Ngaba uthanda ubudenge okanye uvakalelwa nje?

Igalela amanzi esiwaselayo, umoya ophefumulayo. Le ityuwa yentsingiselo yatshintsha yonke into engapheliyo. Uthando. Yona yithuba phakathi kwezi zibini, ihlabathi apho umntu angathathaka khona, athembele. Yaye ikhululekile kuzo zonke iintsi ngiselo enye, kodwa iyona nto. Ngothando kuvela ingqiqo. Yaye yonke into iba lula kakhulu. Uthando lwethu olutsha aluyikho iminyango - iphakamisa, iphakamise ngaphezu komhlaba. Siyaqonda ukuba siye sahluke. Unamandla, unempilo, ozimeleyo. Xa sihamba ngesandla, amathuba ethu athambekele kwiindawo eziphakamileyo. Silungele ukuba nje sibe ndawonye-sikhule ndawonye. Njengokuba kungenjalo. Kodwa, ngaphambi kokuba uhlangane nobunye, kufuneka uhlangane nawe. Kwaye kunzima kunzima. Uthando luyi-insanity okanye umva nje - fumana.

Ubindi ukuze uzive

Ukususela ngelo xesha baqala ukuphaphama xa bethetha, bezitshintsha kwakhona kwi-diary. Cinga ngendlela ukunyaniseka kwethu, isibindi, kunye nentlungu kuya kuthintela ngayo amanqaku ethu. Ukuqala ukusebenza kumfanekiso, batshintshe ngokwabo. Kwaye ukubonakala kwethu kwakubonakala kungenangqondo. Emhlabeni kwakukho imilinganiselo eyamkelwa ngokubanzi kunye neembono zethu ezixeliweyo malunga nabo: ukuhlonipha okanye ukunganaki. Kwaye bayeka ukuziqonda. Ithemba linyamalale ebudlelwaneni. Kodwa kwabonakala ngathi siqhelo, safunda ukuhlala. Ngamanye amaxesha kwafika umvakalelo. Sazama ukudibanisa umtshini omnye. Kodwa njengamaqhawe e-eras ezahlukeneyo, akaguqukanga. Sekude siyeke ukuqonda ukuba ngubani, apho singumgca wethu, kwaye ngoko ayikwazanga ukudibanisa nomfokazi. Ngoko kumntu onetalente, onobukroti nothando-ukuchithwa kuhlelwe. Siyazi kakuhle ubugcisa bokudlala ngeemvakalelo. Siyazifihla, siwubambe umnatha, sizame kwaye siphendule, sithintele ukujonga, sidle imilomo yethu, sigwebe ukuthuthumela emadolweni, ukubulala izicelo kunye nokuvuma. Ukukhala komphefumlo kuyavakala ngaphakathi, kodwa akukho mntu uyaliva. Asinakuxinzelelana ubudlelwane, asivumeli ukuba kunjalo nje. Sineziboniso ezaneleyo, yonke into ihlelekile, kwaye yintoni ephosakeleyo - siya kuhlala sisodwa kunye nathi. Kwaye ke sifuna ukucinga malunga nokuba kuya kuba kuhle kangakanani, siqonde ngeenxa zonke, thabathe njengoko kunjalo, vumela uhlale uqobo. Okwangoku, umzabalazo wethu kunye nemimoya yomoya iyaba yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uyeke ukuphawula. Ukuzibhokoxa ngeentlungu ezingabulaliyo. Ewe, siyaqina. Umbuzo, yintoni intengo.

Umtsalane wothando

Kwaye kuphela xa uthando lomntu wehlabathi lethu ludibeneyo, sinelisekile thina. Kwaye ngoku kuqubuka kwesithwele siyilibala igama lethu. Isithuba esiphakathi "soloko sikhumbula" kwaye "sele sigqitywe kwimemori" sigcwele ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo kwaye zingekho phantsi. Ukuseka uxhulumaniso oluqinileyo, kufuneka ubone ukuba ngubani ongaphakathi kuyo ngaphandle kwethu. Kwaye ngexesha lokumelana nomnqweno wokwakha iindaba ezimnandi ngaye. Emva koko, de kube saqonda ukuba sithandana nephupha, kukuye ukuba sakha iveli. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba amaza ayo asithwele kangakanani, ngelinye ilanga lixesha lokudibana nenyaniso. Kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, sithandwa kukuba: ixesha, elihamba kunye novuyo, lunokuthi lithathwa njengento yokuqala. Kwaye ibali lakho linomxholo. Ngokusoloko alulandeli. Umzuzwana xa isityhilelo sifikile, siphelela. Umlingisi washiya umfanekiso, i-charm yaphuphuma: yonke into esaziyo yayiyi-hero. Umdlali omnye, ngokuqhelekileyo ulwahlukileyo kwendima. Ngesinye isikhathi ubuthathaka bakhe bubekwe; AKAYE. "AYINYE," ngokudabukisayo isicacisa "akukho-" kwimpendulo. Ubudlelwane buyatshatyalaliswa kungekhona ngephutha yeengxabano ezincinci. Phakathi kwakho - umahluko opheleleyo. Ukungabi nokufana. Awufaneli kunye. Kwaye kutheni ungaqapheli oku ngaphambili?

