Ngaba uye wakha wacinga ngomfazi wakho ekutshintshisayo, kwaye awukwazi na? Kungekudala, uthando oluqhelekileyo kunye namantombazana asetshatileyo - le yinto eqhelekileyo kakhulu. Cinga ukuba luthando olunjani kunye nezizathu zobudlelwano obunjalo phakathi kwamantombazana atshatileyo.
Uthando olunjani
Inkqubo yoqhagamshelwano oluqinileyo lunokuchazwa ngokuba "yimini yamaphupha". Kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi, uthando olubonakalayo luyifakela inxibelelwano yangempela, inxibelelwano enenjongo. Yonke into enzulu efana neyoqobo "ithatha" umntu owangena kuwo. Umntu akakwazi ukubona ulwahlulo phakathi koqobo kunye nobomi obuninzi, akanakucacisa umda ocacileyo phakathi kwabo. Yaye akayikufihla iminqweno yakhe kwaye akayigcini amagama amahle kumntu onothando olupheleleyo.
Kucacile ukuba phantse wonke umntu unokuza neengcamango ezinjalo, kodwa umfazi wakhe uyitshintsha. Ingakumbi ukuba umfazi wakhe omncinci unolwazi oluninzi, ogqwesileyo kumsebenzi wakhe, ngumphefumlo wenkampani. Kwaye kwinto enhle ngokwayo, evuya kwaye amadoda amaninzi ayithobela. Kodwa ngelo xesha uqiniseke ukuba akukho mntu umi phakathi kwakho kunye nawe uziva kumfazi wakho ukuba uyamkhathalela, uxhalabele kwaye uyamthanda. Kodwa ngelo xesha, uhlala uqaphela ukuba umfazi "uhleli" ixesha elide emva kwefowuni okanye kwikhompyutha. Yaye xa unomdla kwizinto azenzayo, uphelisa umsebenzi wakhe, okanye i-shies awayempendulo yakhe. Kodwa ekugqibeleni, umyeni ufumanisa ukuba umntu wakhe othembekileyo uhambelana ngokuthe ngqo nomntu othize okanye ukhangele iisayithi zoononopopayi kwi-Intanethi.
Ziziphi izizathu zothando oluthile lwamantombazana abatshatileyo
Kwenzeka ukuba amantombazana athathe imali kwintsapho, kwaye abafazi balala imihla ngemihla embhedeni yonke, kwaye "bathuthumele" ukuba imali ayanele. "Ukunganiseki" kunye nokungabongi - ngokunyanzela ukucinezela abafazi babo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abatshatileyo abanalo ixesha elaneleyo kwaye banqwenela ukuthetha nabanye. Ngokomzekelo, iqabane liyakucasulwa kukuba akukho sidlo esilungisiwe okanye ukuba ishati ayinakutshulwa, ngoko umfazi ukuba i-shelf ayiboshiwe okanye i-socket ayilungiswanga. Kwakhona, kunokubakhokelela ekuthandaneni ngothando, ukungabikho komlingane ekhaya, ingakumbi ukuba umntwana ubonakale, kodwa akukho ncedo.
Esinye isizathu-intombazana, esitshatileyo, iyaqonda ukuba lo mntu "yinkosana" yakhe, kodwa emva kokuhlala nomntu okwesikhashana, uyaqaphela ukuba oku akunjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha amadoda ahlambalaza, awanamdla, angabathandani ngesondo. Yonke into iyaba yinto eqhelekileyo, ungathengi iimpahla, ungaqhubeki ukuya kwindawo yokudlela. Ngamanye amazwi, wafezekisa oko wayekufunayo kwaye "akayi kuhamba naphi na." Kwakhona ngamanye amaxesha umqeshwa emsebenzini okanye umsebenzi ngokulala ngesondo uqala ukucinga kuphela, ukulibala malunga neengxaki ezongezelelweyo, malunga neengcamango zesini zesini somlingane. Le yenye yezona zizathu eziphambili zokuvela kwothando olubonakalayo kumantombazana asetshatileyo. Ukongezelela, abafazi abasha banemibono eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo ebomini.
Into eyingozi yinto ekhangayo
Ukuba kutshanje kwintsapho yakho yonke into ayigqibekanga kwaye uqala ukuzidela komnye nomnye, zombini ngokwengqondo kunye ngokusondeleyo, ngoko ubuhlobo kufuneka bugcinwe. Mhlawumbi intombazana esatshatileyo, ukuthetha kunye nomnye umntu, izama ukuzalisa izikhalazo zokunxibelelana nomyeni wayo, nangona ndlela. Kodwa ngaba ungabiza u-romance uqobo? Ngokuqinisekileyo, ewe, kuba awaziwa ukuba zeziphi ubudlelwane ziya kuhamba kwikamva. Emva koko, intombazana, ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza, isetyenziswe ngokwengqondo kwindoda enye kunye nemizwa yakhe yokuba umfazi "abone", oku kunokubangela ukuwa kweentsapho. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuba amadoda afundile ngexesha elidlulileyo labafazi bawo, kufuneka baqale ukudala ubudlelwane.