Siphila
Uthando luyaziwa luyimfama, ngoko sihlala siwalele abo bafanele. Awuncumo ukuba ube khoboka lakhe, kwaye ukhetha indlela ejikeleze ubu bukumkani obuthakathaka beentliziyo eziphukileyo. Uthi: "Eziklasini eziphezulu ndagcina idayari - i-pink enye enekhiyi encinci eyayivaliwe kwiqhosha legolide," utsho uKatyya, "akazange agcine iimfihlo ezizodwa: andizange ndibe nazo, ndandilungiselela ukuhlangabezana nothando lobomi bam - ngendlela efanayo xa bekulungele ukuphendula impendulo kulo mbuzo: Wachaza iingcamango ezicacileyo kwisifundo. Idayari yanyamalala kwindawo ethile, kodwa iingcaphuno zisezintloko zam. Ndiyakhumbula, umzekelo, ukuba i-Kierkegaard yathi into enokuyicingisisa yinto enomntu okwenzayo Kodwa andifuni ukuba ndihlupheke nhlobo. Ndikhethile icebiso lokuba umlobi wesiNgesi uSamuel Johnson wanikela intombi yakhe engamakhulu amathathu eminyaka edlulileyo: "Ukuba ufuna ukuthanda ixesha elide, thanda ingqondo kwaye kungekhona intliziyo, kungekhona nje loo nto, kodwa ukuze uzuze wena." Ukukhawuleza kwi-whirlpool yeemvakalelo zokuzithandela - oko kusengumsebenzi, kodwa unokwenza ulungelelwano olufanelekileyo, olukhokelwa ngqiqo. "Ngoko ndatshata noAntonio, ndandineminyaka yokuqala xa efika kwi-internship, ndalindele ukuhlala iinyanga ezimbini, ndahlala iminyaka emi-5. Ngenxa yam. Ngekhefu, ndahlala naye eRoma, lonke ixesha ahlala eMoscow. Uphawu oluchaphazelekayo lwengqalelo yakhe aluzange lufuduke kwelinye ilizwe kungekhona iintyatyambo kunye nezipho awasondezayo, kodwa indlela awayehamba nayo ukuya esikhungweni rhoqo ekuseni, nangona wavuka ngo-7 ekuseni. Kwaye kubanjwe kubanda, ngeqondo lokushisa eliphezulu, wahlala kunye nami kwiintetho, nangona wayekwazi ukuhlutha ekhaya. Xa uAntonio wandicebisa, ndenza oko i-psychologists iyakhuthaza: Ndiyifake iphepheni ngamakholamu amabini-ngakwesobunxele kunye, kwaye ekunene - iimbonakalo zobomi bethu kunye. Abazali bam abakhethiweyo banomdla owamkeleyo njengomthonyama, indlu evulekile, i-rock band kunye ne-studio yokurekhoda, ndikhululekile kunye naye, ungumculi oqingqiweyo kunye nomqambi, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - uyandithanda kakhulu. Iimigodi zavela kuba ezine kuphela: njengamaTaliyane, uAntonio wayengasetyenziselwa ukuxhatshaza, ungaphantsi kwam ngamithamitha ambalwa, endaweni yeekhabhi ze-press, unesigxina, kwaye ... andithandi. Kodwa ngaba kubalulekile ngokwenene? Iminyaka engama-7 esiye sihlangene, abaninzi abahlobo bam baqhankanya ngokutshata ngothando olukhulu, bakwazi ukuqhawula umtshato, abanye baze bangabi nanye. Bayeliphupha ngekamva elihlukile, kwaye ndaqonda kanye into endiyifunayo, kwaye andizange ndizisole. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha yonke into efanayo ndiyazibuza: ngokukhawuleza ndilahlekelwe into ethile ekubaleni kwam? Yonke into ibhelele kwaye iqikelele ... "
Uloyiko ukujika ube idonki, uhlaywe ngumtolo we Cupid, owenza ngokuchasene neminqweno yakho. Ngoko awuvumeli ukuba ulahlekelwe yintloko yakho xa udibana namadoda angayijika, kwaye akhe ubuhlobo kunye nabangakwaziyo. Emva koko, kuphela ngaphandle kokuva iimvakalelo ezinzulu ngenxa yento enesihawu, unako ukugcina intloko. Uzicwangcise ngokukodwa ngokubeka ibinzondo kumntu onothando, kwaye akakuvumeli ngoku. Akunakunyulwa ukuba akuyi kukuyeka, ngaphandle kokuba, ngokuqinisekileyo wena ngokwakho ufuna ukuphakamisa ukuvinjelwa kobudlelwane obubi, ngombono wakho, amakhwenkwe, aqhele ukuba athanda amantombazana amnandi.
