Uthando, umvakalelo onokuphefumlela, ukuzisa ulonwabo, kubafazi abathile baphenduka kuba ngukuhlushwa, ubukhoboka, apho kungenakwenzeka ukuphuma. Njalo xa bebathandana "ngokufa". Kwaye umntu ongenakufumaneka - utshatile, udumileyo, ubanda kwaye ungananto yonke into, okanye kumntu onomdla othile - kusela utywala, isondo, imidlalo. Xa ehamba, lo wesifazane ufumana ukwesaba, intlungu yokomoya, ubumnandi. Kwaye ulungele ukuya kuyo nayiphi na inhlazo, ukugcina nje ...
Okwesithathu ukushisa
Abesifazana, ngelishwa, ahlale esazi indlela yokuyeka ngokuxhomekeka kwintando yendoda. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akusiyo yonke into ebeka isoyiko ekuthandeni nomntu ongekho konke okufanelekileyo. Kwiintlobo ezininzi kuxhomekeke kwintsapho ekhulile kuyo. Njengomthetho, le ntombazana ayizange ifumane ukufudumala okwaneleyo kunye novelwano kubazali bakhe kwaye ngoko ngoku utshabalalise bonke ubomi bakhe ukufuna le mizwa. Umfazi onjalo unxiba uthando kumntu, okanye uzame ukwanelisa intswelo yakhe ngokungathanga ngqo - ukuba ngumntu onobubele kunye nokunyamekela umntu ongenanto.
IKabbalah yezinto ezikhohlakeleyo
Nangona kunjalo, kungekuphela nje iingxaki zomntu ezikhokelela kumfazi ekuthandweni kobukhoboka kwaye unyanzelekile ukuba uxhomekeke kwintando yomntu. Kwintlangano yethu, kukho iingcamango eziphakamisa uthando nothando.
Inombolo yesitampu 1. I heroine enobunzima
Abafazi be-Decembrists, uSonia Marmeladova, amantombazana aseTurgenev ... Imifanekiso yabo evela ebhentshini yesikolo iboniswa njengento efanelekileyo. Kwaye yenzani la ma heroine? Babingelela ubomi babo ngenxa yabantu. Okokuthi, kubonakala ukuba i-intle yomfazi ayikho into ekhethekileyo, kuphela xa ephoswa ezinyaweni zomntu othandekayo ...
Enyanisweni, lobu buqhawe bubuxhomekeke kwimvakalelo yokuzithemba okukhulu. Kwizinzulu zomphefumlo, loo mfazi ucinga ukuba akafanelekanga ulonwabo "njengaye." Uqinisekile ukuba kufuneka azuze, uwine.
Isitampu inombolo 2. "Wathandana naye ..."
Ukubandezeleka egameni lothando kuthandiswa kwiinkcubeko zethu. Kukholelwa ukuba ubunzima obunokubandezeleka, ngakumbi uya kubonisa ubungqina beemvakalelo zakho. Ukuba le mvakalelo enempilo, ekwazi ukunika amandla umntu, ukuphefumlelwa, ukuvuyisa, kuthiwa encinci okanye ihlazo. Yaye malunga nokuyeka ukuxhomekeka kwiimvakalelo zakho - nokuba akukho mbuzo.
Inombolo yesitampu 3. Ukuthanda ukufunwa
Enye enye indlela: "Kubalulekile ukuba udinga umntu". Akunandaba ukuba ngubani: umyeni, umntwana, abazali okanye ngisho nekati. Ibhinqa livakalelwa ngokupheleleyo xa likhona kunye nomntu ofuna ukuyiqwalasela. Amanye amabhinqa afinyelela ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo azivakale kuphela kwiimeko ezinzima.
Inombolo yesitampu 4. Yiba njalo ...
Kukho isimo sengqondo sokuba ngoncedo luthando ungatshintsha umntu. Kwaye ekubeni asinakulindela iindlela ezilula, ngoko njengento yokuguqulwa sikhetha umntu oya kuguqula ubomi bethu kube yinto ebomvu. Eli bhinqa liqinisekile ukuba xa umthandi wakhe (utywala, umdlali, i-donjuan) utshintsho, baya kuvuyisa kunye kunye. Ngulo suku oluqaqambileyo kwaye awukwazi ukulinda.
Inkqubo yethando
Ukuxhomekeka kwothando kuthintela ngokuxhomekeke ekubeni kuxhomekeke kwiziyobisi kunye notywala. Kukho nawuphi na, inqubo ifanayo. Emva kokuyeka ukuxhomekeka kwintando yendoda, ibhinqa liva "ukuphuka" ngokwenene. Emva kwakho konke, ukunyusa kubangela ukuxhalaba kwexesha elide kunye elinamandla. Ekubeni akukho zikholo zowesifazane, ufuna uthando olungakumbi. Kwaye akukho namnye onako ukwanelisa olu lulu. Xa umntu emshiya, ufuna ukuvuselela olutsha-ulwalamano olunzima, olubuhlungu. Kwaye-ke ukude udityaniswe ngokupheleleyo kwinkqubo yenzwa.
"Ndiyichiza lam"
Isimo sakho sengqondo kumntu saba sisifo ukuba:
• Ukwesaba ukuhamba kwakhe, uya kwenza konke ukugcina kuye; Ukulungele ukulinda nokuthemba ngothando lwakhe iminyaka;
• amaphupha ngendlela zonke izinto eziya kulunge ngayo, xa zitshintsha okanye iimeko, zibaluleke ngakumbi kuwe kunxulumano lwangempela;
• Ukuba kukho ukungquzulana phakathi kwakho, uzame ukubeka ityala kuwe kuphela;
• unesondo esingaqhelekanga naye, kodwa ubudlelwane obubi ngaphandle kombhede;
• ngaphandle kwakhe, akukho nto ebomini kukunika uvuyo olukhulu;
• awunakuchukulwa ngumntu onobubele, onokwethenjelwa, onoxanduva, onoxanduva.
6 Amanyathelo okukhutshwa
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ubuhlobo bakho nomntu obathandayo buba buhlungu, zama ukutshintsha imeko ngokukhawuleza.
1. Zivume ukuba unomlwelwe wokubandezeleka kunye nobudlelwane obubi kunye nendoda.
2. Zama ukuqonda ukuba iinzame zokutshintsha umntu kwinto enhle ayiyi kuyenza.
3. Phatha yonke imikhosi ekubuyiseni kwakho - funda ukuqonda nokukhusela impilo yakho.
4. Ngomhla, phawula zonke iimvakalelo ezintle ezingahambelani nomntu wakho.
5. Ukufunda nokuphuhlisa iimfuno zakho: ukuhamba, ukufunda, utshintshe umsebenzi.
6. Yiba nomdla: zibeke iminqweno yakho, izicwangciso zakho, iimfuno zakho ngaphambili.