Ukuze kulungiswe kakuhle ubuntu bomntwana, kubalulekile kwimeko enjalo ukuza kumnceda ngexesha kwaye uphendukela kwizakhono. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba ungayithathi le nyathelo ngexesha, ubunzima bomntwana buya kubuthela, bujika kwi-snowball enkulu, ekhulayo ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuze uqonde indlela yokukhetha umntwana wengqondo ofanelekileyo kumntwana, kufuneka uqaphele okokuqala ukuba ukuxazulula uluphi uhlobo lweengxaki ozifunayo uncedo lwenzululwazi.
I-psychologist yomntwana iyimfuneko ukuba umntwana wakho unenkathazo ngokulungelelanisa uluntu, ukuxabana rhoqo nabantu abasondeleyo, ukuba uyaphawula ukuba unganamdla okanye unxinzelelekileyo, uncharacteristic yobudala bakhe kwaye engenalo isizathu esibonakalayo somzimba.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uxhatshazwa ngamaphupha awonayo, i-phobias ephazamisayo, ukwanda okukhulu, kukufanelekile ukuthetha nengqondo yengqondo okanye isifo sengqondo. Musa ukucinga ukuba abagula ngengqondo baphatha abantu abagulayo kuphela. Umsebenzi wabo oyintloko kukukhusela ukuphuhliswa kwesifo.
I-psychotherapist idibanisa iimeko zengqondo yengqondo kunye neengqondo zengqondo, ezinolwazi olunzulu malunga neengqondo kunye neengqondo. I-psychotherapist isebenza neemeko ezinzima kakhulu. Umzekelo, imiphumo yentshutshiso yeentlanzi ezinxulumene nodlova, ingozi okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo. Ingcali yomsebenzi wakhe ingasebenzisa imidlalo yokudlala indima, i-hypnosis ekhanyayo, iindlela zokusebenzisa iilwimi zocwangciso.
Ngokungafani nesazi sengqondo, oqhelekileyo unemfundo ephakamileyo ebantwini, isifo sengqondo kunye neengqondo zengcali ziyingcali yezempilo. Ngoko ke, baneendlela ezininzi zokufaka izicelo ezivumelekileyo. Isifo sengqondo kunye nesifo sengqondo singachaza amayeza, kodwa isazi sengqondo asifanele senze oku.
Xa ugqibe ekubeni ufuna isidlo sengqondo, siyaqhubeka siqonda indlela yokukhetha ngokuchanekileyo.
Nangona isazi sezengqondo asikho ugqirha, kufuneka sikhethwe ngokulinganayo. Emva kwakho konke, umele uthembele lo mntu unento ebalulekileyo kunayo, umntwana wakho. Yaye indlela eya kukhula ngayo, yintoni uhlobo lomntu oya kukhula, kuxhomekeka kakhulu kwi-literacy yengqondo yengqondo yomntwana.
Kungcono ukhethe i-psychologist ukuba omnye wabahlobo bakho sele esetyenzisile. Thetha nabanye abazali, babuze ukuba ngubani onokulucebisa. Ngamanye amaxesha uchwepheshe ochanekileyo ngumngane wakho ohlobo. Ukuthatha isiluleko kwabanye abantu, uya kusindisa amaninzi kunye nexesha.
Ukuba ingcali kufuneka ibukele, qiniseka ukuba ufunde ngokubanzi malunga neziqinisekiso zakhe. Cacisa imfundo yakhe, ingcali. Akunakwenzeka ukuba i-psychologist ejwayele ukusebenza nabantu abadala abalahlekelwe yimisebenzi inokukunceda umntwana wakho.
Musa ukulindela ukuba isazi senzululwazi yesikolo okanye i-psychologist ye-kindergarten iya kuhlangabezana neengxaki zakho. Imisebenzi yale ngcali ingabandakanyi nje umsebenzi kunye nenani elikhulu labantwana, kodwa nabo bonke abasebenzi bezemfundo. Ngoko ke, njengommiselo, akukho mandla okanye ixesha lomsebenzi ngamnye. Mhlawumbi, into eyona nto inokuthi uncedo lweengqondo unokukunceda ukuxilonga ubunzima bakho.
