Kwaye ukuze kuqhubekeke, kuyaxanduva, okokuqala, ukuba ube nesemva esomeleleyo, ngendlela yendoda. Usapho, ngoko. Emva koko, uzalisekisa uxanduva lwakhe olusondeleyo kwimvelo. Kulungile, kwaye ngokuqhubekayo, ngokuzenzekelayo kuya kudala, ngokukhawuleza ukuphakamisa inzala emininzi kunye nendoda. Ukuba naye ungummi onoxanduva, kuya kuba kuhle ukuba asebenzele inzuzo ye-Motherland, mhlawumbi engayizibuhlungu. Le nto yayiyiyo intombi yaza kwadlula nje, abanye bayayikhumbula ngeli xesha. Emva koko lo mfazi akazange acinge ukuba kungcono ukhethe uthando okanye umsebenzi.
Emva koko, utshintsho lwafika kwilizwe lethu, iintliziyo zethu "ezinqwenela". Abafazi baqala ukuba nelungelo lokuvota kuphela ekhitshini, baqondiswe ngandlela-thile, bavuka. Ngokubanzi, baqala ukubonakala. Kwaye kwacaca ukuba babengabesifazana, kwaye kungekhona nje abahlobo abathandekayo kunye nabaqabane abasebenza kwimisebenzi yezobupolitika.
Umfazi wanamhlanje ngumntu ofundayo owaziyo uqobo lwakhe. Ibhinqa eliphambili elilinganiyo lentsapho, kodwa yedwa, ukwaneliseka, ukuzimela, owaziyo ukuba uthando lungcono okanye umsebenzi. Ukufezekisa oku ngasentla, abanye bazifumana bezityebi kunye nezoncedo zabo bazame ukuqonda iinjongo zabo. Abanye, kunye nobuninzi babo, bahamba ngendlela yabo, ngokuzimeleyo kwiinjongo ezibekiwe. Kwaye ukuba okokuqala, ukuyicombulula le mi sebenzi, iya kufumana imfundo ehloniphekileyo, ngoko ke iteksi kunye neyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu iya kufumana umsebenzi ohloniphekileyo kunye nokuphuthuma ngokukhawuleza kwinqanaba lomsebenzi. Nangona amantombazana athola imfundo, ngamanye amaxesha afumana ixesha lothando. Nangona apha kukho imiqobo. Ukuze emva koko ufumane umsebenzi omhle, oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo xa ufunda. Yaye unokudibanisa njani iintetho, iisemina, umsebenzi, uhlobo oluthile lweehambo zorhwebo kunye nothando?
Ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza konke ukulawula. Kwaye abanye abacinga ukuba kulungile ukukhetha. Kubo, uthando kunye neengcamango zomsebenzi azihambelani. Banikela ngomsindo obalaseleyo ekuxhaseni izinto eziphathekayo kunye nekamva kunye nokuthula. Nangona kungekho rhoqo umsebenzi okhawulezayo uzisa loo ntliziyo yolonwabo kunye nokuphelela, kunokulula, ukuthanda uthando. Abanye, abagqiba amaphupha abo malunga neseshishini soshishino, bakhethe uthando, intsapho kunye nabantwana.
Akukho mpendulo engaqinisekanga kumbuzo ukuba kungcono ukhethe uthando okanye umsebenzi, kwaye awuyi kuyenza. Yonke into incike kumntu, kwimbono yakhe yehlabathi, kwiziseko zokuziphatha, ngezinga lokukhula, ukuhamba nokunika amandla. Abasetyhini abaninzi, kwiimeko zobomi zanamhlanje, baceba ubomi babo kwangaphambili kwiminyaka emininzi ezayo. Kwaye kukho indawo yomsebenzi, kunye nothando, kunye nabantwana. Nangona kwisigqi sesimo sobomi kunzima kakhulu. Amanye amabhinqa awakwazi ukujamelana noxinzelelo lweemvakalelo kwaye ngoko, umbuzo wothando okanye umsebenzi, uya kuba yinto ephikisanayo, kuba isigqibo siya kubaluleka kwaye ubomi obusisonke buxhomekeka kuyo, basemgangathweni. Akusiyo impendulo kuwe ukuba kungcono ukhethe: uthando okanye umsebenzi. Ukuchaneka kokukhetha kuya kuba kamva, emva kwexeshana, ungazisoli ukuba le sigqibo senziwe. Emva koko, into eninzi iya kuba kwimaphu.
Ewe, ukhetho olufanelekileyo, xa ibhinqa linalo lonke ixesha. Unomsebenzi odibanisayo, uthando olungathandabuzekiyo. Uyenza yonke into yonke. Akamele akhethe. Oku kulungile. Kwaye, ilungile, ngelishwa, liyinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Ngoko sinamhlanje ubunzima obukhulu bezinto ezibizwa ngokuba yi-business-women who once sacrificed love in favor of growth career. Ngoku baphumelele, babanjwe ngokufanelekileyo, kodwa, maye, ayenzanga njengabafazi. Impembelelo yabo yemvelo iye yaphela kwimeko ethile, izifihlakele zifihlekile. Kwabanye, le meko yezinto ezifanelekileyo, beyazi ukuba bakuphi. Kwaye abanye, mhlawumbi bafihla ngokucokisekileyo, bazisola ngokuba babekade begqithiseleyo iimvakalelo zabantu ezidlulileyo, abazange bavumele uthando kwimpilo yabo. Emva koko, uthando lokwenene, ngokwenene, amandla amakhulu, akwazi ukuvumela ukuba ayenze yonke indawo, ngaphandle kokunyanzelanisa ukwenza ukhetho.