Ukususela kwixesha elidlulileyo umanyano womntu kunye nomfazi wayebhekwa njengongcwele. Ixabiso kunye nokubaluleka kwentsapho liyabonwa yizo zonke iinkolo ezikhokelayo zehlabathi, iholidi yehlabathi - Usuku lwentsapho lunikezelwa kuyo. Ehlabathini lanamhlanje, intsapho ayizange ilahlekelwe ukubaluleka kwayo, nangona ikopi engekho mthethweni-eyayibizwa ngokuthi "umtshato womtshato". Nangona kunjalo, njengokuba isithandabuzo asiyi kuthatha indawo yendawo yokuqala, ngoko akukho nhlobo yentsapho yokwenene inokuthi ibe yinto efanelekileyo yokubambisana nomntu onothando.
Njengoko uyazi, uluntu alukwazi ukuba lukho ngaphandle kwentsapho, kwaye ngaba ngabazali abenza isiseko salo esinoxanduva lokubonakala nokukhuliswa kwabantwana, ukuphuhliswa kwabo. Nangona kunjalo, lo msebenzi onzima uwenziwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Omnye uhlala ngokwakhe, ekholelwa ukuba ayanyanzelekanga ukuba enze nayiphi na indima kwi-demography yelizwe. Omnye uvelisa umntwana omnye, uyamxabisa kwaye uyamxabisa, ngamanye amaxesha uphonsa intonga, aze akhuphe kwihlabathi elipheleleyo. Omnye ubona umsebenzi wabo wokuzala abantwana abaninzi njengokuba banako ukutya kwaye banondliwe, kwaye kukho neentsapho, kunye kunye neentsapho zabo, ziphakamisa abantwana abamkelweyo.
Intsapho apho abantwana abangaphezu kwebathathu bekhula kwilizwe lethu kuthathwa njengabantwana abaninzi. Ziziphi iingenelo zentsapho enjalo? Unentsapho enkulu kunye neengxaki zayo eziphambili zihluke njani kwiintsapho eziqhelekileyo eziphakamisa omnye okanye babini abantwana?
Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba nesimo sengqondo somphakathi kwiintsapho ezinkulu kunokuqwalaselwa ngenye yeengxaki eziphambili. Abachasene neentsapho ezinabantwana abaninzi, imbambano enkulu kukuba, ngokunikezelwa kokungaqiniseki kobomi bwanamhlanje, umntu kufuneka agxininise kwingeniso yezinto eziphathekayo kwaye anciphise inani labantwana abathile intsapho enokwenene iyakhulisa. Abaxhasi babecinga ukukhipha isisu ubungendawo obungamkelekanga, kwaye intsapho enkulu iyisiseko senhlalakahle yelizwe.
Nangona kunjalo, abameli beentsapho abanabantwana abaninzi banengxaki efanelekileyo ngaphandle kwengxoxo. Ukongezelela, i-material side ayilona nto ingundoqo. Kwaye akukwenzeka ngokukhawuleza, kuba abantwana abaninzi bazalwa kwiintsapho zamakholwa abathembele ekunikezeni uThixo, okanye kwiintsapho apho ubutyebi bubavumela ukuba bathente, banxibe, batye, bafundise kwaye bafundise. Kwaye, ngokuchasene noko, njengoko ubomi buboniswa, imali engenayo yempahla kunye neemeko zezindlu ezihle kakhulu azibandakanyi kwiintsapho ezinkulu: kwiintsapho ezinjalo, njengomthetho, kuphela umntwana.
Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukugxotha ngokupheleleyo imeko yezinto eziphathekayo, ingakumbi ukuba sinokuqwalasela ukuba iingenelo kunye nenkxaso-mali eyabelwe kwiintsapho ezinkulu azihambelani nayiphi na imfuno yangempela. Kukho umzekelo onjalo - iimeko ezihluphekileyo zokuphila kunye nomvuzo omncinci kakhulu unciphisa inani labantwana kwintsapho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, isimo sengqondo sabazali ukuqonda imimiselo ebalulekileyo kunye nokuchuma kubaluleke kakhulu: emva koko, nganye intsapho inenzuzo yayo. Omnye kunye neyakho indlu yakho ayiyi kuqikelela ngokwaneleyo ukuzalwa kunye nemfundo yabantwana abaningana, kwaye umntu uza kuba neleyo ngokwale ndawo yokuhlala yokulala. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ngolu hlobo kukuba abantwana benza "njengamaxhoba" kwisimo sengqondo somzali sokuphila.
Okubi nakakhulu, xa beba "ngabathinjwa" bokuzimelela kwabazali. Ehlabathini lanamhlanje, abafazi banomdla ngakumbi kumabhinqa ebhinqa le shishini, umsebenzi owenziwa kunye nabesilisa kunendima yomfazi wendlu kwintsapho enkulu. Yaye nangona uzama ukuhlanganisa indlu enkulu kunye nomsebenzi, akunakwenzeka ukuba uphumelele: umkhosi onikwe umsebenzi ufuna ukubuyiswa, kwaye umfazi ohlala ekhaya ufuna kuphela ukuphumla. Kwaye abantwana badinga unina, akukho nanyana onokuyitshintsha ngokupheleleyo.
Enye yeengxaki zaliphi na intsapho unxibelelwano. Enyanisweni, nokuba nokuba nomntwana omnye, abazali bahlala bekhalaza ukuba abanakuhlala bodwa, ukuba bakhathele ukuthetha naye, besidingo sokuba bahlale bewuthatha ingqalelo. Nangona kunjalo, kwintsapho enkulu, kunye nabantwana abancinci bebodwa banako ukujongana nabancinci, bathathe, badlale. Kwaye oku kuphawulekayo kanye ngexesha eliqela: uyise nomama banethuba lokuxazulula ezinye iingxaki, kwaye abantwana basebenzisa ukunyamekelana, bafunde ukunyamezela kunye noxanduva. Kufuneka benze okunye ngokwabo, kwaye ngenxa yoko bayazi kakuhle izakhono ezininzi phambi koontanga lwabo, bakhula ngcono kangcono ubomi. Ukongezelela, kwintsapho yabo-ndawonye, abantwana bajwayele ukuthobela abadala, baxabise ukuqeqeshwa, ubudlelwane, ukunyamezela iimfuno zabo, ukunciphisa iimpazamo.
Kucacile ukuba iingxaki eziphambili nezongezelelweyo zanele iintsapho ezinkulu, kunye neentsapho ezinomntwana omnye. Enye into kukuba ezi ngxaki zifana noko, ngeendlela ezithile-ezahlukeneyo, kwaye kwezinye iintsapho abazali kufuneka bathathe isigqibo sokuba yedwa, kunye nabanye - abanye. Ngokomzekelo, kwiintsholongwane ezikhuhlane ezinokuphefumula kunye nomkhuhlane, iintsapho ezinabantwana abaninzi zinamaxesha amanzima - njengomthetho, ukuba umntu ulethe usulelo, baya kufikelela konke, kwaye ngoko ke, imali yamachiza iya kuhamba ngokungenakuqhathaniswa. Ukwamkelwa kwiyunivesithi, indawo yokuhlala yabantwana abakhulileyo, iimali zemitshato - konke oku kunye nokunye ubomi kunye neengxaki zeentsapho ezinezingane ezininzi. Intsapho inkulu, kwaye kukho iingxaki ezininzi, kuba akubona bonke abazali abakulungele ukufumana amandla aneleyo, isibindi nothando lokuthatha isigqibo malunga nabantwana abathathu okanye ngaphezulu. Akukho mntu oza kugweba. Kodwa umntu akanako kwaye akabahloneli abo banqwenela kwi-feat enjalo njengentsapho enkulu.