Ngaphambi kokuba uholele kwingqondo yengqondo yengane, khuluma naye ngokwakho. Cacisa intsingiselo yenkxalabo, cacisa iindlela ezinokuthi zisebenze ngayo okucetywayo ukuyixazulula. Isithembiso esiphuthumayo seziphumo kufuneka sikhuphe ngokukhawuleza. Nakuphi na ukuqinisekiswa kwengqondo engalunganga, izinto ezincinci - umphefumlo womntu.
Enye indlela engamkelekanga yinto yokuzama "ukukuqonda." Ukuba "i-psychologist" yenza konke okusemandleni ukufumana ulwazi lwakho lomntu (inamba yefowuni, idilesi), mhlawumbi, ungumkhwabanisi. Kwaye wena, hamba, kufuneka ufune enye ingcali.
I-psychologist efanelekileyo (kungekhona nje kuphela umntwana, kodwa nangomntu omdala) akayi kutyundela abathengi bakhe nayiphi ifilosofi okanye inkolo. Ngokukodwa, ukuba incoko malunga nokholo iza ngaphandle kokucacisa ubuhlobo bakho kulo mbandela. Kule meko, kukho ukuphakama okuphezulu ukuba inzuzo ikulethe ummeli othile.
Ukuba akukho malunga nokulungelelaniswa kwentlalo yomntwana, musa ukulungele ukuzama ukukunceda ukuba usebenze kwiqela. Ngaloo ndlela, oogqirha beengqondo abangenangqondo bavumi ukukwamukela inani eliphezulu labathengi kwisamba esincinci sexesha. Ngomgangatho womsebenzi, okwenyaniso, intetho ayikho apha.
Nangona ukwazi indlela yokukhetha umntwana wengqondo ofanelekileyo kumntwana, kwaye ukwenza olu khetho ngokwemiqathango yonke, lungele ukuba kuya kufuneka ufike kuye ngaphezu kweyodwa. Ungalindelanga ukuba ukutyelela kwengcali yeengqondo kuza kusebenza njengomjiki womlingo, kwaye ubunzima bakho bonke buya kutshabalalisa ngokukhawuleza. Umntwana wakho nengcali yeengqondo kufuneka afumane uqhagamshelwano, kwaye oku kuthatha ixesha kunye nomonde.
Mhlawumbi kuya kuba kukunxibelelana ngokuthe ngqo phakathi kwengcali yeengqondo kunye nomntwana "ngomnye", okanye kunokufuneka ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yeqela. Kukho nawuphi na, impembelelo yengqondo yengqondo inceda ekusebenziseni ubunzima beemvuthu, ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo. Ukongeza, i-psychologist igxininisa ingqwalasela yomntwana kwizakhono zakhe kunye neempawu ezinamandla. Oku kunceda umntwana ukuba abe nokuzithemba ngokwengeziwe, ufunde ukujamelana neengxaki zobomi obudala, wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo.
Iingxoxo zengqondo ziza kunceda umntwana wakho abe nokholo olufanelekileyo. Uncedo olunjalo lubaluleke kakhulu kweli xesha lobomi, xa umntu ekulungele ukuphuhliswa. Emva kwakho konke, ebuntwaneni, iimpawu ezisemgangathweni zakhiwe, isitayela sokunxibelelana nabaontanga nabantu abadala, isimo sengqondo kwabanye kunye nobomi ngokubanzi lukhula. Kulo nqanaba ukuba kunqunywe ukuba umntwana angakhula ukuba abe ngumntu ophumelelayo, okanye uya kufuneka anqobe iingcamango zakhe ezingalunganga kunye nomzabalazo kunye nobunzima bakhe bonke ubomi bakhe.
Kodwa ke, intuition yakho iya kukunceda ukhethe i-psychologist efanelekileyo. Naliphi na iingcebiso kunye nokuhlaziywa kwengcali, wena nomntwana wakho kufuneka nive novelwano ngaye. Enyanisweni, kwengqondo, enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo zeempumelelo zithemba phakathi kwengcali yeengqondo kunye nomxhasi. Ngaphandle koko, asiyi kufumana ingxoxo enganyanisekileyo, oko kuthetha ukuba akukho mphumo.