Abaninzi bethu banamathele kakhulu kwimpilo yabantwana bethu: kubalulekile ukuba kubonakale ukukhwehlela lula - kwaye sele sele silulungele kunye namacwecwe kunye nama-broths. Sibeka iliso umsebenzi wezo zonke izitho kunye neenkqubo zomzimba womntwana ngaphandle kweyodwa into: iimbilini zabantwana bethu ziza kuqala. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo? Iziphazamiso zentlungu ebantwini kunye nemiqondiso yazo ziyinhloko yengxoxo namhlanje.
Zonke ziqala ngokusana. Kutheni umntwana ekhala kakhulu? Njengomthetho, bayichaza ngokulula: unomntu onqabileyo. Enyanisweni, uyakhala ngenxa yezizathu ezipheleleyo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyakunakekelwa kakuhle, okanye uyaphila, okanye uyagula. Oko kukuthi, akukho nto injalo njenge-whims. Oko sikubiza ngokuba ngumntu ombi, njengommiselo, kuthetha ukuba umntu uyagula nge-neurosis. Hayi, namhlanje izibalo malunga nezifo eziphazamisayo ebantwini zididekile: ngaphezu kwesigamu sabantwana besikolo babenokufumana "ukuphazamiseka kweentlungu" ukuba abazali babo beza kukukhumbula ukutyelela ugqirha. Kodwa, ngelishwa, iimeko kuphela eziye zinyanzeliswa ziya kwiklinikhi.
IINKCUKACHA ZEMPILO: UBHISHINISI AKUSEKHAKATHI KWAMAZIKO ...
Ngokuqhelekileyo bathi: "Unentloni." Enyanisweni, le ngcamango ingaquka nantoni na oyithandayo, kuba uluhlu lwezifo ezibonakalisa umfanekiso "wesaba" alukho nje kuphela, kodwa zihluke ngezizathu zangaphakathi. Ukuncitshiswa kubangelwa ngumntwana (umzekelo, njengabantwana-i-neuropaths), kubakho ngendlela yokufunwa kwemfuneko, kwaye ingafunyanwa ngenxa yeemvavanyo ezinzima zobomi okanye imfundo engafanelekanga. Iqumrhu elikhawulezayo lokutshatyalaliswa liyingxenye eyahlukileyo yengqondo, kunye nenkqubo yesifo okanye i-psyche yonke. Kule meko, uhlobo lweengxaki zeentlungu kubantwana kunye nemiqondiso yazo lunokufunyanwa kuphela ngugqirha.
UKWENZEKA: NEUROSE!
Yintoni engenakuyenza ibe yinto ebalulekileyo yobomi bomntu wonke? Iingxaki zentsapho, imeko ezinzima zobomi kunye noxinzelelo. Akunjalo yonke inyama, ejongene nayo, iya kumela ukukhusela (emva koko, abanye abantu, nangona emva kokuwa phantsi kwemvula eqhelekileyo, bathabathe ngokukhawuleza kubanda). Ngoko umntwana, ekufumaneni kwimeko enzima, unokunika impendulo engathandabuzekiyo (cwangcisa i-hysterics, i-close yourself, njl njl.). Ukuba iimpendulo ezinjalo ngumkhwa, mhlawumbi umntwana unengxaki ye-neurosis (ngesiGrike- "isifo sesifo"), isifo esifanele siphathwe yi-neurologist. Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba zihlala zixhomekeke kwimpikiswano yangaphakathi: nguye "ophindaphinda kabini" umntwana kwaye umenze ahlale engaqinisekanga. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba abantwana babonakalise izinto ezibizwa ngokuba yi-monosymptomatic neuroses, ezibonakaliswa yodwa kuphela, kodwa zibonakalisa uphawu oluqhakazileyo (ukuxubha, ukukhawula, i-enuresis, njl.). Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali ngokwabo bavusa ukuphuhliswa kwengane ye-neurosis ngezenzo ezingalunganga.
IIMPAKATHI ZABAZALI
♦ Abazali banikela umntwana umthwalo okhulayo, ukuwanika kwizikolo ezimbini, iindidi ezahlukeneyo, njl.
♦ Abazali bayazibona zabo iimpazamo kumntwana kwaye bazame ukulwa nazo.
♦ Unina akabonakalanga uthando lwakhe kumntwana, okwenza kucace ukuba indawo yakhe kufuneka izuze.
♦ Umama ongenamsebenzi ujikeleze umntwana ngokunyamekela.
♦ Umntwana uba ngumngqina weentlonelo kwintsapho.
