Umntwana wakho ukhulile kwaye ufuna ukuthetha nabanye abantwana. Ukuphuma kokuqala kudla rhoqo kwiyadi. Indawo yokudlala yabantwana ngokuguquka, i-sandbox kunye nabemi abancinci baba ngumzekelo oncitshisiweyo woluntu ophila ngemithetho. Kulapha ukuba abantwana bafunde izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu: vumela, bancede, bathetha, bathabathe, baqonde, baqonde iimvakalelo zabo nabanye.
Phantse ngoko kanye unina uhlangabezana nokuziphatha kakubi kwabantwana abancinci. Abanye abazali bayesaba kwaye abazi ukuba basabele njani. Abanye abantu abadala "ukuxhatshaza" abantwana abasebenzisa. Nangona kunjalo, akukho mpendulo yokuqala okanye yesibini echanekileyo. Ukuziphatha kweentsana kuyaqondakala, kodwa ukulungiswa kobugwenxa kubantwana abancinci kuyadingeka.
Little hooligans.
Abantwana abaninzi abangaphantsi kweminyaka emithathu ubudala bazama inxaxheba yecala. Bayaluma, basunduze, batye, bafunge. Abaqondi nje oko kubangela intlungu, kwaye abazi ukuba bazive njani iintlungu zabanye njengabo. Abantwana abanakukwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo zabo okwangoku, benza ngokugqithiseleyo: bathabatha into yokudlala - kuthetha ukuba umonakalo kufuneka atshaywe, umatshini wesigxina ube nomdla - kulula ukusikrazula ngaphandle kwezandla.
Ukuziphatha kakubi kwabantwana abancinci akusizi nto ukuhlwaya. Abaqondi nje oko bafumana kubantu abadala. Ukulungiswa kobugwenxa babantwana kuqhutyelwa phambili kwishedyuli. Akuyimfuneko ukuba uhlale kwi-sandbox kwaye ulawula yonke intshukumo yomntwana. Kwanele ukuhlala kufuphi nexesha lokungenelela kwimpikiswano. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, abantwana abayi kubangela ukulimala kakhulu. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba acele imvume ngaphambi kokuba athathe umdlalo womnye umntu. Chaza ukuba kutheni kubalulekile ukuba ulinde ixesha lakho, kutheni kubalulekile ukuphatha abantwana abancinci ngokuzithoba. Ngokutsho kweengcali zeengqondo, umntwana kufuneka afundiswe ukuba adlale nabanye abantwana. Emva kwakho konke, le yikhono elifanayo lokubamba i-spoon ngokwakho, ukuxubusha amathoyizi kuwe, ukuya ebhodweni. Isikhundla sokungathinteki sikhokelela ekubeni abantwana bavelisa umvo wokuvumela. Enyanisweni, abantwana baya kuqonda, kodwa ukucacisa ubudlelwane banokuba bukhohlakele.
Ukuba umntwana unamandla.
• Ungamxhaphazi umntwana phambi kobanye abantwana-ukuchazela umntwana ukuba angaphathi kakuhle, uthathe umonde;
• fumana izizathu zokungqubana;
• Bonisa kwaye uxelele kumntwana iziphumo zokuxabana: "Khangela, intsana ibuhlungu kwaye ibuhlungu, iyakhala";
• Qinisekisa ukuba unike iinketho ezininzi zokusombulula ingxabano: buyisela into yokudlala, ukuzisola, ukucela ukuxolelwa;
• Chaza indlela yokwenza into elungileyo: cela imoto, unikele ukudlala kunye, okanye utshintshe amathoyizi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali bafundisa abantwana ukuba banike utshintsho. Ngoko, izazi zengqondo zivuma ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba akunakwenzeka ukwenza oku. Ekupheleni, kungekhona umntwana wommelwane oza kuhlupheka, kodwa umntwana ozithandayo. Kwaye ekupheleni - abazali ngokwabo. Abantwana abaye bafunda ukuxazulula iingxabano ngokuziphatha kakubi, bekhulile, bazalise "amaninzi". Ukunyanzela kuvelisa ulwalamano oluhle, kungekhona uthando kunye nentlonipho. Kubantwana abancinci, umqondo othi "ukuguquka" awunakunxulumaniswa nombono othi "ukuzimela wena". Abantwana abaqondi ukuba zeziphi "iinguqu" ezifunekayo ukuba zinikezwe kwaye ziphi amandla. Kwabantwana kukho umonakalo weengcamango. Bangakwazi ukuqala "ukunikela utshintsho" kubazali xa benqabela into ethile, okanye ungathengi. Abantwana baya kwinqanaba le-egoists, kwaye kwimeko enokunyanzelwayo - kwinqanaba elingenakunzima. Eyona nto ikhethekileyo kukujongana nabahlukumezi, ukufundisa umntwana wezopolitiko: ukulungisa iingxabano ngamazwi.