Umtshato Olungileyo
Uzame ukubonakalisa wonke umntu ukuba sele udala, akafuni ukushiywa emva komhlobo oza kudala umtshato. Okanye, mhlawumbi, njengomntwana, ndandixelongo ngephupha elinikezwa yiHollywood - njengendlela yokunyuka, ukubhukuda kwisibingelelo kwisiqwenga samathambo amhlophe angenamandla ... Ngethuba lokuqala, waqaphela le meko, kwaye umtshato womtshato wavala. UChina uthi: "U-Igor wandibiza ukuba nditshatile ngqo kwi-prom," yaye ngokukhawuleza ndagqiba ekubeni ndiza kuba nomtshato, njengomabhayisikobho. "Yaye ubomi, njengobomi bhanya-moya, kwindlu evuliwe ngabazali, apho egumbini lokulala elinebhokisi elinombhalo othi" Ndisoloko ndikhumbula ukuba ngokucophelela, njengokungathi ndaphila, ndagqabhula ibhotela elimnyama kwikhati lakhe elimhlophe, kwaye udala kwaye agugule zonke iingubo ezilishumi elinambini kwiingubo zam ezivela kwikhosi yesixhenxe i-vertebrae emva emhlane. "Kwingxenye ye-Igor, yonke into yinyani, kodwa mna. Emva koko ndafunda kwindawo ethile yokuba uthando lokuqala aluhlangani nentsingiselo yangempela-ludinga kuphela ukungaziboni kunye nentshuzelo encinane. "Inxaneliseko yanelisekile, uthando aluzange lwenzeke, kuphela isitampu kwipasipoti kunye nombhoxo ukulala kunye nesithembiso esingenasiphelo sokuhlala ndawonye ngonaphakade. Xa uneminyaka engama-18, akuzange kwenzeke kum ukuba zingaphi iintsuku zonyaka kunye nendlela zonke zibukeka ngayo xa uhlala nabantu abangathandekiyo. Kodwa xa uneminyaka engama-28, ubheka izinto ezininzi ngokungafaniyo. "Kutheni ungamlahli?" - intombi iyamangalisa. Ewe, kuba andifuni ukumlimaza yena nam. Siyazi kakuhle kwiklasi yokuqala - sele sele ivele iminyaka engama-21! Inxalenye yobomi bam, ongenakukwazi ukusula lula. Kufana noTolstoy: U-Nikolai Rostov wayengathandanga noMninimzi uMarya, kodwa, nangona kunjalo, wayeziva eyingxenye yakhe. Wafanisa umfazi wakhe ... ngomunwe: awunamdla okhethekileyo kuye, kodwa emva kokulahlekelwa, uhlala ukhubazekile ebomini bakho bonke. Ngoko ndinomvakalelo ofanayo kumyeni wam. Ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyithandi, kodwa ke ... "Iimvakalelo zipholile, kwaye akukhathazeki nokuba ngaba u-Romeo wakho unqwenela okanye cha: ulwalamano lwakho naluphi na uhlobo ludinga ukuqalisa kwakhona." Zama ukuthandana nomyeni wakho kwinzululwazi-iingcali ziye zaphuhlisa Kukho ukuqeqeshwa okuninzi, cinga ukuba kufuneka ukhangise njengesimboli yesondo kwaye ubambe iseshoni yesithombe kuyo, ukhetha iindawo zokugcina iimpumelelo eziphezulu kwaye uzinikele ngokusondeza isithunzi sawo. inetyhefu, isondo kwindawo engavamile ... Iimvakalelo zengcamango zingaba yinyani: akuyiyo into yokuba izazi zengqondo zibiza uthando loyiso lwengcamango engqondweni, ngendlela, into yokuba uhlala ndawonye uthetha kakhulu. Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba Umama-mkhwe ukholelwa ukuba uye wahlala iminyaka engama-40 engathandekiyo, kodwa wonke umntu obonayo esi sibini uyacacile: iimvakalelo ziyaxhamla. Uthi utshatile ngenxa yokuba umyeni usongela ukuba aphule kwimayini xa engavumi ... Kodwa uya kuba uyasindisa umntu engakhathaliyo?
