1. Njengama-spoons kwi-daw de drak
Kwiimeko ezinjalo kunye noxolo, izibini ezitshatileyo zihlala zilala iminyaka yokuqala-3-5 yokuhlala ndawonye. Ngokufana nesimo segciwane lesisu esibelethweni sikamama, esi sikhundla sinikeza abalingani bobabini inqabiseko yokhuseleko kunye nokukhuseleka, ukudala ubuhlobo obusenyongweni obuphezulu. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ngumntu owamkela loo mfazi. Izibini apho ubudlelwane bobabini bomlingani balingana, ngobusuku obuphindaphindiweyo balimaza esi sikhundla, oko kukuthi, xa elinye iqabane lijika, omnye ulandela umzekelo wakhe aze ammbambe ngasemva.
2. I-Honeymoon hugs
Iintloko zijongene nobuso - phezulu kobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Esi sikhundla asiqhelekanga ngaphezu kwesithuba sangaphambili se "Spoon", kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo akunakukhathazeka ukulala kule ndawo ubusuku bonke. Ngokuqhelekileyo kule ndawo, abathandana balala phakathi kwamanye amaqabane afuna ukuyidiliza komnye nomnye, ekuqaleni kobudlelwane babo okanye emva kokuthandana.
Kodwa izibini ezisebudlelwane obude, umzekelo, ngexesha lovuyo olwenzekayo, okanye ukuba amaqabane aziva exhomekeka kakhulu, angakwazi ukulala njengaye. Ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuthanda le ndawo, kwaye uyifumana ingakhathazeki, linda ade alele, uze wamukele indawo ekhululekile.
3. Iileyili zemizi
Omnye wabalingani (ubuninzi bexesha umntu) ulala phantsi kwindawo apho izazi zeengqondo zibiza "ubukhosi", ezibonisa "i-ego" ephakamileyo kakhulu kwaye umnqweno wokulawula. Ngaloo ndlela umfazi ulala nentloko yakhe kwiphepha leendoda, oko kuthetha ukuba ungumlingane oxhomekeke ngakumbi kwaye unyanzelekile, kwaye esi sikhundla simnceda ukuba unqabiseke kwaye ukhuselwe. Esi sikhundla sibonisa izinga eliphezulu lokuthembela phakathi kwamalingani, kwaye bathanda imibhangqwana eninzi ebudlelwane obuzinzileyo.
4. Umkhwa Wezithandwa
Olu luhlobo olusondeleyo lwesikhundla sangaphambili "ITile", kuba kulo mzekelo, lo mfazi ukhonkxwe, kwaye angagcini nje ukubeka igalelo lakhe elixhasayo. Ibhinqa lithathwa ngephantsi kwephiko, linika uthando, inkxaso kunye nokukhuselwa. Le meko ijongwa ngokukodwa ngabasetyhini ngexesha leengxaki ezinxulumene nolwalamano okanye imeko yobomi obunzima. Kodwa akufuneki ukuba ulinde ingxaki ukuzama ukulala kule meko. Ukongezelela, iqela lokubamba iqela lingenokuba yindoda kuphela, kodwa kunye nomfazi ofuna ukukhulula uxinzelelo lomntu emva komsebenzi wosuku olukhuni.
5. Isikhululo samahhala
Abantu abasandul 'ukutshatyalaliswa babedla ngokukhawuleza ngexesha lokulala ukuze bavelelane. Phantse kwiminyaka emihlanu kamva, iziqabane ezininzi ziqala ukuqonda ukuba ubudlelwane babo obuzinzileyo abuyi kusongelwa ukuba bavumeleke ngakumbi inkululeko nangentuthuzelo ngexesha lokulala. Ngoko ke, abo baqabane bahlala belele kwindawo ekhunjulwa yindawo "yeepuni", kodwa banomgama omkhulu phakathi kwabo. Ukunxibelelana ngokomzwelo kuxhaswa ngokuthinta ingalo okanye umlenze. Esi sikhundla silinganisela umnqweno wokusondelana kunye nesidingo sokuthuthuzela. Esi sisimo esithandanayo, kodwa esingenasondo.
6. Iyawo libandakanya
Ezinye iibinibini ziziva zingakhululekile ukudibanisa ngqo, ngoko ke ukubandakanya kwabo ngexesha lephupha kwenzeka ngathi ngengozi: unyawo lwakho "ngengozi" luchukumisa unyawo okanye unyawo lomlingane, okanye ubeka unyawo lwakho kumlenze womlingane wakho. Imilenze ebophekileyo iqulethe ubudlelwane bobuhlobo kunye nentuthuzelo ngexesha lokulala. Esi sikhundla sinokubonisa ukuba elinye iqabane liyanqikaza ukubonisa iimvakalelo zabo okanye ngenjongo abafuni ukuyibonisa, umzekelo, emva kokuxabana.
7. Isitayela se "Zen"
Emva komtshato omde, ukutyekela ukufumana indawo yokuhlala xa ubuthongo bukhula. Njengoko kusekwa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, ngamnye umlingani uyomeleza ukuqonda komntu kunye nokuzimela. Kule nkalo, ezininzi izibini kule nkqubela yobomi zivame ukuthenga ibhedi ebanzi ukwenzela ukuba iqabane ngalinye linendawo eyaneleyo yendawo. Nangona kunjalo, uvakalelo lolwalamano olusondeleyo lukhona phakathi kwamaqabane, ngenxa yamacangca achukumisayo.
8. Njengemikhumbi yolwandle
Xa isiqingatha sakho siphumelela ngokukhawuleza kwinqanaba lombhede uze ulele, wena, ukhangela emva kwesi siqingatha, unokuziva unqatshelwe. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene? Iingcali zigxininisa ukuba akukho ndawo "ezilungileyo" okanye "ezingalunganga" ngexesha lokulala. Nangona esi sikhundla ngamanye amaxesha kubonisa ukuba kukho na iingxaki eziye zavela.
Zama ukuqonda ukuba yintoni eyenza le meko: ingqumbo, intukuthelo, ukuxhalabisa? Ukuba uyazi ukuba iqabane lakho lijongene naluphi na ubunzima okwangoku, makabe neendawo zakhe, ubuncinane ngexesha lokulala - nawe unokufuna xa udidekile, uxinzeleleke, okanye xa ufuna ukuhlala u lonwabo. Kungenzeka ukuba, emva kwexesha elifutshane ukulala kwakho embhedeni kuya kuqhubeka kwakhona, kwaye indawo yakho yokuhlangana ngexesha lokulala iya kutshintsha.
9. Inkqubo
Ukuba wena okanye wakho umlingane ulele kwindawo ethile engaqhelekanga, phantse ukuwela embhedeni, njengokungathi uzama ukwandisa umgama phakathi kwabo kunye neqabane, okanye uvuke kusasa olulandelayo kwisithuba se-jack, ngoko oku kufuneka kukuqaphele. Kungenzeka ukuba eso sikhundla sibangelwa ngumnqweno ongenalwazi lomlingane wakho ukuba usuke kuwe okanye ukuphazamisa ulwalamano lwakho.
Kodwa ungakhathazeki ukuba akukho zibonakaliso eziphazamisayo ebuhlotsheni bakho obubonisa ukuphuka. Ukutshintshwa kwezikhundla rhoqo kunabantu abakhutheleyo nabanamandla, okanye abantu abadala.