Indlela yokuvuma uthando oluthethwa ngumntu?

Ngelishwa, amaxesha eenkwenkwezi, xa kwakumcimbi wokuhlonipha ukufumana intliziyo yentombazana aze afe ngenxa yakhe, yanyuka ehlobo. Nangona, ngenhlanhla, kwakukho abameli besilisa, ababambelela kwiminqweno yangaphambili.

Namhlanje, amantombazana afuna ukuba athathe iinqununu zikaRhulumente ngobudlelwane ngezandla zabo ezibuthakathaka kwaye enze amanyathelo athathekayo entlalweni yolonwabo, kuqala avume uthando kumntu wabo. Ngaba kukufanelekile ukudlala ikhandlela kwaye kufuneka uqale uqale ukuthetha ngeentombazana zakho? Mhlawumbi unelungelo, kuba kungenjalo kukho umngcipheko wokubangela ikusasa lakho elihle.

Ukuba umntu uyamthanda ngokwenene intanda yakhe, ngoko ukuvakalisa kwakhe uthando kuyakuba yinto ebangela ukuba kuphuculwe inkqubo yokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane kunye nokubazisa kumgangatho omtsha. Kukho amadoda asemvelo ayenamahloni, engaqinisekanga kwimicimbi yothando. Mhlawumbi ngenxa yobudlelwane kunye nonina, odade okanye abo bantu bahlala kwimithwalo yabo yobomi ubuhlungu obunzima obubuhlungu obunqabileyo ebomini. Banoyika nje ukunyamezela i-fiasco entsha kwaye bayatshatyalaliswa yintanda yabo. Kwimeko enjalo, bafazi, ukuvuma kwakho kobubele kuya kuthandeka kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, unokwenza ngokukhawuleza ukhethe owakhethiweyo kwaye ukhangele ngokunyanisekileyo emehlweni akho ukuba uthe wazi ixesha elide elikuthandayo, akakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwakho, akayi kulala kwaye akayidli, kwaye uyakuthanda nawe. Emva kokuhlaselwa okunjalo ebunzini, ukuba lo ngumntu ofanelekileyo, ekuthandeni ngokunyanisekileyo, akayi kuba nantoni na into ayenzayo kodwa akutshatile. Kodwa ukuba umthandi uqala ngokucacileyo yulit kwaye ushiye impendulo, nantsi sele sele ufanelekile ukucinga nokuguqulela konke oku kuhlaya.

Ukongezelela kubameli abanobuqili besondo esomeleleyo, kukho amadoda, kwaye ngelishwa, ngelishwa, okhetha ukuthabatha, kodwa ukuba anganiki. Bayakuthanda ukuba yonke into ifanele ilungiselelwe ilungele, kwipuphu enegolide. Ukuba intombazana iwela intloko kwizithende kumntu onjalo, ngoko ayikho nto eyashiywe ukuyenza, ukuvuma uthando lwakhe kuqala, ukulibala ukuzingca kwayo, ngoko ungazisoli ngobomi bakhe kangangokuthi akazange akwenze oku kwaye ahlupheke kwimibono, ecinga ukuba iya kuba.

Imithetho eyinhloko, indlela yokuvuma uthando, kumntu ophindaphindiweyo, ayikho. Ngothando, njengemfazwe, zonke iindlela zilungile, kuba unobungozi bakho kunye nesiphelo sakho. Into ephambili yokukhumbula xa uvuma ukuvuma kwakho, ayiyi kutshintshwa ngamagama okanye amabinzana. I-Zavyristye kunye nezibongo ze-pathos, i-skydiving, kunye neposta esandleni sakhe, ebonisa intanda, i-sms kunye nezinye izenzo ezihlambulukileyo ngaphandle kokunyaniseka okuvela kuwe, akunakho ukuzisa isiphumo esilindelekileyo. Ukuqatshelwa kwakho ngothando umntu kufuneka afunde emehlweni akho, ngoko-ke unqabileyo, kodwa unaphakade "Ndiyakuthanda" uya kuwukhanda entliziyweni. Ukuqwalaselwa kweemvakalelo kuyona yenziwe yindawo enokuzilungelelanisa umntu oya kuvuma ngalo. Amanye amadoda angcono aqonde loo nkcazelo eburhulumenteni, xa ingqalelo yabo bonke abanye ivakaliswa kumntu wakhe. Abanye, ngokuchasene noko, kwimeko enjalo kufuphi, kwaye bazenze ukuba abayikuva nonke. Into ephambili kukuba ukhethe umzuzu xa intanda ethandekayo iya kuba neemeko ezilungileyo kwaye ngokulandelayo iya kuba yincinci inani lezinto eziphazamisayo.

Ukuba akukho nto ishiywe kodwa uvume uthando lwakho, ungesabi ukuva "Andikuthandi" kusuka kumthandi wam. Isiphumo esibi naso siphumo. Ubuncinane kulo mzekelo, emva kokukhala okukhulu nokunqoba uxinzelelo, uya kukwazi ukuba akufanele uchithe ixesha lakho namandla okuhamba kule ndlela. Njengoko bethetha, unyanzelekile awuyi kuba mnandi, ngaphandle kwaye akukho nkundla. Jonga ngeenxa zonke - ubomi buhle kwaye buhle! Ngendlela yakho uya kudibana nomntu ofanelekileyo oya kuqonda ngokupheleleyo isenzo sakho esinesibindi nesigqibo. Yaye iinkwenkwezi ziya kudibanisa ukwenzela ukuba indoda iphendule - "Ndiyakuthanda nawe."