"Ndiyayiqonda indlela enyantyikisayo / eyabuhlungu / nzima ngayo." Le binzana kufuneka ithathe indawo ye-sacramental "ungalili". Umyalelo oqinileyo ngokuqhelekileyo ubangele nje ukutshatyalaliswa kwentswelo yokubamba okanye i-whims - inkwenkwe iyakhathazeka ngakumbi: awukhathalele ngokwenene ngamava akhe. Emva kokubonisa uvelwano, ubeka uxhulumaniso lomntu - ngenxa yoko uyazi ukuba uyintoni na ukulungele ukuphulaphula.
Ndixelele ukuba kutheni uyakhala. " Le binzana yinto enye yokutshintsha okuqhelekileyo. Inzame yokuphazamisa umntwana ngentetho yokudlala, ingxoxo esebenzayo okanye amahlaya amancinci akusoloko iyingcamango enhle: ukuphathwa kakubi okunjalo kunokunyusa i-hysteria. Sebenzisa inketho encinci nangesicatshulwa-cela umntwana ukuba akuve into ethile eyamcasula. Ngoko uya kuba nethuba lokubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe ngaphandle kokukhala.
"Ngaba ufuna ukuba ndikugqekezele?" Musa ukukhawuleza ukumanga uze udibanise umntwana okhulelwe, uzama ukumthuthuzela: oku akusoloko kusebenza. Ukongezelela, ukudibanisa kungabangela ukucaphukisa okanye ukunyanzeliswa - umntwana uya kuqala ukukhupha kwaye akukhuphe. Kunoko, buza ukuba i-caress yakho iyadingeka ngoku: oku akuyikuvumela kuphela umntwana ukuba agcine imida yakhe, kodwa uya kunika ithuba lokuzinqabisa.
"Masifunde indlela yokujongana nale nto." Yithetha eli binzana, yima. Emva koko qalisa ukubuza imibuzo ekhokelayo kwaye ungamgijimi umntwana ngeempendulo. Kancinci, uya kukwazi ukuphazamisa iimvakalelo aze aqale ukucinga ngeendlela zokwanqoba ingxaki. Khumbula: akufuneki ukuba usombulule yonke into yakho-unike umntwana ithuba lokuqonda, ukuhlalutya nokufikelela kwizigqibo.