Kubomi bethu kukho izinto ezahlukeneyo, ezilungileyo kwaye akunjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokwenzeka ukuba umntu owamthandayo kwaye osithandayo ngokuzenzekelayo utshintsho lwengqondo, iimvakalelo ziyahamba kwaye umtshato ovuyayo uyaphula. Kwaye ngokuqhawula, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukwahlula kwepropathi kuqala. Kulo mzuzwana ukuba iinkalo ezimbi kakhulu zabantu zibonakalisiwe, kwaye, kubonakala ngathi, inkqubo elula iphenduka isihogo. Le meko inokunyanzeliswa ngakumbi xa intsapho inabantwana. Ngoku siza kuthetha malunga nokwenza ntoni xa ukukhutshwa kwabantwana kuqala kwiimeko zokuqhawula umtshato.
Abasetyhini abaninzi abazi umthetho, ngokunjalo abantwana abakhuphayo kwiimeko zokuqhawula umtshato bayabethusa ngokwenene. Ewe, le meko imbi kakhulu, kuba ukukhupha abantwana kuyinto yokugqibela kumntu. Nangona uqhawule umtshato, ufanele akhumbule ukuba unguyise. Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, akubona bonke abantu abaye bafana neenkohlakalo njengoko bebonakala ngathi. Ngoko ke, ukuze bakhusele abantwana babo ubuncinci bezinto ezibonakalayo, kuyafuneka ukuba bazi ukuba zeziphi iimeko ezikhutshwayo, kwaye zingekho.
Imiba yesivumelwano somtshato
Masiqale ngesivumelwano somtshato. Ukuba isivumelwano somtshato sisayinwe phakathi kwakho kunye nomyeni wakho wangaphambili, apho kucaciswe ngokucacileyo ukuba indlu ingeyakhe kwaye kuphela kuye, unokunyusa umfazi nabantwana bakhe. Kungenxa yoko, kulabo abaza kutshata baze basayine isivumelwano somtshato, le nkcazelo iya kuba luncedo kakhulu. Abaninzi abafazi balahlekelwa zizathu zabo zothando kunye namaphepha amaphepha angabikho ngaphandle, okukhokelela kwiziphumo ezinzima. Ngoko ke, xa uqulunqa isivumelwano somtshato, qiniseka ukuba xa umtshato uqeshwe, abantwana bakho banelungelo lokwenza inxalenye yendawo yokuhlala.
Ikhuphe imvume yokuhlala kwindlu yokuhlala yomyeni
Kufuneka uqaphele ngokukhawuleza ukuba kwimeko apho ipropati ingowomyeni wayo, inkundla, emva kokuphononongwa kwimeko, iyakwazi ukudibana nawe. Ukuba umfazi kunye nabantwana abanalo nhlobo yokuphila, indawo yokuhlala, njalo njalo, inkundla inokumenza umyeni anikezele indawo yokuhlala kumfazi wangaphambili kunye nabantwana. Nangona kunjalo, oku kwenzeka ukuba unikezwe ixesha elithile. Ngoko ke, nangona ulawula ukuhlala kwindlu yokuhlala yomyeni wakho, khumbula ukuba unexesha elichanekileyo lokufumana izindlu kunye nomsebenzi. Ukuthetha, inkundla ikunika ithuba lokuba "uhambe ngeenyawo zakho," kodwa ixesha leli lilinganiselwe.
Abancinane abantwana
Olunye uhlobo olunefuthe oluchaphazela ukuba ingaba umyeni unako ukugxotha abantwana xa umtshato uqeshwe. Ukuba abantwana banabantwana kwaye abanalo indawo yokuhlala, inkundla inyanzelekile ukuba inikeze uyihlo indawo yokuhlala kuyo ininzi, kodwa engenalungelo lokufa. Okokuthi, abantwana bakho baya kuba nako ukuhlala kwindlu yokuhlala kayise, kodwa abanalo iimitha ezili-square nganye. Kwaye emva kokufika kweminyaka, unako ukuzincama ukuba abantwana bashiye indawo yakhe yokuhlala. Wena, njengomntu owayengumfazi, ungenalo ilungelo lokuhlala kwindawo yokuhlala yomntu.
Ipropati efunyenwe ngumsebenzi ohlanganyelweyo
Kuhle kakhulu xa indlu okanye indlu ifunyanwa ngumsebenzi ohlangeneyo emva kokuba ubhalise umtshato. Kule meko, le ndoda ayinalo ilungelo lokukhupha ngaphandle kwendlu, wena kunye nabantwana. Inyaniso kukuba ngokwemithetho, idibeneyo efunyenwe ipropati iyahlula kwisiqingatha. Ngoko ke, ukuba awufuni ukuhlala nomyeni wangaphambili kwelinye igumbi, ngoko kufuneka avume ukutshintsha kwendawo yokuhlala. Xa kunqatshelwe, le nkqubo iya kwenziwa kuphela enkundleni. Abantwana bakho, njengezindlalifa ezisemthethweni, banelungelo lokuhlala ezilinganayo kwiindawo zokuhlala, zombini kunye nomyeni wakho wangaphambili.
Kwaye into yokugqibela ukuyikhumbula: ukuze ufune ibango lelungelo lezindlu, wena kunye nabantwana bakho kufuneka ukuba ubhalise. Kule meko inkundla inesizathu esisemthethweni sokunyanzela umntu ukuba ahlukanise indawo yokuhlala okanye aphile abantwana endlwini yakhe. Ukuba akukho propiska, ngoko awukho namalungelo, kwaye, mhlawumbi, inkundla ayinakukunceda apha.