• Kukho amava okuphila okwabelwana ngawo, oku luncedo nanini, nangona kungenjalo kunye nalo mlingane. Unokuzizama kwindima entsha njenge-getter okanye umgcini we-hearth.
• Unokuziva uzikhulile kwaye uzimeleyo. Oku kuyinyaniso xa umntu oselula (intombazana) ehlala nabazali bakhe.
• Iqabane elincinane kufuneka lichithe ixesha elide kunye nomnye.
• Unokufunda imilinganiselo kunye nokuthambekela komnye nomnye kusengaphambili.
• Imali echithwe kwizindlu igcinwa.
• Kulula ukwahlula, i.e. iindlela zokubuyela kuzo azikhutshwanga yimithintelo yomthetho nezentlalo.
• Ukuzimela kuyagcinwa
• Ukukwazi ukwenza utshintsho ebomini bakho ngoncedo lweemilinganiselo zesiqingatha. Ngenxa yokuba abantu abaninzi umtshato (nokuba ingcamango yalo) yinkxalabo enkulu, ukuhlala ndawonye ngaphambi komtshato kunokulungiselela umntu onjalo isinyathelo esinqabileyo-ukubhaliswa kobudlelwane.
Umdla wokuhlala ndawonye ngaphambi komtshato.
• Ukungaqiniseki kwentsapho yekamva.
• Kulula ukulahlekana ngenxa yeengxaki ezincinci.
• Ukulindela ukuhlala ndawonye kulahlekile kwaye ixabiso layo liyancipha, kuba i-congress isoloko iyenzeka ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza - emva kokuchitha ubusuku, babini bahlangana.
• Ukuhlala kunye nobukho bobudlelwane bezesondo ngaphambi kokuba umtshato ugwetywe kwaye uthathwa njengesono kwiinkonzo ezininzi.
• Izinto kunye nezinye izinto ezifunyenwe ngexesha lokuhlalisana ngaphandle komtshato ziyipropati yomntu ozuze. Oku kuthetha ukuba icandelo enkundleni yalo mhlaba kunzima. Imbango yilezo matyala xa umfaki sicelo enokwabelana naye angabonisa ukuba utyalomali ekuthengeni imali yakhe. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka ugcine uhlobo lwe-accounting, oluya kubonakala lungaqhelekanga emehlweni kweso qabane. Ngako oko, isitampu kwisitifiketi sokubhalisa umtshato siqinisekiso sokukhuselwa kwezezimali xa kuthe kwahlukana.
• Xa kwenzeka ukufa okubi kwelungu elinye le sibini, isibini ingalahlekelwa yipropati.
• Ngokutsho kophando lwezinzululwazi zaseMerika, izibini ezihlala ndawonye ngaphambi komtshato, ziyakwazi ukuhamba emva kwexesha.
• Ukuba ukuhlalisana kubandakanya iminyaka engaphezu kweminyaka emine, ukuba amathuba okubambisana nomtshato ayancipha. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umchasi womtshato kwiimeko ezininzi ngumntu, kuba sele sele efuna konke kunye nepasipoti ecocekileyo.
• Kwiimeko apho isibini sithatha ixesha elide, sinezingane eziqhelekileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo ibhinqa liyaziqinisekisa kwaye wonke umntu ukuba uphawu lokutshata ngomtshato kwipasipoti lugqibe kakhulu.
• Xa umntwana ezalwa, ubaba kufuneka ahambe ngendlela yokwamkelwa , ngaphandle koko akanalo ilungelo lobazali.
Kucacile ukuba kule ngongoma ibalulekileyo yecandelo elizibini, elihlala lisigxina i-pros and cons. Yaye ukuba le sibini sinokufuna kwaye ifuna ukuhlala kunye, uhlobo lokuhlala aluyikugqiba. Ngelo xesha, nayiphi na ingcamango-yokulungisa, umzekelo, umtshato, unako ukuphazamisa ubudlelwane, uthathe isibini esivela kummandla weemvakalelo kwi-domain yefomu. Kwakhona, isibini esingaphumeleli siya kuchithachitha, kungakhathaliseki ukuba khona kwesitampu kwipasipoti okanye, nokuba yintoni embi ngakumbi, abathathi-nxaxheba bayo baya kuhlala basondele kwaye baya kutshabalalisa ubomi bomnye nomnye.