Imvakalelo
Nantsi intombazana ehlala rhoqo kwi-rake efanayo, yenza iimpazamo ezifanayo, kodwa inelisekile yonke imincili kwaye inandipha ubomi. Kubonakala kuwe ukuba "uhlala kwaye uphefumlela isifuba esipheleleyo," uyavuya kuyo yonke iminithi emnandi kwaye wenza konke okulungileyo, oko kuyimfuneko ukuba senze. Siyambona ujabule kunye nomtsha, njengoko ekhanya ngaphakathi. kunye namaphupha. Kodwa xa intliziyo yakhe iphukile kwakhona, ucinga: ubububupho bubukeka buvela ngaphaya. Kutheni ehlupheka kangaka? Kutheni ongenakukwazi ukuthatha ngesandla, kuba wonke umntu wenza njalo, kwaye kubonakala ngathi akunzima. Imizwelo ebusweni bakhe iyatshintsha enye emva komnye, ibuye ihlupheke, kwakhona iphinde ihambe. Yaye xa kufika ithuba elilandelayo, uyithatha ngokuqinileyo.
Ngaba uye wafumana amatyala xa wenza izinto eziphambene nabanye? Abazange baphulaphule abazali abahlala bekhokelela ngombono othile, kodwa ngaba wenzayo ngendlela yakho? Okanye xa uthe wawachasene nabasemagunyeni, imigaqo-jikelele, kunye neemfuno zabo kunye nezicwangciso? Kuba befuna oko? Kwimeko nganye yezi ziko, ngokuqinisekileyo wenza ukuphulaphula iimvakalelo zakho. Kwaye kunokwenzeka, nangesiqingatha sale matyala, bazisola ngezenzo zabo.
Yaye nangona iimvakalelo zisoloko zisisilela, siya kubuyela kuye ngokuphindaphindiweyo, senza umququzelelo, sijonge, siphonsa izicwangciso zeminqweno yethu. Siyakhupha, siwa, siphinde siphile siphinde siphile. Kulo hlobo lomntu, zive. Kwaye nokuba ukhetha ukwethemba kuphela ingqondo yakho - iya kuba yinto yokukhohlisa, ngenxa yokuba umntu akanakuphila ngaphandle kwemvakalelo. Ngaba unokwethenjelwa ngabaphathi, abazange bapende iiplani kunye neengcamango zabo, ngamnye wethu unobuthathaka kunye "neengcinga". Wonke umntu kufuneka enze iimpazamo ngezinye izihlandlo, enze izenzo ezingenangqondo ukuze azive ephila.
Iimvakalelo zinokuzikhethela zombini umntu obuthathaka kakhulu kwaye unamandla kakhulu. Xa iimvakalelo zikhethwa ngumntu obuthathaka - oku kukubandezeleka iminyaka emininzi. Ezi zibuthathaka, iinkcukacha ezingavumeli ukuba siphile. Lo ngumfazi ongeke akhiphe umyeni wakhe-utywala ngenxa yokuncedisa kunye nokuphazamiseka. Le meko amaninzi xa iimvakalelo zisithintela ekwenzeni ukhetho olubaluleke kakhulu, zisisicathulo, ziphikisa ubomi. Imvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo akufanele ziveze iintlungu. Ukuba sikhetha iimvakalelo kwaye siphumelele kulolu khetho - kukho into engalunganga.
Ngexesha elifanayo, iimvakalelo zingaba ngumntu onamandla kakhulu. Kungenxa yokuba xa sithemba iimeko zethu - sizithemba. Kukhethwa umntu othembekileyo ophila ngokuvisisana nehlabathi lakhe langaphakathi. Isizathu asisoloko sikhethiweyo, kodwa ukhetho lwendalo, uluntu, ukhetho olwenziwe ngabanye abantu phambi kwethu nokubeka le ngcamango kuthi. Umntu othembela iimvakalelo zakhe akaenzi iimpazamo kuzo. Emva koko, konke okusemqoka kolu khetho, ukuze ungazisoli kwaye uqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo ngokuchaneka kwecala. Iimvakalelo zikhethwe ngabantu ngabanye kunye nobunzima obuqinileyo, kuba bayazi indlela yokuzibonakalisa ngokwabo kunye nokokuthethayo kwihlabathi. Emva koko, ekugqibeleni, iimvakalelo ze-ietik ezenza abantu kwaye zizalise ubomi bethu ngenjongo.
Ingqondo
Umntu unezakhe "izono", iimpazamo kunye namathandabuzo. Ngamnye wethu ngomzuzwana othile uphonsa "umphefumlo-bhinqa", ukhulula iintlekele, unceda ukuqonda imeko kunye nokuyibeka. Kukho abantu abajonga ingqondo engumncedisi omkhulu kuzo zonke iingxabano zobomi. Emva koko, iimvakalelo zihlala zifake iinqununu, zisishukumisele ukuba sibe nobugovu kwaye sizikhethele kwi-naturenootolatki yethu. Iimvakalelo zincinci kumntwana ongenomdla, kuthi ufuna ukuzalisekisa. Ingqondo ngumntu omdala ohlala emncinci kumntwana. Ngaphezu koko, izicwangciso kunye nezigqibo ezinolwazi zisinceda sigweme iimpazamo ezininzi.
Kodwa ukuba uceba yonke into kwangaphambili, kungekudala okanye kamva ungatshisa. Abantu abanika izixazululo zokuqiqa banxhala, besaba ukwenza into engalunganga, ukulahlekelwa, ukwenza iimpazamo. Ukuthembela kwakho "mna" ngokuqhelekileyo kuncedo, kunye nokuphulaphula i-whims zangaphakathi. Enye indlela ibangela uxinzelelo, ukukhungatheka nokuxabana. Xa ukhetha ingqondo kusasa okanye emva kwexesha, uyaqonda ukuba elinye icala lentshukumo nokuvakalelwa kukushiya kwaye awusakwazi ukuva nokuva. Ngoku kwiimeko ezintle kwaye ezimnandi, ingqondo kunye nokuhlalutya kuya kuhlangulwa. Kwaye ngoku uyasitshela: "Yonke into ihle, yonke into imnandi. Kodwa kutheni ndivakalelwa kangaka? "
Harmony ngaphakathi kwethu
Kakade, akukho mntu unokukhetha indlela eyodwa - ukuhlala ngesizathu okanye kwivakalelo. Siyaqonda ukuba kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kuyafaneleka ukuphulaphula ngalinye lala maqela. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, awanjalo nje njengabalandeli njengathi? Nini ukukhetha ingqondo, kwaye xa ivakalelwa? Enyanisweni, ababi kakhulu. Ngamava kuza ukuvumelanisa, kunye nokuvumelana kunye nezigqibo ezichanekileyo eziya kunceda ukudibanisa iimpendulo zecandelo ngalinye, zilinganise iimpendulo zakho kunye neminqweno, kodwa uhlalutye imeko kwaye uqwalasele ngokufanelekileyo imeko. I-Intuition iza kusitshela ukuba yiliphi icala eliya kuphulaphula. Kwaye nangona senza iimpazamo, abanye baya kusigxeka, into eyona nto ikhethekileyo. Ungesabi iindlela ezintsha kunye nezisombululo, kufuneka uqiniseke ngokuzikhethela kwakho, ungazivumelani nawe uze uthembe intliziyo yakho okanye ingqondo yakho. Kungcono ukufunda kwiimpazamo zakho kunokuphulaphula iingcebiso zabanye.