Uthando lokuqala ... Ngomntu uyintando, iintyatyambo, izibongo ezintle, iingoma kunye negita phantsi kwenyanga. Kwabanye - iinyembezi, amava, iintlungu, ubusuku obude kunye namaphupha angazalwanga. Kodwa kwabo, nakwabanye, uthando lokuqala luvakalelo olungalibalekiyo olungenakucinywa kwimemori. Kodwa kutheni kunjalo? Kutheni siyilibala into eninzi, kodwa kungeyena owamthanda kuqala?
Ukucoceka kwengqondo
Xa sithandana kuqala, asazi into edidayo kulo mvakalelo. Kithi, phantse bonke abafana bahle. Kwaye nokuba ngaba zimbi, ziza kutshintsha ngenxa yothando kwaye zibe ziinkosana ezintle. Ngesihlandlo sokuqala sithandana ngokusemncinci, ngoko-ke asikwazi ukuhlola ngokulinganisela ama-candidatures, ungacingi ngekamva, ungacingi ngethemba. Uthando lokuqala lufana nenkolelo yenkcazelo yamagama. Icocekile kwaye ingenangqondo yokuba umntu unemivakalelo emihle. Ngaphandle kokuba uthando lwethu lokuqala lungonwabi, vseravno uvuyo ngokuva uvakalelwa kukuba umntu ngaphambili wayengazi, uyayithintela intlungu. Kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha, izinto ezilungileyo kuphela zihlala zithanda uthando lokuqala. Yaye ukuba azintle kakuhle, ahlala ekhunjulwa ukulibala. Uthando lo kuqala luguqula ubomi bomntu wonke. Yona ke ngoko sikhula, kodwa uvakalelo lufakwe kwizinto ezimsulwa kwaye zingenasiphako ngumhlobo kunye nokungcatsha komphefumlo.
Sifuna ukuthanda uthando lwethu lokuqala. Kodwa kuyaziwa ukuba abantu bathambekele ukukhumbula okulungileyo kwaye bayalibale into embi. Yaye ukuvakalelwa kwintando, okuyiyo ingcungcutheko, kusengcono, kuba nangona kunjalo, ubuncinane ubuncinane ixesha elithile umntu uqobo lwakhe uyasuka kwiimvakalelo eziphazamisayo, utyhila into entsha, uzame aze afinyelele phezulu. Uthando luyabakhuthaza ngokwenene, ngakumbi okokuqala. Emva koko, sikholelwa ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuhlala ngaphandle kothando, ukuba kunye nabathandekayo beparadesi kunye nendlu, ukuba xa wade wathandana, unaphakade.Ngoko nangona emashumi eminyaka kamva sikhumbula uvakalelo lokuqala ngomfudumalo Xa umntu ethanda okokuqala, mhlawumbi, ininzi yazo yonke imbula umphefumlo onzima kunazo zonke, uvakalelwa, unothando, uvakalelwa. Kamva siqala ukuphazamiseka kwaye sele sizama ukungazivumeli iimvakalelo ezinjalo. Kodwa ukugqithisa kunamandla kunazo zonke ze-adrenaline kugcinwa kwimemori yomntu wonke. Kwaye uthando lokuqala luqhubela phambili i-adrenaline, kuba ukuvakalelwa kukutsha, okhethekileyo. Yaye yonke into efunyenweyo emphefumlweni wethu isenza sibe nolwandle oluzama nathi ngonaphakade.
