Okokuqala, chaza ngokucacileyo isizathu sokuhamba kwesithandwa sakho okanye intanda yakho. Ekubeni uqale ufune ukuqonda isizathu, kwaye sele ukhangele indlela yokuphuma.
Ngokusoloko sikhohlwa malunga nezinto ezikhethekileyo zeengqondo zesini kunye neengqondo. Njengoko bethetha, amadoda aseMars, kunye nabasetyhini baseVenus, ngoko kunzima ukuba baqonde. Kodwa unako ... Nantsi into ephambili ukuqonda ezinye izinto.
Ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo, zama ukuqonda ngokwakho kuqala kwaye uqonde oko kukukhuthaza: ukunyamekela, uthando, ukuziva, ukuphindiselela, njl njl.
Kukho imizekelo emininzi ebomini, kodwa siya kucaphula enye.
Enye intombazana yayithandana nomfana owayebonakala ekhethekileyo. Yonke ayayi kuba yinto, kodwa kwenzeka ukuba wakhulelwa. Wayengafuni umntwana, ngoko ke waya ekukhiphe isisu. Iipilisi ezimbini kunye nayo yonke into ilungile. Ngokwe-naivety yakhe, wacinga ukuba baya kuhlala kunye. Kodwa wayenamanye amacebo kule nqanaba. Wamshiya engazi umphumo wokukhipha isisu. Emva koko, wazama ngaphandle kokuyibuyisela ...
Kwaye umzekelo wesibini. Enye intombazana yadibana nomfana wayo iminyaka emithathu. Babonakala babenolwalamano oluhle, kodwa ngandlela-thile waqala ukuphawula ukuba wayengenomdla wokumtyelela. Kwakukho ukungathandabuzeki kokuqala. Kungekudala waqalisa ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo kunye nentombi, njengoko watshoyo. Kwaye kwakunomusa wenene, ukuba kungenjalo kweso sihlobo sakhe. Baye baba ngabahlobo ukususela ebuntwaneni kwaye akukho nto yenzeke. Kodwa intombi yakhe sele idibene nabo ngamaxesha ambalwa kwinqaba, ivumelane "ngendlela enobubele," njengoko beyithanda ukuphendula. Kodwa amehlo akakwazi ukuthetha amanga, kodwa apha kwakukho into ebusweni. Wayephosa, waza wabuyela endlwini yakhe ngengomso kwaye kunye nesigxina esikhulu seenkhamlo zakhe ezizithandayo. Kodwa, hayi, akazange axolele ... Ngaphambi kwakhe kwakukhona umbuzo: njani ukuwubuyisela kwaye uqinise ubudlelwane nomntu othandekayo?
Amadoda acinga ukuba i-roses, isipho kunye namazwi amahle yinto yonke into ebhinqileyo kufuneka ibuye iphinde ibe yintando kunye nokuseka ubudlelwane, kodwa iphosakeleyo. Intuition yowesifazana yinto enzima, kodwa ayikho. Kwaye sinokuziva ngathi utshintsho oluthile kumntu okhethiweyo. Ngako oko, amazwi angenangqiqo awonakalisa intliziyo nomphefumlo wethu, kwaye oku akufanelanga nantoni na.
Okwesibini, zibuze: ngaba kuyimfuneko ukubuyisela lo mthando nokuseka ubudlelwane nomntu othandekayo? Ukususela kwimeko echazwe ngasentla kucacile ukuba uthando lwalukho ngakwesinye icala, kunye nomdla omnye. Wayemthanda, kwaye wavuma ukuba amthande. Kwaye ngoko kubudlelwane obuninzi. Kodwa sikhohlwa ukuzibuza umbuzo: kutheni ubuya? Ngaba siyayifuna ngokwenene? Ikomityi ephukileyo ayisayihlanganiswa kunye, kwaye xa iphumelela, ukuba i-crack iseya kuhlala, kwaye izakukhumbuza ngokwayo.
Okwesithathu, khumbula ukuba phakathi kwakho kukho abantu abaninzi, abahlobo abakulungele ukukunceda nokukuxhasa. Nceda uqhagamshelane nomnye wabahlobo bakho. Ukuphazamisa isikhashana, kwaye uya kuziva ungcono. Kwaye ke ngeengcinga ezintsha uzama ukuqonda imeko.
Ukuba imeko ilukhuni kangangokuthi wena ngokwakho awukwazi ukuyifumanisa, ngoko kufuneka u tyelele isazi sengqondo sengqondo esiza kuzama ukunceda.
Ingcali onolwazi, ngokuqinisekileyo, ayiyi kukunika isicwangciso esicwangcisiweyo sezenzo zakho, kodwa iya kunceda ukufumana iinkcukacha ezithile kwiinkalo zakho kunye nomlingane. Uya kukunceda wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo, unike imizekelo. Iingcali zeengqondo azikwazi ukunika isisombululo kwingxaki, kodwa zama ukuzisa umntu kuloo ndlela.
Into ephambili kukuba, kholelwa ukuba yonke into iya kulungile! Iingcamango ezilungileyo zikhangela abantu abalungileyo.
Ukuba unquma ukubuyisela uthando, lo mntu, ukwanele kwizenzo zakho. Kufuneka uqaphele ngokucacileyo ngezenzo zakho. Abanye abantu abazi nje ukuba bathande kwaye akukho nto enokuyenza apha. Nokuba ukhulelwe kuye, kungekhona ukuba uya kuhlala nawe. Yaye ukuba ihlala, inyanga iya kuhlala enye ibe isashiya. Ngoko cingisisa ngaphambi kokuba ubuyele uthando.