Andiyi kuba ngumama
Unyoko wakho unothando, kwaye awufuni ukuphinda uphendule iimpazamo zakhe. Kwakhona ufumene ngoxa wayekhangela ulonwabo lwakhe, kwaye wayesencinane kwaye ukhathazeke kakhulu ngaye kunye nawe.
U-Olya uthi: "Ubawo wayethanda ubomi bakhe," u-Olya uthi "Yonke into eyayibanjwe ngumama, wayesebenza njengomqondisi wabasebenzi kwiqumrhu elikhulu, wandikhulisa nomntakwabo, ndamnakela ugogo okhubazekile." Ukuba iTV yadiliza, yenziwa ukuba ilungiswe, ukuba imoto yayiye Kwiziko lokunyamekela imoto ndigxotha izikhwama zokutya kwi-dacha kwisitimela. Ubaba akazange acinge ukuhlangana naye ngokuhlwa kusikhululo okanye ukuphonsa uMitka kwi-kindergarten kusasa. Upapa wayekulungisa iiyunithi zefriji, kwaye xa i-oda yayimile (eyenzekayo yonke ixesha), yaphela kwidacha Ufakwe kunye. Sadibana eMallorca (kwaye uMama wasebenza kulolu hambo, kwaye wenza zonke iiphepha), kwaye wayetyathwa iintsuku ezintathu ngaphambi kohambo lokudoba, nangona samncenga ukuba ahlale ekhaya. ngoko andisayi kutshata kwaye ngandlela-thile ndafa ngangoko kanye ... Ndiyazi into enye: luthando alukho kum! Ndifuna ukuhlushwa ngaphantsi kweyiphi na ehlabathini ondixabanga nonke. Ndingeminyaka engama-25 ubudala, ndisebenza njengomzekelo kwaye endingamthandiyo kuye. Yivuma ukuba uloyiko lobuhlobo obusondeleyo. Kodwa akubona bonke abantu abafana noyihlo, kwaye akudingeki uphinde uphendule iimpazamo zikamama wakho - uya kwenza ngokwakho ukuba, ngokwenene, uzinike ithuba elinjalo. Ngendlela, ukunyaniseka kwendoda kunye nomntu ekufuneka ahambe naye kudala, ngokuqhelekileyo ibonwe kwizinto ezibizwa ngokuba yi-symbiotics - iintombi, ezigcinwe ngaphezu kwabazali abahloniphekileyo. Emtshatweni, banamathele kakhulu kumlingane, okwenene uthatha indawo yomama okanye uyise. Ukuba uzimeleyo ukususela ebuntwaneni, ngoko awuyi kuzinyamezela ubuhlobo obangela ukuba uhlupheke. Enyanisweni, kukho imeko yentsapho echaphazela ukhetho lwethu: abaninzi banokwakha umtshato ngokusekelwe kumzekelo wentsapho yomzali - ngaphandle kokuba babone umzekelo. Kwaye ukuba akude kakhulu, benza ngokuchasene. Yenza okufanayo, ungavumeli ukwesaba kukulawula ubomi bakho. Ngenxa yokuba ukuthanda kuyimfuneko ebaluleke kakhulu, ibekwe kwimeko yendoda.
