto ezibalulekileyo zomanyano wakho!

"Ingxenye yonyaka ixesha apho uthando luba yintando," kuchaza uAlfred Hebert. Ulwabelana ngesondo kunye nolonxibelelwano olungileyo zi-70% zobudlelwane obuqilileyo, kunye neembono eziqhelekileyo ngokubaluleka kokuphila, imali kunye nezicwangciso zekamva ezi-30% eziseleyo. Ukuba ufuna ukuvula umoya wesibini wothando lwakho, qwa lasela kwiindawo zesini kunye noqhagamshelwano.

Uthando lwakho alukude
Ukuze oko kwenzeke, phambi kweendleko ezinkulu, uzalise uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali ngokubanzi ukuqinisekisa ukusebenzisana ngokunyanisekileyo.

Ukungqubuzana rhoqo ngenxa yemali yinkathazo eqhelekileyo yezibini eziqala ubudlelwane obukhulu. Ingxaki kukuba unemibono eyahlukileyo kwimali. Ngokomzekelo, ulondoloza usuku lwemvula, kwaye uqokelela ii diski okanye ukuhamba. Omnye udinga imali ukuze azive ekhuselekile, umntu-ngenjongo yokukhulula, ubuncinane, umzekelo, ukuzifeza. Zama ukuthetha ngemali, ngokugqithisa inxalenye ebalulekileyo. Esikhundleni sokuba "Kutheni ufuna iifowuni ezintathu?" Buza: "Ngaba le nto iyakwenza ube nolonwabo?" Ngoko uya kuhamba, ufikelele emacaleni kwaye uvumele ukuba azi ukuba unendaba nokuphila kwakhe kuqala.

Ngenxa yokungavumelani kwimicimbi yeemali, kunokwenzeka ukuba kukho ukuphikisana. "Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kwenzekayo xa iqabane elinye liqala ukufumana ubuncinane," kusho umphathi wezemali uKatyrin Zundermayer. - Akafuni ukwabelana ngebhonasi yakhe kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ugcina uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali luphantsi kolawulo. Kwimeko enjalo, iqabane elinemivuzo elincinci liziva lincinci kwaye ludinga ngaphantsi. Indlela elula kunye neyona ndlela efanelekileyo yokwabiwa kwemali yimali ebini, ixabiso kunye neyakhe: isixa esithile siya kwiindleko ezidibeneyo, kwaye umntu ngamnye uya kuhlawula imali yakhe ngokwemigwebo yakhe.

Ngesondo
Ngokwezifundo zeYunivesithi yaseGrouttingen, i-30% yezibini ezonwabileyo zinokuphucula ubomi babo besondo xa bebelana ngeengcamango zabo kunye neqabane. Imfesane eyaziwayo kakhulu isondo apho ungabonwa khona: kwimoto okanye eluphahleni lwendlu.

Ukuze uzive unelisekile ngokupheleleyo, awunayo ngokwaneleyo! "Ngamanye amaxesha ngesondo kufuneka ubonise umnqweno wokulinga, kodwa i-80% kufuneka iqulethe imigaqo eqhelekileyo," ucebisa uHebert. Unokuzama iimpahla ezintsha okanye uzame "amathoyizi" kunye neeblue.

Ukuba usendleleni yokuya kwesondo, uya kuncedwa yintetho evulekile. Phakathi kweibinibini, kukho uluvo lokuba into emnandi kukuba yinto ekhangayo kuphela, inkolelo! "Utshutshiso lwamaDala ubomi bonke-umphumo womsebenzi oqhubekayo". Iseluleko sika-Alfred: uthetha ngesondo njengomfazi onyanzelekile, njengokuya kwi-movie. Mhlawumbi lixesha lokutshintsha umdlalo we-thriller?

NoNxibelelwano
Unokuthetha malunga nento yonke, kwaye kuyamangalisa! Eli gunya lenza ukuba ubuhlobo bakho bunyuke ngokukhawuleza kuyo yonke into. Omnye "kodwa": musa ukumisa yonke into, iingxaki ezinjengeenkcazo ezingenangqondo kufuneka zibhalwe ngokufutshane kwaye zilibale.

