Kukho phakathi kwabo bantu abazama ukusebenza kuphela kwisayensi. Ukukhethwa kweencwadi ezizodwa ezivela kwinqaku "Iingcebiso zeengqondo", ukufunda ngokukhawuleza ngeepensile, ngamanye amaxesha ukuthabatha ingqalelo. Uqeqesho lwamaziko lubandakanya ukusetyenziswa okusebenzayo, ukuhlalutya kwezinto ezenzekayo ... Kwaye ngoko ntsuku emva komhla, unyaka emva konyaka. Ibinzana lentandokazi "makhe sikhulume ngokungathí sina" ngokukhawuleza kuzisa intlungu kunye nengcamango yokuba akufuneki ukuba yenze ngaphandle komonde kwi-brck kwaye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba epholile, kufuneka udibanise amazinyo akho kunye nomculo kwixesha elide kunye negalelo. Omnye uyamkholisa - ngulo "inkundla yokugweba" apho izazi-psychologists zinikela ingqalelo kwaye zikunceda ngazo zonke iindidi zengcebiso ukuba "zisinde" kwaye zenze ubudlelwane.
Kodwa i-whale yesibili, apho, ngokwezinto ezininzi ezinokubhokoxa-iintsholongwane, ubuhlobo bomtshato bugcinwa, akukho nto inikezelweyo. Yaye indlela yokuthetha ngento ehlaziyileyo, ngaba kunokwenzeka? Akuziboleki ukuhlalutya, kwaye akukho zibonelelo, apho ziza kusifundisa ukukhupha intsapho yintlanzi kunye nehlazo elithambileyo, likhombise ingxoxo eyakhayo, ingabikho ukunganeliseki kunye neqabane okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, mkhuthaze kunye kunye nokujamelana neengxaki.
Imigomo yokudlala
Kodwa unokwazi ukujonga imeko leyo. Ewe, akukho nto ebomini bethu ifana nomdlalo, nje ngehlazo. Kutheni ungazami ukufumana imigaqo yelo mdlalo? Hayi, ubuncinane malunga. Ngoko ...
Inani labadlali. Ngokubanzi, nabani na, ngoku umbuzo wabini - indoda kunye nomfazi.
Injongo yomdlalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuqhagamshelana kokomoya kunye "nesiqingatha" kwaye uze kule nto kungekhona ngokubonakalisa ubuhlungu obude, kodwa ukuhleka, ukuzisa uvuyo kunye nomntu osondeleyo. Oku akuthethi ukunyanzelisa ngamabomu iingxaki ezingenakuphika ekufeni. Kuphela nje ukuba ungaziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kwaye kulula kakhulu ukubonakalisa nokulungisa iingxabano kunye neentloni ngaphezu kwengxoxo "engathí sina".
Nangona kunjalo, oku kunjalo, imigaqo yomdlalo. Kukho ezimbini - ihlaya (okanye nje ukuhleka) kunye ne-irony (okanye ukuhlekisa). Oku, ngokuqinisekileyo, kulula ukujoliswa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuhleka kweentlobo zobomi bentsapho buninzi kakhulu - ukusuka kwiimbono ezintle ukuya kwiimpawu ezincinci. Kodwa yonke le nto iyimntu ngokwabo ukuba kwisikimu esinjalo esingenangqondo asihambisani.
Ihlaya!
Unokuhleka ngeentlobo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo: uhlekisayo kwaye ungekho kakhulu, ucebisi kwaye uyisicwenge, unempembelelo nangaphandle. Amajokhi angavakala kwaye avaliwe - ngokuqhelekileyo yindlela esabela ngayo ngqo kweso siganeko okanye ibinzana le-interlocutor, ingabi ngathi uqobo. Nangona kunjalo, ubunzima be "vavanyo oluphezulu", ngokungangabazeki, lithetha umxholo kwaye ufuna umntu odlala ukukhwela isakhono esithile.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba ekuqaleni kokuphila okudibeneyo, ukuhleka kwintsapho yomsindo, mhlawumbi, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunexesha elizayo, kodwa, njengommiselo, ngaphandle komxholo ongenanto kunye nenjongo eyodwa. Njengoko bobabini bayazi kakuhle (kunye nawo onke ama-pluses kunye neendlomelo zale nkqubo), amahlaya abe neenjongo kwaye anenjongo. Indima yabo ininzi. Njengomthetho, abantu abahlala phantsi kophahla olufanayo ngokukhawuleza okanye emva koko baqala ukuqonda ukuba ngaphandle kokuhleka kwezilwanyana, kunzima kakhulu ukukhusela izixhobo zamanzi ezingenakunqandwa. Ngamafutshane, apho uqhawulole kakhulu umtshato, uhlekisayo.
