Ubukho bothando, kuquka ukudibanisa, buxutyushwa ngamaxesha onke ngamaqhawe adumile, abalobi beprose, abafilosofi kunye "nabafayo abaqhelekileyo" kwinkampani yabangane abasondeleyo. Kodwa bambalwa kuphela abanokukwazi ukuthetha ngalo mbandela. Abo badibana nothando lwabo kunye nabo bahlala naye iminyaka emininzi. Ngethamsanqa, sisabona izibini ezitshatileyo ezihamba kwiipaki eziphethe izandla. Kwaye basinika ithemba lokuba ngamnye kuthi uya kudibana naye omnye okanye omnye ngomnye.
Ungayifumana njani uthando kunye nokuqonda ukuba iyabelana?
Fumana uthando-isiqingatha semfazwe. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumana uthando olufanayo. Yiyiphi isiseko esiqinileyo sobudlelwane obude, obonwabileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kuvela ngokungalindelekanga, njengeyokuqala kwekhephu ekuqaleni kwentwasahlobo. Awubhekanga kuye, kodwa uhamba ehlathini, awukwazi ukukhupha amehlo akho xa ufumene. Le ndlela ingabizwa ngokuchanekileyo ngokukhawuleza kuba kunengqondo ukujonga into ethile ekuhlaleni kuyo yonke into edibene nayo endleleni. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ngendlela eyahlukeneyo kwaye uthando lunokuthi lufunyenwe kakhulu, kumntu osuka kubahlobo abasondeleyo, aye waqhelana naye kwaye akaqapheli ukuba iimvakalelo zikhona.
Ukuze ufumane uthando lokwenene, akukho sidingo sokungabaza ukuba khona. Kuya kufumana ngexesha layo. Kwaye nangona kungenjalo, unako ukuchitha ixesha ekuphuculeni, ukuhamba kunye nezinto ezininzi ezithakazelisayo.
Ukuthandana
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba sele uvele wathandana, kodwa ungathandabuzeki ukuba ukuvakalelwa kwesi sivakalelo? Kukho iinkcazelo ezininzi eza kukukunceda uqonde oku. Unokufumana ezi nkcazelo ngokwakho. Kwanele ukucinga malunga nothando olulandelayo.
Thina, ngethuba lethu, senze uludwe olulula, olunokukuncedisa kwiingcamango. Ngokombono wethu, uthando olufanayo kukuba:
- Ukuhlonela intsebenziswano kunye kunye nolwazi rhoqo rhoqo
- Ukunyamekela nokuhlonipha
- Umnqweno wokuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye
- Ukuqonda ngokubanzi komnye nomnye
Olu luhlu lunokuqhubeka ngonaphakade, kodwa siya kunika lona, kuba inkqubo iya kunceda ukuqonda kangcono iimvakalelo zakho nokuhlaziya iimvakalelo zakho.
Uvavanyo lothando
Ukuze ujonge ngakumbi ulwalamano lwakho, sikunikezela uvavanyo olwenzelwe ukuchonga ukuba unothando olufanayo okanye cha. Ufuna iphepha, ipensela kunye nemizuzu embalwa yexesha lokukhulula.
Funda umbuzo ngamnye uze uphendule "yebo" okanye "cha" kuwo. Ukuba impendulo yakho nguweewe, faka enye kwiphepha, ungenzi nto. Ekupheleni, balale iibhola uze ubone umphumo.
Imibuzo:
- Ngaba wakho umthandayo uhlala ekunika iintyatyambo?
- Ngaba udla ngokukhawulelana kunye namazwi othando?
- Ngaba uhlala u tyelela iivenkile?
- Ngaba uhlala uyabulela intanda yakho kwaye uvume uthando lwakho kuye?
- Unelisekile ngobomi besondo?
- Ngaba uyaziqhenya ngokuphumelela kwakhe emsebenzini?
- Ngaba unokucela lula wakho umhlobo malunga nento ebalulekileyo?
- Upheka kwasekuseni umlingane wakho?
- Ngaba uhlala uququzelela iintsuku zothando / kusihlwa?
- Ngaba uyamkela izipho ezivela kumthande wakho ngombulelo?
Iziphumo:
Ukuba ufumene ukusuka kwelinye ukuya kwiingongoma ezintathu, kufuneka uqikelele ngokucamngca ngobu buhlobo. Kungenzeka ukuba baya kwikhefu. Kufuneka unqume ukuba ngaba ufuna ukuqhubeka nabo kwaye uthetha ngawo kunye neqabane lakho.
Ukuba ufumene phakathi kwamanqaku amane kunye nesithandathu, uninzi ukuphuhlisa. Mhlawumbi uqale ulwalamano lwakho, kwaye uthando lwakho alukabi, okanye uhlangene kunye ixesha elide kangangokuba liye laba ngumsebenzi. Zama ukuzityinzana kwaye uphinde uqhubeke nomdla wakho omdala. Ukuba ufumene amanqaku asixhenxe okanye anesithoba, ngokuqinisekileyo uyamthanda. Gcina kwaye ujabulele le mvakalelo emangalisayo.