Susa imaski

Uthando lokwenene luyinto ehambelana nokuzibonakalisa, ukukhupha iingubo zakho zokukhusela. Ukuphuka kwinqanaba leengcamango neemvakalelo. Ayikwazi ukwenza ngaphandle komonde, ukuqonda kunye nemfesane, kuluhlaza ukulawula ubomi bomlingane. Kuyingozi ukuba sicinge malunga noko kuya kwenzeka ntoni xa sithintela othandekayo. Kwaye bakulungele ukuthabatha amaqhinga. Ukuthula: ukuba unyanzela, ityhile; ukusebenzisa ubulumko besetyhini; ukudlala ngobuthathaka bakho. Ewe, umzekelo, njalo. Hlalani nilindile ukuze ningabangeli nantlungu. Yiba njengongenakwenzekayo. Abanye bakhetha eli qhinga "lokulondoloza ubudlelwane," nangona ngokuqinisekileyo libanxiba, bayihlupha. Ukulumkisa esinokuphatha ngayo umntu omthandayo kubangela ukuvela kwendlela entsha yokubaluleka phakathi kwethu. Kwaye kunokuba sithandane ngothando, sinobudlelwane bezinto ezithandwayo, kaninzi ziphikisana. Inkohlakalo ekhohlakeleyo kukuba, enqwenela ukwakha, siyabhubhisa. Ukuphupha kokusondelana, senza umona, ukucaphuka, umsindo, ukudana, ukungabi namandla nokungakhathali. Kancinci sithintela ingcambu yemanyano yethu - sisenxulunyaniselwano kunye. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuze sigweme ukukhanya, siphuthuma ukubeka ingongoma apho kungabikho. Enye yawa swoop, siphula ubuhlobo.

Ukuqhawula

Umfanekiso awuyena mntu okwamanje. Maxa wambi ayenjalo kuye. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo sinika ilungelo lokukhokela "I". Uyaziwa ngamancedo akhe kunye neentsilelo ezingenaso isimilo sethu, nangona kunjalo, ngexesha esizifumana kuzo kwaye siwamkele njengeyethu. Isityhilelo sokuba asikho thina, sivelisa isidingo sokutshintsha, ukubuyela kuye. Ngaphandle kwendlela ebuyayo, uvakalelo lufana nolwabadlali abadlala indima yomnye umntu. Uyinyaniso, uyabetha. Yaye makungacingi ukuba abanye, awukwazi ukuzifihla. Indlela yokubona ubuntu buntu "ukusuka kulezi ukuya kule" ikhokelela ekuhlaleni okungafanelekanga. Ngokomzekelo, siqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo ngokufaneleka kwethu. Njalo. Kwaye nangona sixolisa, asikhokelwa yizwi lesazela. Awufuni ukuphazamisa isimo sengqondo ngenxa yokuphikisana nenkani. Siza kuthetha ngeempendulo zabo ngenye ixesha. Kwaye ngoku siya kuhlala kwi-"effect effect". Ukuhlala emehlweni ethu inyaniso kwimeko ephakamileyo, siyazilahla ngokuphinda siphindwe. Kwaye xa sithande ukuphulaphula uluvo oluhlukileyo lwethu, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu ukuba sifumane isivumelwano nabantu bethu abasondeleyo, kuba siza kulungiswa yonke into. Ukungalindelekanga, abangaboniyo iingxabano zabanye abantu, sikholelwa ukuba bazinzile kwiimfundiso zabo. Enyanisweni, kunenzuzo ngathi ukuphosa! Njalo xa senza iphutha, iimeko zikhula ngendlela ethile. Ukususela apho sifumana ingxabano ngokubhekiselele kwinqanaba lokujonga. Umzekelo olula: siphula kumntu osondeleyo, uyasabela ekuhlaselweni kwethu kokuhlasela. Nantsi, nceda, bubungqina bokuba akasinandaba nathi. Kwaye ukuba le ndlela isetyenziswe kuzo zonke, esivela kuye ngasese ukuze sisixhase kunye nesihawu, musa ukufikelela kwisigqibo sokuba akukho mntu uyasikhathalela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqonda ukuba sithandekile kumntu (ukuba loo nto ingumntu osendle) ingaba yinto engqongqo yokubaluleka kwehlabathi lethu. Kwaye iimpazamo esiqhubekayo zokwenza ngokunyamezela, zikhusela kwizinto ezithusayo.

Ipilo

Ukuphakama kuphakama apho kungekho ndawo yokubaluleka kunye namandla. Lapho bazama ukuqonda kunye nokuqonda ilungelo lomnye kwinkululeko. Ngona zihlandlo zengxubevange kwimeko enjalo ayinaso ingozi kubo "I" kwaye ayilona ingxaki yokuhlukana. Xa usondele, qela iqela kunye neqabane kumanqanaba onke. Uyayamkela kwaye uyayixhasa, utshintshe amandla. Kwinkqubo yokwazisa, elidlulileyo lingabonakaliyo kwixesha lakho. Ukuqhathaniswa okutsha komphefumlo, ongathintekanga ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kusikhumbuze indlela ukuxhamla kubuthakathaka kwaye kunzima. Ngako oko, kwanamagama athile athembekileyo kufuneka aqondiswe ekudalweni. Ukuba uya kudibana nomoya ovulekile, ukungqubuzana akuyi kuba ngumqobo. Emva kwakho konke, nokuba yindlela nje yokuziqonda kunye nokuqonda kangcono umhlobo wakho. Enyanisweni, sonke sifuna oku.