Ibhinqa elizayo: iimpawu zemfundo yabantombazana

Abantu abaninzi basandul 'ukuzenza ukuba akukho ntlukwano phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini. Kwaye ukuba umntu omdala angakwazi ukuzikhethela okokungafani noko kwesini esinye isondo, ngoko kunye nabantwana le ndlela ayifanelekanga, inobungozi. Amantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe awafanelanga ubuncinane ngokomzimba. Nangona kunjalo, ngokwengqondo, abantwana beesondo ezahlukeneyo bahluke phakathi kwabo. Oku kukho ubungqina obuqinisekisiweyo.

Indlela yokufundisa intombi yakho ukuze ungamlimazi?

Ulwahlulo lwengqondo

Iimfuno zeengqondo kunye neminqweno yabantwana bezesondo ezahlukeneyo azibalulekanga, kodwa zihluke. Le ntombazana kubalulekile:

• fumana unonophelo olungakumbi. Ukuba abafana bakhetha ukuzimela, amantombazana kufuneka athathwe ngothando kunye nokuqwalaselwa;
• bafunde ukuthembela. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kuba amadoda akubalulekanga kangako, kodwa umfazi ngelo xesha uxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kumyeni wakhe. Sithetha ngokukhulelwa kunye nokuzalwa komntwana. Ukuba ngeli xesha lihlala lihlutywa ngoloyiko nokungathembeki, akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo. Kwaye unokuthembela kuphela ukuthembela ebuntwaneni;
• sifunde ukunyaniseka ekunyamekeleni. Umama ozayo (nangona oku, oku kunjalo, akuyona yindalo yodwa intombi yakho, kodwa ibaluleke kakhulu) kufuneka ikwazi ukunyamekela abanye ngokunyanisekileyo. Ekubuntwaneni, kulula kakhulu ukufumanisa iipatheni zokuziphatha, ingakumbi ukuba zikhoyo kwintsapho.

Yintoni abazali abayenzayo?

Xa ukhusela intombazana, abazali kufuneka bahambelane nemigaqo ephambili. Nangona kunjalo, zifanelekileyo kubazali bamakhwenkwe. Ngaphandle kwezinye izinto ezilula ukufunda ngeenkcukacha ezithile. Masiqale kwasekuqaleni: Yiba umzekelo kumntwana wakho:

• yonke imodeli yokuziphatha abantwana abaxhamla ngelixa bebukele abazali babo. Oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ubonise ngomzekelo wakho wokwenza indlela yokuziphatha. Umama kufuneka abe ngowesifazana, azizithembele, ezolile;
• isiluleko esihle kunye nomzekelo akuyi kuba yindlela ofihla ngayo ukungaphumeleli kwakho, ngokuchaseneyo. Bonisa umntwana ukuba uyamkela iingxaki, kwaye usebenze nabo.

Ukuphuhlisa iimpawu ezintle ukususela ebuntwaneni:

• Ukutsala intombazana ukuya ekhaya nokuphucula ekhaya. Kutheni kufuneka umfazi enze oku? Amadoda ngeendlela ezininzi akayiqondi into "yokuthuthuzela". Baziva, kodwa abakwazi ukuyidala. Kwinkwenkwekazi, ngokuchaseneyo, kukho ukuvakalelwa kwendlela yokuxhobisa kakuhle indlu. Ngoko ke, kulula kakhulu ukufaka imilinganiselo emihle kule ndawo ebuntwaneni.
• ukunyamekela. Ukuba uninzi lwabantu alukwazi ukuhlawula ngokukodwa ukubonakala kwazo nokusebenza ngokuphumelelayo, ngoko kunye nabasetyhini yonke into ehluke ngokupheleleyo. Intombazana ifanele ibonakale ilungileyo, uluntu luya kumnyanzelisa. Uyakwazi ukuhambelana neprogram, kodwa ubude obude buya kudala ukulungelelanisa, kumfundise ukuba agqoke kakuhle, upende, ubeke intloko. Ukukhwela kwe-Flash kunye nabalinganiswa babo abathandayo kwi-"themes of women" bangabancedisi abanomdla kwimfundo. Imidlalo ye-intanethi malunga nokuhlobisa kunye nokucoca indlu, imidlalo yokupheka, imidlalo yokulungiselela abaculi kunye nabaninzi abaza kunceda ukwenza umntu omncinane umxholo woqoqosho kunye nolwasemantwaneni.

Ukuthatha inxaxheba ngenyango kabawo kwimfundo:

• kwinqanaba likayise intombazana kufuneka ifumane imvume kunye nothando. Khumbula ukuba kuvela kwimodeli yokunxibelelana noyise ukuba le ntombazana iya kuqala ekukhetheni umyeni wakhe wekamva. Ngako oko, upapa uphoqelekile ukuba aziphathe njengendoda: ukuthetha ukuncoma, inkxaso, ukukhusela;
• Ukuba akukho ntata kwintsapho, fumana enye into ebalulekileyo yindoda. Unokuba ngumkhulu ozala okanye odibeneyo, umzala wakho okanye umalume, umhlobo osondeleyo wosapho. Akumelwe atshintshe uyise, kodwa umele abe ngumzekelo wendlela umntu angaba ngayo. Ukuba umntu onjalo engabonakali ebomini bomntwana, iingxaki zokuthetha ngesini esahlukileyo azikwazi ukuphetshwa.

Indlela yokwakha isilathiso:

• Intombazana iqhelekile. Ngokuqhelekileyo isiphepho sengqondo ekuphenduleni isigwebo singaba namandla kangangokuba umntwana akayi kuqonda into ayetyala ngayo. Ngoko ke, musa ukukhawuleza ukufunga. Okokuqala, cacisa ukuba yintoni ingxaki, yintoni intombazana eyenzileyo. Yaye ukuba ucinga ukuba isijeziso esifanele sibe, sijezise emva kweenkcazo.

Kunzima ukufundisa nayiphi na umntwana. Kodwa musa ukoyika uxanduva. Bonisa umzekelo wakho ukuba ungathanda intombi yakho ukuba iphathe njani kwixesha elizayo. Yaye ungabonakali kakhulu. Ingqwalasela ayilingani ukuzithobela. Yaye isisongelo sinomngcipheko wokuthululela kwiimpawu ezinjalo ezingathandekiyo zobuntu njengokuzingca kunye nokuqonda. Mhlawumbi, amanye amantombazana akanalo impawu ekhethekileyo, okuyiyo ingqiqo ukuhlawula ingqalelo ekhethekileyo. Akukho konke okuyimfuneko ukwenza i-princess yakho encinci idlale kuphela kwiidodoli okanye ukhethe umdlalo wesifazane. Into eyona nto kukuba intombi kufuneka ikhule ibe yinto evuyokileyo, inomusa kunye nokuzithemba kuye kunye namandla akhe, kwaye oku kuya kunceda uthando lwabazali nenkxaso kwiimeko ezinzima.