Abanikazi abancinci.
Umgaqo oyintloko womdlalo kunye noontanga - zonke iityshi ziqhelekileyo ngexesha elide. Wonke umntu kufuneka abe nelungelo lokudlala nayiphi na into yokudlala. Kodwa ukuze bakwazi ukwabelana, umntwana omncinci usafuna ukufunda. Kubantwana kwiminyaka engama-2-3 umva womnini uyaqhubeka. Ingcamango "yam" ibonakala kwaye iqala ukuqinisa amalungelo abo kwipropati. Ngezinye izihlandlo abantwana abanakuqonda ukuba amathoyizi athathwe kuphela ngexesha lomdlalo, kungekhona ngonaphakade. Bathukuthele baze bathuka. Apha umsebenzi wabazali ekulungiseni ulwaphulo lwabantwana abaselula luqala.
Okokuqala, ungabizi umnxeba. Emva koko, ufunda ukufunda kwiqela. Mfundise ukuba ahlanganyele. Yenza uncomelo: unomusa kakhulu, ngoko unesiqiniseko sokubelana ngokudlala kunye nabafana. Memela uvelwano: omnye umntwana akanalo ithoyizi enhle, kodwa ufuna ukuyibeka ezandleni zakhe! Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, abantwana bayavuma ukutshintshisana: unike ukudlala ifosholo yakho, kwaye uya kunikwa isikhunta somthi. Into ephambili kukuba abantwana bafanele bahlanganyele kunye nokuzingela, kungekhona phantsi kokuhlaselwa kwabantu abadala. Jabulela kwaye udumise umntwana xa egqiba ekubeni ahlanganyele inqola yakhe eyintandokazi. Uvuyo lwakho luya kuba ngumvuzo ongcono kakhulu kulutsha.
Ukuba umntwana akafuni ukwahlula kunye nepropathi, musa ukumnyanzela. Ngaphandle koko, inkunzi iya kufumana ingcinezelo yesibini yengqondo evela kumama wakhe othandekayo. Okokuqala, uya kuba neentlungu zentlungu kwaye ngelixa elizayo uya kubelana naye ngokudlala. Okwesibini, uya kucinga ukuba umntu osondeleyo wahlala kwicala lomxhaphazi waza wamngcatsha. Njalo uxhasa umntwana wakho! Kakade, inkunzi kufuneka ifunde ukwabelana, kodwa ingabi yingozi kwimiba yakhe. Ixesha liya kuza, kwaye uya kufunda imigaqo yeqela.
Iingcebiso zokulungisa ulwaphulo lwabantwana.
Okokuqala, oomama ngokwabo kufuneka bayeke ukubona i-theatre yemisebenzi kwi-sandbox yesiqhelo. Ewe, umntwana ozithandayo unokunyanzelwa, uthathe umdlalo okanye utshabalalise i-kurichik. Akunandaba! Olunye uxhaphalo kubantwana luyinto efanayo. Isizathu esiningi sokufundisa umntwana isiseko sezopolitiko.
Ubuncinane ikhoneni lelihlo, kodwa jonga abantwana bedlala. Imbambano ingabonakala ibonakala kwindawo elinganayo. Into ephambili ayifuni ukuphosakela intsingiselo yenkinga, ke ukucacisa kubantwana indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle. Ngaphandle kwakho, umntwana akayazi ukuba isanti ayinakulungeka, kwaye kuthatha iyure ukuthabatha - ukuzingca.
Nika inkululeko yendoda! Ungayifaki yonke iminithi. Kubalulekile ukubetha ibhalansi phakathi kokuziphatha, kunye nenkululeko yokuthatha isenzo. Ezinye izinto umntwana uluncedo ukuzifunda ngokwakhe. Oko kukuthi, baqale bavumela abantwana ukuba basombulule ingxabano. Kodwa kufuneka uqaphele ingxaki, ukuchaza imigaqo yokuziphatha, ukuba abantwana abavumelani kakuhle.
Ukuphazamiseka kwabazali kuyimfuneko ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana kungaholela ekulimaleni. Ungalibali ukulungisa iingxabano zabantwana kunye nabazali babo. Ungalokothi uphakamise isandla sakho kwaye ungaphakamisi ilizwi lakho komnye umntwana. Kwaye nangona kunjalo - eyakhe! Kuphikisana nabanye abazali, awukwazi ukuphendulela kwiimangalo kunye nokuhlambalaza.
Inhlanhla!