Okokuqala, ufuna ukuqala ngeengcebiso ezithile, cingisisa, ufuna ukuthanda umyeni wakho kwakhona? Emva koko, ukuba iimvakalelo ziphelile ngonaphakade, le ntlambo ayiyi kukhanya. Awunakuphinda uthandane kwakhona, kodwa ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba yonke into ayilangaze ukuphela, kwaye awufuni ukulahlekelwa yimiva ngonaphakade, ngoko kubonakala ngathi kukufanelekile ukuzama. Ngoko, makhe sibone oko singakwenza ukuthanda umyeni wethu kwakhona.
Buyela kwimvelaphi yobudlelwane bakho.
Konke ehlabathini kunesiqalo, yonke imifudlana inayo nayiphi na indlela, injalo uthando lwakho. Mhlawumbi, ukuba kwakhona ukuba uthandane nomyeni wakho, kufuneka ubuyele kwiindawo apho wawusekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho. Thatha ukuhamba epakini apho uqala ukuwanga khona, uye kwikhafeze apho akugxotha khona. Kwakhona, cwangcisa uhambo oluthile ukuya kwindawo ohlala kuyo. Mhlawumbi indawo apho yonke into iqalile, iya kuphinda ivule iimvakalelo zakho kumyeni wakho!
Fumana umntu omtsha kumyeni.
Kule minyaka, ungasetyenziselwa kwaye uphelelwe yinto yonke, kwintanda yakho. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba akukho nto entsha kulo mntu, zama ukujonga umyeni wakhe ngenye indlela! Fumana ezo mpawu ongazange uzibonise kwaye ungazibandakanyi ukubaluleka. Emva koko, ukuba unako ukuyeka ukuthanda umyeni wakho omdala, mhlawumbi unokuthanda entsha! Mhlawumbi intsha, oku kuyona nto uyifunayo, eyayiyathanda kwakhona. Emva koko, ngamanye amaxesha siphila ecaleni, kodwa ngelo xesha asiboni nto ebalulekileyo malunga nomntu. Zama ukufumana kwindoda entsha namacandelo.
Yilungisa into ecasulayo kumyeni wakhe.
Kwenzeka ukuba ezo mpazamo, ezingazange zithobele ingqalelo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, emva kweminyaka iqala ukucaphukisa kakubi kwaye ibulale imizwa ngqo. Ezi zinto zaqala ukubonakala zilungile kwaye zingabangela ukuba ukungabi nantoni emva kweminyaka kunokunyusa. Kubuhlungu, kodwa kuyinyaniso. Ukuze ususe le nto engalunganga ebuhlotsheni, thetha nomyeni wakho, xelele ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba ulahlekise iimpazamo zakho, ukuba oku kuchaphazela iimvakalelo ezimbi. Akunjalo ukuba indoda iya kukuqonda ngokukhawuleza kwaye iyavuma, kodwa ekugqibeleni, kubonakala kum ukuba unako ukwenza imibingelelo enjalo ngenxa yothando lwakho.
Ukuqhekeka okufutshane.
Umgama kunye nexesha liyinto enomdla, ngamanye amaxesha bayenza imimangaliso nabantu kunye neemvakalelo. Kwaye kwakubonakala ngathi kuwe i-bonfire epholile, apho i-ash ash, emva kweveki ezine ihlala yedwa kwindlu yokuhlalisa yedwa kunye nendalo, okanye enye into) ngaphandle kokuthintana nomyeni wayo, emva kokubuya kwakhona kutshaya ngokutsha uthando. Ngokungafani nebhodi yokuqala, apho unamenywa ukutyelela kunye, bhetele kungcono ukwenza okuhlukile. Umyeni wam naye unokucetyiswa ukuba aye kummiselo ukuba ahambe. Emva koko, akukho nto ilungileyo yokuvuselela iimvakalelo kunokuba uphumule omncinci.
Njengoko ubona, zikho iindlela ezimbalwa kunye neengcebiso zokuthandana nomyeni wakho kwakhona okanye unikeze umfutho omtsha ekudlelaneni. Kodwa ndifuna ukuphinda ndiphinde ndigxilise kwinto yokuba yonke ingqiqo kuphela kwimeko apho bobabini phakathi kwenu kunye naso kukho ukutshatyalaliswa kwentangabi yexesha elidala. Ngaphandle koko, uzama ukuqhuma kumalahle aqholiweyo kunye nama-grey kwaye awuyi kuzuza nantoni na. Kungenxa yesi sizathu sokuba nayiphi na isenzo kule meko kufuneka siqale, okokuqala, ngokuqonda okucacileyo, ingaba konke oku kunengqiqo.