Ngokuqala, kwiklasi yokuqala
Yonke into esiyibonayo, ukuva, ukuva okokuqala ngethuba, nangona uvakalelwa iimvakalelo ezinzulu, uhlala kwimemori yethu ngokukhawuleza.Elowo nalowo waya esikolweni okokuqala ngqa, okokuqala ngqa waya olwandle, kuqala waya ezintabeni. Khumbula, yonke yakho "okokuqala." Ngamnye ukhumbula le nto into ekhethekileyo, into engavamile. Emva koko, xa sifika kwisikolo esifanayo kwiminyaka elishumi, sibonakala sihluke ngokupheleleyo kwinto yokuqala. Kodwa lo mqondo wokuqala esiwukhumbulayo. Oku kwenzeka nangothando lokuqala. Ngethuba lokuqala sibona kwaye sivakalelwa ngakumbi, sinokuthi siphuthele, kuba asiyazi yonke "imigibe" yothando. Ngenxa yoko, iimvakalelo zethu zokuqala ziyakhunjulwa. Xa umntu ethanda okokuqala, ubona into ebonakalayo njengento ekhethekileyo kwaye eqonda yonke into ngendlela ekhethekileyo, encinci nje ngefayile. Ewe, iimvakalelo zakhe zokuqala zihluke kakhulu kwezi zinto zilandelayo. Emva koko, xa uthanda, umntu uhlala ehlawulela iimvakalelo zakhe ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ahlalutye iingcamango zokucinga kunye neengcamango zengqondo nje, kungenxa yoko azingabikho okukhunjulwayo. Ngethuba lothando lokuqala, abantu ngokuqhelekileyo abacingi ngeentloko zabo kwaye bavumela intliziyo ukuba ibenze isigqibo. Yaye intliziyo ikhupha izinto ezintle ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuzikhumbula ngokubanzi. Uthando lokuqala, eqinisweni, lusekelwe kwiimvakalelo zokuqala zalolu hlobo. Ekubeni yonke yokuqala iyona nto ibalulekileyo kwaye iyimfuneko, inkumbulo yabantu iyakhumbula kwaye igcine yonke into. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uthando lokuqala aluyi kudideka kakhulu, kuba umntu angakwazi ukulimala kwaye ayikwazi ukuvula ngokupheleleyo intliziyo yakho kwaye uzivumele uthanda. Ukuba uthando lokuqala luhlambulukile kwaye lukhanyayo, nangona kungekudala, ukukhumbula ngalo, umntu uqhubeka ekholelwa ekuhambeni okusemandleni ukufumana isibini esifanelekileyo, engafuni ukucinga ukuba le ntlungu ivelisa kuphela insalela.
I-Pre-Taste Adventure
Uthando lokuqala olukhunjulwayo nangenxa yokuba kuyinto ekhethekileyo ye-fairy adventure, egcwele iziza kunye nokuvuma okungalindelekanga. Oku emva kweminyaka, ngamnye wethu uyaqonda ukuba zonke izenzo zincinci. Kodwa ke, ukuba sisisulu esilungileyo kwaye singenalwazi, sibona zonke iziganeko ngokukhanya okuhluke ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba le ntombazana iphunyuleka kwindlu ngokuhlwa ukuze ihlangabezane nale nkwenkwana, ubuncinane uvakalelwa njengowomncinci oye waphuma kwinqaba ukuze ahlangabezane neenkosana zakhe ezithandayo okanye umphangi onamandla. Xa inkwenkwe ilwa okokuqala ngenxa yentombazana, ivakalelwa njengegosa okanye umphangi okhusela umthendeleko wakhe emqaleni kunye nemimoya emibi efuna ukuphazamisa ubuqaqawuli bakhe nobuhle. Oku ke siqala ukuqonda ukuba ukuhamba emadeni amnyama akukhokelela kuyo nayiphi into emihle, kwaye ukulwa kunokuphelisa kakhulu. Kwaye xa siyiqonda loo nto, yinto yonke yezinto ezincinci, izenzo ezinyanisekileyo. Ukuthanda okokuqala, sivakalelwa kwaye sibona yonke into ngokusebenzisa i-prismatic yolimalism yolutsha, ngenxa yento yonke into ebonakalayo iyona, iyomelele, ibuhlungu ngakumbi. Kule meko, amantombazana namakhwenkwe abazange balibale iimidlalo kunye neentlanga, xa umthi ube yindlu yangempela, ama-vampires ahlala kwiigaraji, kwaye ukuchithwa kwemigangatho kwintendelezo kwakumele kubonwe yi-labyrinths enamandla. Kungenxa yoko, okokuqala ngothando, abantu badibanisa iimvakalelo zabo ngeengcamango zabo zengqondo, ezingakalungi ukulibala kwaye zishiye ebuntwaneni. Ngenxa yalolu hlobo, uthando lokuqala lubonwa njengengqayizivele ekhethekileyo, njenge-adventure ekhethekileyo, apho kukho okwenzekayo okungeke kwenzeke, into engayi kuphinda iphinde ivele kwakhona. Kwaye njengokuba sikhumbula iimbali zamathando zethu kunye nemidlalo, sikhumbula umdlalo wethu omdala wokuqala-uthando lokuqala.