Eyesibhozo kwezibini ezilishumi ziyahlukana ngenxa yokuba amaqabane athetha kancinci: ngokwemitha engaphantsi kwesine kweyure ngosuku - uxwayisa uAlfred Hebert. - Kuninzi kuxhomekeke kwisihloko sencoko. Abasetyhini baninzi abaqhelana nabo, kunye namadoda malunga nomsebenzi, ezemidlalo kunye nobuchwepheshe. Iingcebiso zengcali: intetho engaphantsi kwenkunkuma kunye nempahla engaphezulu! Ngokomphando, ukuthetha ngamaphupha okanye iinkumbulo kwenza izibini zivuyiswe.

Ukunxibelelana kwakho akuvelisi ngenxa yokungaqondi. Ngaphambi kokuba iqabane lakho, i-alas, inxalenye kuphela yento othethayo iza kuwe, kwaye wena ngokwakho usichaze ngokungahambi kakuhle amagama akhe amfutshane, amacandelwana. "Jikela kuye," icebisa isazi sengqondo. - Zama ukuqulunqa iingcamango ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo, njengokungathi yi-CMC: "Masihambe namhlanje kwiibhozo ezisibhozo?" Okanye "Ndifuna la manqaku ngomhla wokuzalwa!". Yaye xa uphulaphule, zama ukunyamekela kwaye ungesabi ukubuza kwakhona: kuya kuxhomekeka kulo, esi sibini siya kuvela ukuba sibe yeyakho. "

Iimpawu zoBomi
Wena uyingqinga efanayo! "Kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba ushiye i-sharpshooters ezimbini," cebisa isazi sengqondo. Izinto zakho zokuzilibazisa ziza kwenza ubomi bakho budibanise kunye kwaye buhluke.

Into ephambili - ayeke ukuxabana ngaphezu kwezinto ezintle. Kukho uluvo lokuba abantu abanothando bayalinganisa imihla ngemihla bahlala kwindawo yokujonga izinto ezincinane zansuku zonke. Singabesifazana, sivavanya ubudlelwane "obuvela ngaphakathi", ukugqamisa ukunyamekela nokuqwalasela, kunye namadoda - "ngaphandle", ukuqwalasela ukuziphatha nokugcina ixesha. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuhlola okuhlukeneyo kobudlelwane kubangela ukuxabana. Vumelana nayo yonke into kusengaphambili, ukuxubusha kunye nexesha lokulibaziseka, kwaye ngubani owancedayo ekhitshini.

"Inyaniso yokuba amaqabane afanelekileyo afumaneke ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nokuphatha izinto ezifanayo ngolu hlobo," uHebert uthi. -50% efanayo kunye no-50% umahluko - ibhalansi efanelekileyo. " Kodwa isimo sengqibelelo sokunyaniseka, ukunyaniseka nokuthembela yizinto ekufuneka ufanele ukufana ngazo. Yisiseko santoni na.

Izicwangciso zekamva
Izicwangciso ezihlangeneyo zenza umanyano wakho unamandla kakhulu, "watsho. Kodwa zama ukutshala imali yakho kwiminye imihla, izinto ezilula, njengokuhamba ngeveki okanye ipiknikini kwintsi.

Uzinikezela ngamaphupha malunga nekamva, kodwa akahluli. Iingcali zathi: "Mhlawumbi malunga nexesha." - Abasetyhini bahlala becwangcisa bonke ubomi babo kwaye baphendule yonke imibuzo ebalulekileyo, njengezindlu, umtshato, abantwana. Kodwa ukuba izicwangciso ezicacileyo zomntu kuthetha ukuyeka yonke into. " Ngokwezi-polls, bonke abesithathu abasabelana ngesondo oluqinileyo bayaxhala. Mnike ixesha. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngexesha lolwalamano, izicwangciso zexesha elizayo zivele ziziqu.

Awufuni ukucwangcisa ikamva lakho! Ngesiqingatha sonyaka wobudlelwane oku kusemvelo: abathandi baxakeke kakhulu kangangokuba abakwazi ukucinga nantoni na enye into. Kodwa ukuba uhlala kunye ixesha elide, ngoko ke ukusilela kwezicwangciso kuyinto evamile. "Mhlawumbi kuwe ezimbini zikho ukwesaba ukukhohliswa," kuchaza isazi sengqondo. Ixesha lokuthatha isigqibo, kuba ngubani ongathinteli - akaphuzi i-champagne! Akukho konke okufunekayo ukutshata ngokukhawuleza ukukhulisa abantwana: Yintoni ebalulekileyo kukuba ufuna ukuba kunye kunye nokusebenza ngobudlelwane bakho.