Xa umntu ekhupha abantwana bakhe umfazi emnye umtshato, oku kubonwa njengesiqhelo. Kodwa xa, ngokuchasene ngqo, kukho iingxaki ezininzi. Umfazi kaninzi akakwazi ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo nomntwana womyeni wakhe. Ngenxa yoko, kukho iingxaki rhoqo phakathi kwabatshatileyo.
Indlela yokuphakamisa kakuhle umyeni wengane kwenye yomtshato. Ukuqala, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ungumdala. Umntwana uyinto encinci kwaye engakhuselekanga. Kudinga uninzi lwe-caress kunye neengqalelo kubantu abadala.
Okokuqala, kufuneka uziqhenye ngokuyinhloko kumyeni wakho, ukuba akazange amshiye umntwana wakhe, ngokungafani namaninzi amaninzi. Yaye ungaziveleli iimvakalelo zakho kunye nomona, inkunzi yakho ayizange ikwenze ingozi. Kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba uthathe umntwana kwintsapho xa uqala ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho.
Yintoni omele uyenze ukuba uyamkela umntwana ngeengalo ezivulekile kwaye unike i-lapel impendulo? Le yimeko eqhelekileyo kwaye idinga isisombululo esincinci kakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana ovela kumtshato odlulileyo uqala ukuziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo: unenkohliso, uhlambalaza, ungcolisayo, uziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo, kwaye uqala ukugxekisa. Ukunika oku kuqonda ukuba unina wayehlala ehle kunani.
Nantoni na enyenzayo, umntwana uyaziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo. Zama ukuqonda umntwana, walahlekelwa ngumama wakhe, wakhupha ngaphandle kwesiqhelo sakhe soqhagamshelwano. Ngomntwana, le meko ilukhuni kunokuba wena. Uya kukuqhathanisa nonina kuyo yonke into, kwaye uya kuhlala ulahlekile, kungakhathaliseki ukuba unina. Kufuneka ukuncede ukujongana nale ngxaki ewele kumntwana.
Okokuqala, zama ukushiya umntwana kunye nomyeni wakhe ngokuqhelekileyo yedwa. Bavumele baye kwi-cinema kunye, kwiindawo zemidlalo, kwi-zoo. Ukuba befuna ukwenza into kunye ekhaya, uhamba nje kwisitoreji, uze ucele ukuba bathande isandi. Yenza konke okungahambiyo ukuze umlingane nosana lwakhe bangacingi ukuba uye ngqo kwivenkile, ubashiye bodwa. Ngaphandle kwakho bangakwazi ukuthetha ngezihloko ongazikwazi ukuxoxa ngazo.
Okwesibini, musa ukutyhubela umntwana ngesipho kunye nokuqwalasela. Abantwana bazivakale kakhulu ubuqhetseba nokuthoba. Ukuba ufuna ukunika umntwana wakho isipho, yenza oko, umntwana uya kwamkela ngokubulela. Kodwa, ukuba unika izipho kunye neesekese imihla ngemihla, uya kuziva ukunyamezela kwakho, kwaye akukho nto. Lumkela umntwana, kodwa yenza ngentliziyo yakho yonke, ungagxothi amazinyo, qalisa ukuthetha naye uze udlale naye. Akuyi kubakho nantoni na. Kancinci, isimo sakhe sengqondo siya kuqala ukutshintsha.
Okwesithathu, kufuneka uxoxe nomyeni wakho. Mbuze indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle kumntwana wakhe. Hlaziya oko wenzayo okulungileyo nokungalunganga. Kule ngxaki, iqabane lakho kufuneka liqonde ukuba uzimisele ukuseka ubudlelwane nomntwana. Mhlawumbi ngeli xesha, iqabane lakho liyakunceda, kwaye liza kunika isandla ngoncedo kumacala omabini, kwaye liya kukuxhuma wena nomntwana wakhe.
Okwesine, zama ukuhlala nomntwana wodwa. Musa nje ukwenza oku ixesha elide. Ngeli xesha, qhagamshelana nomntwana, mcele ukuba akuncede, ncokola. Vumela umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba unengqiqo kunezinye izinto. Unokuba nethemba kuye ngemfihlelo ngokuphathelele uyise. Ngokomzekelo, sisiphi isipho seeholide. Le nto iya kuba yimfihlo yakho, eyokuxhuma wena ngexesha elithile. Makuqondise umntwana ukuba unye naye, ukuba uyamdinga, kunye noyise.
Fumana ithetha legolide kwibudlelwane, musa ukuxhuma emlilweni uye emlilweni. Akuyimfuneko kuye nangaphandle kwesihlandlo ukubonisa ukuba wenzeni. Kungenjalo ngolunye usuku uya kuva kuye ngokuphendula: "Ngubani na ondixelela yona?". Unobtrusively mvumele umntwana azi ukuba ulungile kule meko yamabango, kodwa akukho mzekelo ungatsho ukuba ungumntu ohlala kuyo kwaye uya kukwenza isigqibo ngokuchanekileyo noko kungenjalo. Ngaphandle koko, yonke imizamo yakho iya ku "cha."