Abaqondi isizathu sokuhlukana kwakho. Ngaphambi kokuba kube nengxoxo enzima, kuya kubakho ukufumanisa indlela esomeleleyo ngayo imeko yengqondo yomntwana.
Abazali abaqonda yonke imbopheleleko kufuneka baqale bacinge ngezingane zabo, intlalontle yabo, kodwa musa ukulibala ukuba banelungelo lonwabo. Abazali abaqhawule umtshato, baya kuqhubeka bexubana nabanye, ukuze bazi ukuba kwenzekani kumntwana wabo. Kwaye akuyi kubangela ukuba ngubani umntwana (umama okanye utata). Banoxanduva lokubambisana komntwana, nangona baqhawule umtshato
Unako, xa uvela kwisitalato okanye kwisitoreji, qalisa ingxoxo nomntwana ngendlela yefayile okanye umdlalo: Kukho intsapho enye ehlala emhlabeni (umama, uyise kunye nendodana yabo). Wayemdala njengoko ukhona ngoku. Kwaye ngoko umama (uTata) uthi ufuna ukuxelela ezinye iindaba ezibalulekileyo kuye. Bambuze ukuba bathethe iingcamango zabo malunga noko bafuna ukuthetha kuye. Mamela ngokunyamekileyo.
- Umntwana unokucinga ukuba uya kuhamba kwenye indawo ukuya kwelinye ilizwe okanye uhambele. Yintoni elindelwe kuye kukumangalisa okukhulu, ekulindele. Ukuba kunjalo, intliziyo yakhe ihlaziye kwaye akukho nto ibangela ukukhathazeka, unokuqalisa ngokukhululekile incoko naye.
- Ukuba umntwana wakho ucinga ngento yokuba umntu osweleyo ufile okanye ugula kakhulu, ngoko kufuneka uqikelele. Musa ukukhawuleza ukuvakalisa isigqibo sakho. Kufuneka ukuba ulinde kancane, ukuze ungalimazi kwaye ungabangela umntwana ukuba abe nengxaki yokugula kwengqondo. Umphefumlo womntwana usengozini kakhulu.
Xa ubona ukuba umntwana ulungele incoko enjalo, ke akukho mfuneko yokumisa intetho ebhokisini elide, kuba ukuba umntwana uya kuphila ngokungazi - ngakumbi nakakhulu. Mane uqiniseke ukuba uthetha kwingxoxo owaphulaphula uyihlo kungekhona ngenxa yakhe.
Ukuba umntwana ungakayifinyelela kwiminyaka emithathu, ngoko unokumxelela ukuba wena kunye noyihlo akahlali ndawonye. Ukuba upapa uya kuhlala ngoku ngaphandle kwakho.
Ukuba umntwana uneminyaka engaphezu kwe-6 ubudala, ngoko uya kuba nencoko enzima. Kwaye kubalulekile ukwazi indlela yokuchazela umntwana ukuba umama uya kuhlala nomnye umntu ngaphandle kokukhathazeka.
Uya kufuneka uxelele umntwana ukuba wena noTata bahlukana ngesizathu esinye. Ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ebomini abantu kufuneka bahlule, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba umntwana akathandwa ngabazali babo. Zama ukugcina le ngxoxo kwindawo ekhululekile kwaye akukho nabasemzini kunye nawe. Chaza kumntwana ukuba baya kuhamba noTata ngaphambili, kodwa akayi kuhlala nabo. Ukuba uPata uya kuhlala ecela kunoma yintoni imeko enzima. Akudingeki ukuba udibanise umntwana kunye noyise kwaye uthethe ngaye zonke iintlobo zokungcola. Ukuba yonke into iya kuhlala ifana neye ngoku, kuphela ukuba uya kuhlala ngokuhlukileyo iya kutshintsha. Kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukuxelela umntwana ukuba omnye umntu uya kuhlala nawe kunye naye ngoku.
Umntwana unokulumkela ngokukhetha kwakho. Kungenzeka ukuba umntwana angakwazi ukuchasa ngokukrakra ukuba ebomini bakho kwakukho omnye umntu. Abantwana abangaphezu kweminyaka asixhenxe baphendule kakuhle imeko yomama. Ukuba uzolile, umntwana uya kuziva ekhululekile. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, umntwana kufuneka abe nomuva ukuba ukhuselwe.
Ngaphambi kokuba uholele umntu omtsha okhethiweyo, akudingeki ukuba ubuze umntwana ukuba unokuhlala "nalo malume". Emva kwakho konke, ngalo mbuzo uphendule yonke imbopheleleko kumntwana. Oku akufanele kwenziwe nakweyiphi na imeko. Ukufaneleka kufanele kwenzeke kuphela xa ubuhlobo bakho sele sele bubi kakhulu kwaye kukho ubungqina obupheleleyo ukuba ufuna ukudibanisa ikusasa lakho elizayo nalo mntu. Akufanelekile ukuba abatsha abakhethiweyo bamele umntwana njengotata wakhe omtsha. Emva koko, sele esele uyise. Unako ukwenza ubuhlobo naye kwaye ube ngumhlobo omhle kuye. Kwixesha elizayo, umntwana wakho angafuna ukuba into efanayo. Kodwa ngoko ungalindelanga oku, kuba ngomntwana ungumntu ongaqhelekanga. Kwaye kuya kuba nzima kuye ukuba aqheleke kumfokazi. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntwana unempendulo engalunganga kwinto yokuba omnye umntu uya kuhlala kunye nonina ngokuqonda. Umntu ofuna ukuhlala naye kufuneka afune indlela yokufumana umntwana wakho. Zama ukuba ngumhlobo omhle kuye ukuze umntwana amthembe. Emva koko awuyi kuba neengxaki kwimpilo kamva. Kodwa kufuneka aqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba akanako ukutshintsha umntwana wakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana unokuzama ukuxolelanisa umama noyise, kuba wayeya kuthandana nomama noyise bebonke. Kwaye kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba unelungelo elipheleleyo lobumfihlo kunye nolonwabo.
Kumntwana evakalelwa kukuba bayamthanda, bahlawule ngakumbi. Mgxeke, umanga uze umxelele ukuba uyakuthanda. Zama uzame ukuxelela umntwana inyaniso, ukuze azi ukuba uyamthemba. Emva koko uza kuza lula kwisigqibo seengxaki kwaye ufumane isisombululo esheshayo nesilungileyo nayiphi na imeko. Ukuba umntwana uneminyaka engaphezu kwe-10 ubudala, zama ukuthetha naye ngeenyawo ezilinganayo, ngoko uya kukuqonda kangcono kwiimeko ezithile.
Ukuba unquma ukungena umtshato wesibini, kufuneka ukhusele umntwana wakho rhoqo xa kukho isizathu. Ngoko umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba ukhuselwe. Emva koko, ngoku ubaluleke ngakumbi kuye kunomntu ongaphandle.