Indlela yokusebenza.
Ngethuba lethu, abantu abaninzi banomdla ukuza kumbono wokubonakala kwezingane ngokuziphendulela. Inkalo yokuqala apho kubonakala khona ukubonakala komntwana kuthathwa njengobunye ubudlelwane obuhle phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Enyanisweni, ukuba ngaba abazali bexesha elizayo abanako ukuvumelana phakathi kwabo, ukuba iimbambano kunye neengxabano zihlala zihlala kwintsapho, ngoko umntwana akayi kuphelisa iingxaki, kodwa uthele ioli phezu komlilo. Indoda encinci iya kugula kwintsapho apho abazali abangazi ukuba bathandane.
Isimo sesibini sempilo. Ukuze ukwazi ukukhulelwa, ukunyamezela, ukuzala nokukhulisa umntwana, udinga amandla amaninzi kunye nempilo enempilo. Isigqibo esilungileyo siza kukunyamekela impilo yakho kwangaphambili - uyeke ukutshaya, ukunciphisa ukusetyenziswa kotywala, ungabandakanyi amanye amayeza anokuchaphazela impilo yomntwana. Ukongezelela, kubalulekile ukukrazula ezinye izifo, uviwo olupheleleyo kunye nogqirha, kwaye uhlole ingozi ngokufanelekileyo. Oku kuyimfuneko ukuze kuthathe amanyathelo athile xa kukho iingxaki, ukulungisa ingxaki ngexesha. Ngamanye amaxesha ufanele ulinde ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo malunga nokukhulelwa, ezinye zifuna inkqubo enkulu yokonyango kunye nokuhlinzwa. Konke oku kungcono kwenziwe ngaphambi kokufika komntwana, ukuze ukukhulelwa kungathwalwanga yimiphumo yezifo ezahlukahlukeneyo.
Enye into echaphazela isigqibo malunga nokubukeka komntwana kukuphila kakuhle. Enyanisweni, iintsapho ezinokuhlala, apho zihlala khona, apho kukho imali engenayo, eyaneleyo wonke umntu, kulula ukuceba ukuzalwa komntwana. Emva kokuvela komntwana, elinye lamalungu entsapho aliyi kukwazi ukusebenza ixesha elide ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuqesha umncedisi okanye ukubandakanya izalamane ekukhulisweni komntwana. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukugcinwa kwentsapho kuya kuwela phantsi kwamagxa alo elinye ilungu losapho, kaninzi ubaba. Hhayi zonke iintsapho zinemali engenayo ilungu lentsapho elaneleyo lokutya abanye.
Ngenxa yoko, abaninzi abantu baqala ukuxazulula imiba ngezindlu, benze imali yokugcina imali, i-career kwaye yenze isigqibo sokuba nomntwana.
Kodwa abanye abakulungele ukulinda ixesha elide okanye bangaboni ithemba, kodwa abafuni ukuhlehlisa ukuzalwa komntwana.
Ngethemba lokulungileyo.
Akubona wonke umntu olungele ukulinda, ukuze abe nomntwana. Ngamanye amaxesha ukukhulelwa kwenzeka ngaphambi kokuba kucetywe. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, abazali bahlala bengalungele ukubukeka komntwana, kodwa basombululo xa bezalwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni.
Mhlawumbi kule mizalwane kukho iingxaki ezingaphendulwanga eziphathelene nempilo, kunokubakho iingxaki zempahla kunye nokungavumelani, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba abazali baya kuba kubi. Abantwana banomtsalane onamandla wokuqhubela phambili. Ngethuba elifutshane, abazali abaza kusombulula iingxaki ezininzi, balungiselele ngokubonakala komntwana baze bamnike ubukho obufanelekileyo.
Into ephambili akuyikuyeka kwaye ungathembeli ukuba iingxaki zixazululwa ngokwazo. Abantwana babaluleke kakhulu, kuba ngumthwalo omkhulu kwaye abo banqume ukuba nomntwana kwintsapho yabo kufuneka benze yonke imizamo yokutshintsha ubomi babo ukuze kube ngcono. Nangona ngexesha lokukhulelwa, unokwenza okuninzi - ukuphucula impilo yakho phantsi kolawulo loogqirha, ukuqala impilo yokuphila, ukufumana umsebenzi omhle, qhubeka nemfundo yakho kwaye ulungiselele ukuzalwa komntwana wakho.
Kuvela ukuba akuyimfuneko ukubala ubomi bakho kwiminyaka ezayo, ulungele ukuzalwa komntwana ixesha elide. Kubalulekile ukuba uzive unako, ukukwazi ukutshintsha into efanelekileyo, umnqweno wokwenza into encedayo intsapho yakho. Kwaye, ke, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba umnqweno onyanisekileyo wokuba nomntwana. Ngaphantsi kwezi meko, nokuba nokukhulelwa okungenakulungiswa kunokuvuyisa, kwaye ukuzalwa komntwana akuyi kuzisa iingxaki kuphela, kodwa novuyo olukhulu. Konke kuxhomekeka kwinto ngamnye umzali onqwenela ukwenza njalo ukuba bonke abathandekayo bakhe kunye naye ngokwakhe uyavuya.