Nangona kunjalo kubonakala ukuba umbuzo wombhede womntwana unokuvela emva kwexesha kwaye ubonise inkxalabo yabazali malunga nexesha lokufuduka kwisibhedlele esincinci ukuya kwelinye elikhulu. Nangona kunjalo, oku akunjalo ngokupheleleyo.
Abazali abaninzi abanokucinga ngokucokisekileyo malunga nendlela yokuchitha imali isabelomali emva kokuzalwa komntwana, benqatshelwe isikhalazo seemvuthu, becacisa ukuba kumbhede womzali, umntwana uya kukhululeka kwaye akhululeke ngakumbi. Sikholelwa ukuba ibhedi iyimfuneko kumntwana ukususela kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi, kwaye yile bheddi yakhe. Ukuba awukwazi ukuthenga umbhede omtsha-cela abahlobo bakho: mhlawumbi umntu unomntwana omdala obhekeni, umntu unokunika okanye awathengise ngokungabizi. Sekunjalo, ibhede endala ibhetele kunokuba engekho ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuphendula umbuzo othi: "Umntwana ufuna ukulala embhedeni ongakanani," sifuna ukugxininisa ukuba ngokunciphisa umntwana ukususela kwindawo yakhe yokulala, uyamnciphisa ithuba lokufunda ukuzithemba nokuzimela. Kodwa emva kwayo yonke, kubaluphi ixesha eliyimfuneko ukuba ufundise umntwana kulokhu kuzimela? Kuboniswa ukuba ngonyaka wokuqala wobomi izinga lokufunda lomntwana likhulu, ngoko ke kuyimfuneko ukuzama ukubeka ingqalelo kwizinto ezingundoqo nje kuphela, kodwa nokuqonda kwehlabathi. Makuqale uqale ukumbona umbhede womntwana kuloluhlu aludlali nxaxheba nayiphi na indima, kodwa ukuba sicinga ngokujulile, siya kuqonda ukuba nguye obeka imvumba yenkululeko yakhe. Ifundisa ukuba ngamnye wethu unendawo yakhe, apho kuyonwaba kakhulu ukuphumla kwiinkathalo.
Konke oku kuza kumntwana, kunjalo, kungekudala - kodwa kholwani, isiseko esakhelwe ixesha siya kunceda ukuphepha iingxaki ezininzi kwixesha elizayo.
Sivame ukubeka abantwana ukuba balele eceleni kwabo ngenxa yokuba kulula kakhulu kuthi. Ekulungeleyo kuba umntwana ulala kakhulu ngokufutshane nomama wakhe, ngenxa yokuba ephakama kakhulu ebusuku. Kuyinto elula xa sisondla - asinakuvuka phakathi kobusuku kwaye senza izinto ezininzi ezongezelelweyo, kodwa nje sathuthela kufuphi nomntwana - kwaye uyasondla ngokuyifaka. Kodwa kuya kuba ngcono xa sinyanzela ubuqhopho eceleni kwesinye kwaye senza ezi nyathelo ezine kwisibhedlele somntwana ekhala ngendlala!
Ngoku ke makhe sixoxe ngesidingo sombhede womntwana, oza kutshintsha indawo yokubheka encinane. Kwaye kungekhona nangomfuneko, kuba kubonakala, kodwa malunga nokuba uneminyaka emingakanani kufuneka uzuze ibhedi enkulu.
Ndicinga ukuba yonke into, kwaye ixhomekeka, okokuqala, kumntwana ngokwakhe: ngokukodwa, kwiimpawu zakhe zomzimba. Emva koko, ezinye iintsapho kunye neminyaka emibini zihlala ziyingcinci, izipilisi nje - ngoko ke umbhede wabo wokuqala ungakhonza ixesha elide, baya kuba lula ukubeka kuyo. Kwaye ukuba umntwana unyaka kunye nesigamu sele esongela ukulala ebhedeni-ke le sihlandlo sokucinga ngokuthenga into ethile.
Ukongeza, indima ebalulekileyo idlalwe yindlela umntwana wakho alala ngayo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unako ukuphumla kwaye uphenduka kwiphupha, uphenduka ukusuka kwicala ukuya kwelinye icala - ngoko kufuneka uzame ukungaphumi kwisikhumba ngokukhusela de ukulala komntwana kulungiswe. Khawucinge ukuba yintoni ingozi ebantwini elele embhedeni, apho kungekho nto ikhusela ukuba angawa phantsi. Emva kwakho konke, akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kukwazi ukuwugubungela ngeemithwalo, okanye ukumboza umgangatho ngeengubo-konke okufanayo, ukuba umntwana uswele ebhedini, akanako ukulimala, kodwa soyika kakhulu! Kodwa kukho nakwezinye abantwana - kubonakala ngathi kwimeko enjani umntwana olele-ngoku kusasa kwaye avuke. Apha kula bantwana, ukutshintshwa kwi-crib "yabantu abadala" kuya kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, mhlawumbi, andizange ndicebise ukuthenga umbhede umntwana ngaphambi kokuba emva kweminyaka emibini. Kuphela ukuba uvele nje ekhulile kwi-nursery - kwaye udinga indawo engaphezulu, kungenjalo, kwaye nawe, ulindelwe ubusuku obuthongo. Kutheni kule minyaka? Kuba emva kweminyaka emibini abantwana baqaphele ngakumbi, banokuzilawula ngokwabo kunye nokunyakaza kwabo nxalenye kwiphupha. Kwaye, ngaphezu koko, kule minyaka ukuba isigaba sokuqala sokutshatyalaliswa, ukususwa komntwana kumama kuza. Oko kukuthi, intsana iyeke ukuziva iphela kunye nonina, iqonda ukuba ungumntu ohlukeneyo, usenabo ubomi bakhe. Ngeli xesha, kwindlela, kukho inxalenye enkulu yeengxabano zabantwana ezifunayo ukuba zifunde ukupheliswa. Ubhedu obukhulu luya kunceda umntwana ukuba azive ebaluleke kakhulu, isikhundla sakhe kunye nesimo kwintsapho. Ngaba ucinga ukuba oku kungenangqondo kunye neentlanzi? Kodwa ubomi bomntwana obunomntwana obuncinane kangaka bunamaphepha afanelekileyo.
Ngoko ke, icebiso lam kuni kuni: jonga umntwanakho, uzive iimfuno zakhe, uphulaphule iiminqweno zakhe ... Ukuba yena ngokwakhe uvakalisa imbono yokuba ufuna ikhulu, ikotini lakhe - kutheni ungamphulaphuli? Ewe, ukuba akusiyo nje i-whim. Maxa wambi abantwana bayayazi into abayidingayo.
Yaye ukuba ubeka lo mbuzo ngale ndlela, bathi, ukusukela kudala kangakanani le bhedzana efunekayo, ngoko akukho mpendulo ecacileyo kwaye ayikwazi. Unokubeka kuphela ubuncinci kunye nemigangatho yeminyaka engaphezulu: umzekelo, kwintsana engaphantsi kweminyaka emibini, eli bhedlele lingaba likhulu, kodwa iminyaka engama-3.5-4 kufuneka isetyenziswe ngokusesikweni kunye nangundoqo.