Uninzi kwaye akukho nto
Zonke zihluke. Kanti awukho kunye. Uqala ukuwa ngothando nomnye, kodwa ke udibana nomnye-uphakamileyo, uqaphele, uphumelele ngakumbi ... Ndingakhetha njani? Awuyazi impendulo yalo mbuzo, ngoko ukhangele ukulwa. Vumela le bhanti yamaqhawe ekulwe namakrele ukuze unelungelo lokumanga isithintelo senkosikazi yabo, osindisa iimvakalelo ezifanelekileyo kakhulu ... Kodwa akakwazi ukugqiba ukuba ngubani. "Andiyi kuthanda, andiyi kuchazwa kuye," ukhononda uKristuina, "Wonke umntu uyangithanda ngendlela yabo." Enye inhle, enye inamandla amakhulu, isithathu isisityebi kwaye siyaphumelela ... Njalo xa ndicinga: Ewe, ekugqibeleni, kodwa elandelayo iyavela, kwaye ndifumanisa kuye iimpawu engazange ndibe nazo kumlingane wangaphambili. Ndimele ndiqale kwakhona nomnye umntu, nangona ndiphupha ngeemvakalelo ezinamandla kunye nobuhlobo obuhlala ixesha elide. Udibene nomfana omncinane kunami kwinyanga Unomdlalo ohlekisayo kunye nobuqili, kodwa unamahloni ubudala kunye nenkukhu afune I: nangaphezulu kwaye ufuna ponakachannee Kodwa ukuba uya kuwa ke phofu kuba mna andifumani into sokukhalaza malunga ... Mhlawumbi uthando ayisekho yaye ndiza ukuchitha ixesha lam owayecinga ".? Iintloni "yena / akayi" intlungu, ngelixa uthando lwangempela alukho. Xa efika, imibuzo iyaphela. Kodwa ukuba kwenzeke oku, kufuneka ugxilise into ethile, kwaye ungazami ukuthandana nala mahlanu ngokukhawuleza uze ungabi njengomtshakazi kaGogol. Ungathinti abafana, njengenqwaba yezigqoko ezintsha kwi-hangers. Ngokutsho kweengxelo ze-psychologists zaseMerika, amantombazana aneminyaka engama-16 ukuya kwimi-30 ubudala, iphupha lesikhupha kunye nesinqe saseKeanu Reeves, imilomo kaBrad Pitt, amehlo kaTro Cruise, umhlathi weHarrison Ford kunye ne-biceps uSyvester Stallone. Ukudibanisa iimpawu zeenkwenkwezi kwiskrini yekhompyutheni, abalobi bezononongo bafumene ubuso obubi babesilisa - bebanjiswa! Musa ukuya kude kwiimfesane uze uthinte abafana, njengenqwaba yezigqoko ezintsha kwi-hangers. Yenza uluhlu lweempawu ezilishumi ozikhethiweyo ukuba zimele zifumane kwaye xa ufumana umntu ubuncinane ezintlanu, gxila kuye kwaye ungatshintshi kwabanye abaviwa kwiinkwenkwe ngethuba xa ilangabi luthando likulungele ukukhupha kwi-spark of sympathy.
Awudingi ihafu!
Awukholelwa kwintlonelo engathandanayo malunga neentlanganiso ezimbini, kuba uzibona ungumntu onelanelekileyo, kwaye ungaqali ulwalamano oluqinileyo, ukhetha ukuthandana ngothando nothile, kulula kakhulu! "Kukholelwa ukuba bonke abantu bayakuphepha umtshato, kwaye yonke into amantombazana ayilangazelela," uLena uhlanganyela naye ngamava akhe. "Mhlawumbi umntu ufuna ukutshata, kodwa kungekhona mna, ndineminyaka engama-27, kwaye ndenze yonke into. Andiyi kucwangcisa, ndandinabantu abaninzi, kodwa akukho ncwadana enzulu, kuba into enomdla kakhulu isoloko ekuqaleni: umnika uphawu - ukhangele amehlo akho, uphonsa iinwele zakho emagxa akho, isongo, uphose unyawo lwakho emlenzeni, ubambe iso, Ulungisa umtya wakhe, ubeka izithupha zakhe kwintambo. "Kuwe okanye kum?" - kwaye yonke into iyenzeka njengeyokuqala, kodwa uyazi ukuba eli thuba elihle lilungele ukuphindaphinda kabini ngomntu ofanayo. iimvakalelo zitshatyalaliswa - akukho kakade idrayivu, into efana nemozulu yentsholongwane eyenzekayo, ngoko yithuba lokuphuma kwakhona ngokuzingela okukhulu. " Kwinqanaba lemilinganiselo yakho, ukuziqonda ngokwakho, kungekhona intsapho, kuthatha indawo yokuqala, kwaye isimo sengqondo sokuthandana kunye nesondo ngokuqhelekileyo sisiswini. Awulindeli ukuba umntu ahlale naye ixesha elide, ngokuvuya kwaye afe ngosuku olunye, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ujonge iqabane eliza kukhululeka apha kwaye ngoku. Kungenzeka ukuba ngelinye ilanga uza kufuna into engaphezu kokudlala ngothando, kodwa ngoku thandana ngaphandle kokuzibophezela. Ungonwabile ngaphandle kwamadoda, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba uya kuba yedwa ubomi bakho bonke. Ngokubanzi, akubalulekanga kakhulu, uya kudibana nexesha elizelelwe nguPeter, Antony, Hippolytus okanye akunjalo. Enyanisweni kuwe kwaye kulungile. Kwaye kwenzeka!