Umbono womntwana.
Xa sithetha nomntwana wethu ngamathoni aphezulu, asiziboni thina. Asiboni ubuso bethu obugqwethayo, amehlo abuhlungu, umsindo ophuma kuthi, iminwe ephosakeleyo, ungayiva loo mazwi kunye namazwi aphuma emlonyeni wethu omhle ...
Kodwa konke oku kuboniswa ngumntwana wethu, unokuba nanini na ubudala. Usibona ngathi: ukumemeza, ububi, ukwethusa, ukungaqiniseki kunye nokwesaba. Kwixesha elinjalo umntwana ufumana ubomi obunomthwalo wokutya, apho uya kuthi "uhlambulule" emva kwexesha elide, elahliwe ngokuzimela okanye ngoncedo lwabafundi beengqondo.
Yintoni esiyibonayo?
Inkxuleko encinci, engamaphupha nje kuphela, ukuba konke oku kuphelile kungekudala! Amehlo omntwana azaliswe iinyembezi kunye noyika ...
Ewe, sibona konke oku. Kodwa ngelo xesha asiyi kutshintsha nantoni na. Kutheni senza oku?
Okokuqala, ngenxa yokuba ukwesaba emehlweni omntwana kusinika injabulo. Ngelishwa, oku kunjalo. Ngaphandle koko, asiyi kwenza oku. Ekubuntwaneni bakhe, safumana isabelo sethu sokwesaba kunye nentukuthelo. Ukuba singavunyelwanga satshisa kwakhona, sawa, saxhala, siphutha, ngelixa sinobutyebi kunye nentukuthelo. Sinomntwana oye waba yinto yokucima ukungabi nantoni, sinomuzwa phezu kobuthathaka. Hayi, kodwa oku kunjalo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, asiyikuyenza ngenjongo. Mhlawumbi, siya kuthukuthela xa siva ingxelo yokuba sinovuyo kwimoyiko yokuba umntwana ufumana. Kodwa uMthetho woMhlaba uthi: "Ubomi bemi, obuphindaphindiwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kusilethela injabulo, ngaphandle koko iimeko ezinjalo aziyi kuphinda ziphindwe." (Ukuchazwa ngokukhululekile komthetho).
Okwesibini, kunzima ukutshintsha. Ukuze uzame ukutshintsha imeko, kuyimfuneko ukuzijonga ngokwakho, ukuzithethelela, zithethelele, zithande. Ndicinga ukuba siya kuphumelela kwaye siyakwazi ukwenza.
Kulula ukutshintsha, kodwa kunokwenzeka.
Isinyathelo sokuqala . Zama ukuzibona ngexesha le-ora. Ewe, oku akusiyo isidalwa esilungileyo, nto leyo ebangela ukuba kuthuke. U bonayo? Kulo mfanekiso akukho nto engadingekile ukuyongeza, ekubeni lo mfanekiso usuyinto engathandekiyo.
Isinyathelo sesibini. Zivume njengoko ukhona. Kodwa ungazitshitshi naziphi na iindlela. Musa ukuzifuna izizathu. Ungazami kwindawo yakho ukujonga ityala. Unjalo ngenxa yokuba unomzuzu. Siza kuthatha ukuba kulo mzuzu awukwazi ukuziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Isinyathelo sesithathu . Ngoku, xa ungamangaleli kwaye ungazibukeli ubuhlungu. Xa ukhangele ngenyameko imeko xa iimvakalelo zacatshulwa ngaphandle, lixesha lokuphendula umbuzo: kutheni ndiyakhala? Ingaba ngaba ngaba izenzo zezona zidalwa ezibi kakhulu ziyimbangela ye-ora yam? Ngoobani, izenzo zabo, iingcamango, ukwesaba ziyimbangela ye-ora? Phendulwa? Kwaye ngoku omnye umbuzo: Kutheni ndihlambalaza? Okanye ngamanye amagama: Ndiyifumene ntoni ne-orom yam? Ndicinga ukuba le ndlela iphumelele kakhulu? Ndingatshintsha nje imeko ngale ndlela?
Isinyathelo sesine . Ndiyathemba ukuba uxolise kumntwana (ubudala abubalulekanga), waphendula yonke imibuzo, wenza izigqibo kuye waza wayeka ukumemeza. Kubaluleke kakhulu: ungathathi iimbopheleleko ezongezelelweyo, ungazithembisi izithembiso kunye nezifungo, ungazami ukuba ngubaba ococekileyo okanye umama ococekileyo. Ukuba uthabatha konke oku kuwe, ngoko awukaxolelanga. Hayi. Ukwenza oku, ukwanele ukuzibona ukusuka kwicala ngelixa le-ora. Funda ukuziyeka. Namaxesha onke uya kuba ngcono kwaye ube ngcono. Okanye uya kulahlekelwa yonke ingqiqo.
Umbono womntwana.
Ngomntwana, ekuqaleni akukho ntsi ngiselo yakho ephakamileyo. Akaqondi nje ukuba kutheni ngokukhawuleza, evela kumama othandekayo, onothando okanye ovela kwintata enhle, ngokukhawuleza waguquka waba ngumtshintshi wangempela. Ngomntwana, kwiimeko ezininzi, intsingiselo yenguqu yakho ayicaci. Kuze kube ngumdala othile, akakwazi ukuwujonga kweli hlabathi ngokusebenzisa i-prism yeenkcukacha zakho kunye nokwesaba. Ukuphendukela ngenyameko kunina okanye uyise, ucinga ukuba: "Ndidlala, kwaye uqala ukukhala." Oko kukuthi, uzikhwaza. Kwaye esinye isizathu sokubandakanyeka kweli phepha.
Naphezulu. Buza umntwana wakho malunga neziphoso zakho, into awayithandayo ngawe, kutheni kwenzeka ntoni, yintoni enokwenziwa. Yaye uya kuva izinto ezinomdla kakhulu. Apha, umzekelo, ibinzana lomntwana omnye: "Mama, akufuneki uxolo kwaye uthi uyandithanda. Awukho nje. "
Gqi beleni.
Ngaba unokuthi yonke into ayiphumelekanga kuwe? Ndivuyiswa kakhulu, kwaye ndivuyiswa kukuba umntwana wakho ukhula emoyeni ozolile, ozaliswa uthando kunye nokukhanya, okokuphela kwindlela ephumayo yentetho evelayo endlwini yakho, kwaye ingxoxo ephakamileyo yamathoni ayifumanekanga, ukuba umntwana unezwi, kwaye phu laphule umntwana xa engonwabanga into ethile. Kodwa, maye, oku akunjalo kwiimeko ezininzi.
Ngendlela, ukunciphisa ilizwi linika iziphumo ezimangalisayo. Uya kuqala ukuphulaphula nokuva umntwana wakho, kwaye uya kukuva. Uxolo, uthando noxolo ziya kuhlala kwikhaya lakho. Ngaba oku akunjalo?