Kutheni abaninzi abafazi bengakwazi ukuqonda ingxaki yomlutha wothando?
Ngokutsho kwengcaciso engokwengqondo, eli gama elithi "umlutha wothando" luyisifo sengqondo, apho iindawo eziqhelekileyo abameli bezesondo ezibuthathaka zihlupheka. Kungenxa yabasetyhini ukuba iimvakalelo eziye zavela kumntu zithandana kakhulu, kwaye zifumana umbala ohluke ngokupheleleyo oxhomekeke ekuxhomekeke kwindoda kumntu. Kule ngxaki apho ibhinqa liqonda ukuba lithembele ngokupheleleyo kwintanda yakhe kwaye ayikwazi ukwenza nantoni na kule meko. Kodwa indoda, njengomthetho, ayikho yonke inzondelelo yokuziphosa "kwi-whirlpool kunye nentloko" kwaye izinikele ngokupheleleyo kwiimvakalelo kunye nemizwelo, engenakuthiwa ngomfazi. Ngaloo mzuzwana, isini esibuthakathaka asinakukwazi ukuyiqonda: kutheni indoda ethandekayo yaqala ukuzidela, thintela iintlanganiso kunye nezingxoxo ezingenangqiqo. Eli bhinqa liqala "ukubetha iintya zakhe eludongeni", kwaye yonke into ukuze iphume kwimeko. Esinye isizathu esibalulekileyo sokuba intombi iwele ekuxhomekeke kwimeko enjalo kukuba ubulili obubuthakathaka bubaluleke kakhulu kuyo yonke into evakalelwa ngayo, kwaye ininzi yazo zonke iimvakalelo abazifaka kwezobudlelwane nobulili obuhlukile. Ewe, amadoda, njengomgaqo, athambekele ekunikeleni ingqwalasela engakumbi kwiqabane lesini ngobudlelwane. Yingakho iimbono zibonakala kakhulu - kunye namantombazana ashiywe ngaphandle koko ahlupheke ngenxa yokuxhomekeka kwothando.
Uthando luxhomekeke njani kuthando?
Ibhinqa ukuze wenze indoda ibe yinto efanelekileyo kunye nenjongo yento yonke, ixesha elide. Kodwa kumntu ukuze uqonde ukuba lo mfazi unentsingiselo yobomi, kuthatha okungaphezu konyaka omnye. Yingakho abafazi baxhomekeke kubuhlobo babo nabafazi babo. Ngoko intsingiselo yobomi kunye "nomoya", ngaphandle kokungekho ukuphefumula nokuphila, indoda iya kuba yinkwenkwe ngokukhawuleza kwaye ingekho ncamango iingcinga ezingadingekile - kwaye oku, mhlawumbi, yingxaki enkulu yokuxhomekeka. Oku konke kuqhubezela le nkosikazi ukuba unomnqweno omkhulu wokuphucula ubudlelwane kunye nekhwenkwe yakhe, idibanise, ihambele kwisigaba esitsha ngokupheleleyo kunye negosa, kwaye ikhuselekile ngokukhawuleza. Ngendlela, konke oku kuhambisane nenqanaba elipheleleyo, elincinci, ukungaqondi kakuhle imeko kunye nokungakholelwa kwinto yokuba le ndoda ayikho enye into eyayiyiyo kunye nentando yalo lonke ubomi. Ukukwazi ukubeka iliso nokuqonda imeko yowesifazane olahlekelwa ngokupheleleyo.
Izizathu eziphambili ezibangela uthando lomlutha.
Ingxaki yokuxhomekeka kwemithwalo yemvakalelo ixhomekeke kwimeko yokuba ukugula kunzima kakhulu ukunyanga kwaye, ukuba siyawuqhathanisa nezinye izilingo zabantu, kuya kubakho ngokucacileyo ukuba le "sigulo" sinamandla kunabo bonke. Ngelishwa, kule meko kukho akukho nto imishishini yomphefumlo kunye nesigxina samantombazana. Ngoko ukuxhomekeka kunako ukumbamba ngokupheleleyo umntu kunye nokulawula ixesha elide engqondweni yakhe, ukunyanzelisa njengomntu. Ukukrazula le mvakalelo ephosakeleyo, okokuqala, kunzima kuba ixhamle ngokupheleleyo kwicala le-semantic yobomi bomntu. Emva kwakho konke, ngokunyanisekileyo ngothando nomntu, siqala ukwenza izicwangciso ngekamva. Kodwa ngenye indlela umfazi ufumanisa ukuba izicwangciso zakhe azihambelani nembono kwixesha elizayo lomyeni wakhe. Yilapho umfazi eqala ukufumana ukwesaba, uqala ukuzitshintsha, uzame ukufumanisa konke akufumaniyo kunye neentoni zakhe eziphambili. Konke oku kukhokelela ekucaciseni rhoqo kunye nokuqinisekisana kobudlelwane kunye nentanda, kwaye ngenxa yoko, lona wesifazane ungena kwindawo evaliweyo, apho kungekho ndlela yokuphuma kuyo.
Iimpawu zokuxhomekeka.
Ukuxhomekeka koMthando, njengazo zonke ezinye izixhomekeko, zineenkcukacha ezicacileyo kunye nezibonakaliso kuphela. Ibhinqa liguqula ngokupheleleyo indlela yakhe yokuziphatha kunye nesimo sengqondo kumntu. Uhlala ezama ukubonakalisa into kuye, achaze aze amlandele "ezintendeni", naphi na apho aye khona. Kwakhona, kukho ukuguquguquka kwemizwelo ehambelana nokuguquguquka ngokukhawuleza kwintliziyo evuyoleyo ekuphelelwe ithemba. Kwaye, eqinisweni, emncintiswaneni wephupha lakhe, umfazi ulahlekelwa yinto yokuzithemba.
Ukulahla isilwanyana ngeleta "L".
Ingxaki yonke kukuba kulula kwaye unokukhawuleza ukunqoba ukuxhomekeka kwakho - oku kuyinto embi. Iyeza eliphambili apha likwazisa. Umntu kufuneka aqonde kwaye aqonde ukuba lo xho mekeke kuye kumgangatho kwaye ufuna uncedo lwengqondo. Ngoko, kule meko, umntu onomlutha unokuncedisa yena ngokwakhe, ezama "ukubulala" ngaphakathi kwakhe ezi mpendulo kwaye abukele imeko ebonakalayo eyahlukileyo.