Zakho izenzo:
Kakade ke, iipilisi kuphela ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa ayikwazi ukuphiliswa. Uninzi kunokwenzeka, ngoxa uncedo lugqirha uza kufuneka ucinge ngendlela yakho yobomi. Emva kwakho konke, ukwenzela ukukhusela ingxaki yomntwana, kufuneka kuqala kuqala ukulawula ukuziphatha kwakho. Kukho imigaqo ekufuneka ibonelelwe:
♦ Ungazami ukuyeka ukubonakaliswa kunye neempawu ze-neurosis (ukuphazamiseka kokulala, ukugcoba, njl njl.) - kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuchonga izizathu.
♦ Ukuba wena ubhekene nokuphazamiseka kweentlanzi, zama ukunyanga ubuncinane ngenxa yomntwana.
♦ Ukuba wena unengxaki kubazali bakho njengomntwana, zama ukuvumela oku kubantwana bakho.
OKUYA KUQALA:
♦ ukunyanzelisa oontanga ekuphuculweni kwengqondo;
♦ Ukutshatyalaliswa kwentando yomntwana ngento ethile (umzekelo, kuphela kwisiTshayina okanye kuphela kwiimathematika eziphezulu);
♦ Ukuba umntwana uya ekhanda kunye nomdlalo aze atshintshe ngokunyanisekileyo (umzekelo, uxelela wonke umntu ukuba uye waba yinja, kwaye uhamba yonke imihla kuzo zonke ezine);
♦ Ukuba ulahlekelwa ngumdla ebomini, uyayeka ukuzilandela;
♦ Ukuba umntwana unengqondo (uthetha naye, uphulaphula into);
♦ Ukuba umntwana ulala kwaye ulala enkqantosini epheleleyo (umzekelo, ngaloo busuku bathabatha abafokazi kuye okanye ukuba wahlakaza amafu).
KUNYE:
Malunga ne "physicists" kunye "neengoma"
Kwindlela yokudliwano-ndlebe kwabazali abayizinkulungwane eziliqela, kwafunyaniswa ukuba ukuqubuka kweengxaki zisesifo xa abantwana beya esikolweni (iminyaka eyi-8-12). Iingcali zengqondo zibonisa ukuba oku kungenguqu kuphela kwindlela yokuphila kunye nokwanda komthwalo ngeli xesha, kodwa nakwizinto ezikhethileyo zendlela yokufundisa ekhoyo ezikolweni, ekuthi, ngokomthetho, ugxininiswe "kwindawo ekhohlo" (oko kukuthi, ngokubhekisele ngakumbi kumathematika kunye neetekisi). Ilungelo-uluntu-i-hemisphere lukhula ngokuthe ngcembe kwinkqubo yokufunda, nangona abantwana abanezifundo ezinjengezo zifundo zingekho ngaphantsi.
"Ihashe kunye neyontya ephazamisayo"
Iingcali zengqondo ziye zahlula abantu ngamaqela: ngokubhekiselele kuhlobo lwesimo sengqondo, ngokwemvelo esilawulayo, njalo njalo. Ukwazi ezi zigaba, uya kuba nako ukucacisa uhlobo lomntwana wakho kwaye ufundise ngokufanelekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isondo se-"ego" (isibindi) umntwana, kuyimfuneko ukuyikhusela ekukhuleni, kwaye "i-genophilic" (isetyhini), ngokuchaseneyo, ukukhusela kwiintlobo zegazi kunye nokungabinqandeli. Ngokufanayo, musa ukuhlala uchukumisa kwaye ulungelelanise i-phlegmatic, zama ukucima i-choleric engapheliyo, i-cheer melancholic. Ukuba uzama ukulungelelanisa umntwana kumgangatho oqhelekileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubangela ukuphazamiseka kwemihlaba kunye nokuxabana kwangaphakathi.
Neuroses - abasengozini
♦ abantwana abanamahloni abangaqinisekanga ngokwabo;
♦ abantwana abanganikwa bani na ukuzimela;
♦ ukuphazamiseka ngokwemvelo, abantwana abaqaphelisayo;
♦ ukuthobela, "abantwana abaqhubekileyo" (kunye nokuphakanyiswa okwenyukayo);
♦ Abantwana abancitshisiwe okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukwanda komsebenzi;
♦ Abantwana abanobuqili abangakwaziyo ukuzimela;
♦ abantwana banelungelo lokufumana amava anamandla nakwezinye iintsilelo ezincinane (okanye inhlanhla);
♦ "abantwana abangafunekiyo" (umzekelo, "ngokwesini") okanye abantwana abazalwa ngexesha elingafanelekanga kubazali (ukushisa okufundayo, inkontileka enenzuzo, njl.).