Kodwa amahlaya afika kuphela ekusebenzeni xa umyeni nomfazi belimelela ngokusabela komlingani kwiintambo zabo, banethemba lokuba nokwanela kokubona. Kwaye bahambelana nomgaqo wokungahlaziyiyo kunye nezinto ezithile ezingavumelekanga (kwaye zihlala kuthi nganye).
Ukuba uthetha ngokubanzi, akudingekile ukuba uthinte amaqela achukumisa ukuzithemba komnye umntu-lo luhleko olubi. Ngokuqinisekileyo kukho, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akunakwenzeka ukwenza ngaphandle kwayo. Kubandakanywa nobudlelwane bosapho. Izinto ezimbi zingasetyenziselwa njengesixhobo esinamandla, ngoko kuthiwa izinto ngamagama abo afanelekileyo, ukucacisa imeko engafanelekiyo nayiphi na iqabane. Kodwa, njengaluphi na uhlobo oluthile lonyango, lusetyenzise kangcono kwiimeko ezinzima. Kusengumdlalo ngaphandle kwemithetho.
Elinye ihlaya ...
Ngaloo nto udlalwa ngokuncinci kangako kunokuba uhlekisiwe. Kunoko, bayisebenzisa njengesihlangu, ukucima kwihlabathi langaphandle - ukuba alufanelekanga into ethile, kwaye kuyimfuneko ukulungelelanisa. Emva koko i-irony iphela ingenakwenzeka. Oku - nantoni na ongayithethayo-ukukhusela, kwaye ukuba ufanele uzikhusele kwisiqingatha sakho, kukuthini na?
Ndimele ndixelele ukuba abafazi banomdla othokozayo kwaye babukhali-kunye nasemsebenzini nasekhaya, ngakumbi ukuba intloko yentsapho ingabandakanyeka kwindlela yokutya kunye ne-podnachki.
Iimpawu ezixhalabisayo ngokuqhelekileyo zibhekiselele kwi-subtext ejulile - omnye uya kuqonda, enye iya kudlula (ngengozi okanye ngenjongo). Kwaye ukuba uyaqonda kwaye endaweni yokuthatha amanqaku, uya kukhubeka? Ewe, unako ukuhlawula phantsi: "Kutheni ushushu? Andizange ndiyithathe yonke into ... "Yaye makangabonakali kwangaphandle ukuba oku kulahleka - konke okufanayo, ukuhluka okuqala kuya kuhlala kumnxibelelanisi kwi-subcortex. Akumangalisi ukuba kuluvo - indlela engcono kakhulu yokuthetha ngokubhekiselele kumqathango wokuthintela, xa kungekho nto inokuthi ibonise ukungavumelani ngokuthe ngqo. Omnye umbuzo kukuba ingaba kulungile xa imeko eqhubekayo kwintsapho, kodwa ukuba iya kwenzeka, ayikwazi ukutshintshwa ngaphandle kwendlela yokukrazula.
Noko ke, kukho udidi lwemitshato, apho ukugxekwa kungumcimbi wozuko ngokwawo-njengendlela yokucinga kunye nokuba khona. Ngokuqhelekileyo aba bantu banamaqhinga, banxulumene nokuhleka kweengqondi kunye neqabane, kunye nabo, kubalulekile. Ewe, ukuba "ezinzima" ezinjalo zintlintlonelo ezimbini ngokulinganayo. Emva koko akukho mntu uvakalelwa kukuba "unyanzelekile" kwaye isibini esithandanayo asizange sithandane.