Ndifuna ukubuyisa umthandi wam

Kubudlelwane kukho rhoqo amaxesha anomdla kunye nezihlandlo zokupholisa. Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi uthando luye lwadlula kwaye siqala ukwenza izenzo ezingabonakali kakubi, kwaye xa sicinga ngako oko kufike. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, ngaba ndingabuyela umthandayo okanye akunangqiqo? Njengoko uyazi, ukuba ufuna into ngentliziyo yakho yonke, ihlabathi lonke liya kukunceda. Kufuneka nje ukuqonda imeko, vumelani iimpazamo zabo kwaye baqonde indlela yokubuyisela yonke into.

Yintoni ongayenza kunye nendlela ongayenza ngayo ukuba ufuna ukubuyisela umhlobo wakho? Siza kuzama ukuqwalasela izizathu eziphambili zokuba silahlekelwe ngumthandayo kwaye sinqume indlela esinokuphuma ngayo kwiimeko.

Yi nyaniso

Ngoko, esinye sezizathu eziqhelekileyo ukuba abantu abaninzi balahlekelwe ngumntu othandekayo. Ukuba ufuna ukubuyisela othandekayo emva kokuba utshintshile kuye, ngokokuqala kufuneka uqonde ukuba kutheni uthathe le nyathelo. Mhlawumbi ulahlekelwa into ebudlelwaneni okanye umntu osemfana wenza izenzo ezenzile. Kule meko, ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ubuyisele, kwakhona uphinde ucinge ngenyameko malunga nokuba uyayidinga. Mhlawumbi usetyenziswa nje, kodwa enyanisweni, ukuba ubuyisela ubuhlobo obunjalo, kungekudala okanye kamva uya kuphinda uye kwinqanaba elinjalo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyazi kakuhle into oyenze ngayo, kwaye lo mfana nguye ofuna ukuchitha ubomi bakho bonke, ngoko kufuneka uzuze ithemba lakhe. Emva kokukhwabanisa kunzima ukukholelwa kumagama, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubuqilima kangakanani. Ngoko ke, uhlala nje ukuqinisekisa yonke into ngezenzo, kungekhona ukubeka uxinzelelo kumntu osemtsha kwaye ungaphumeleli. Khumbula ukuba umlimaza. Ngoko ke, ufuna ixesha lokuphila kwaye ahambe. Kwaye umsebenzi wakho ukuqonda ukuba uyaguquka kwaye awuyi kuphinda uthathe isinyathelo esinjalo kwakhona. Kufuneka abone ukuba awusayidingi mntu kwaye ulungele ukugcina ethembekile, nokuba awukho ndawonye.

Yamkela indlela

Esinye isizathu sokutshatyalaliswa, okwenziwa ngamantombazana okuzisola ngokuzayo-akuhambelani. Amantombazana aqala ukucinga ukuba yena kunye naloo mntu akakwazi ukuhlangana kunye, ukuba ahlangane kunye. Umzekelo, intombazana ithe cwaka kwaye ithule, kwaye intombazana ibonakala ukuba iya kukhwaza, ukuba ayiyi kuphila kuze kube sekupheleni kobomi bayo. Uqala ukuzama ukutshintsha, ayisebenzi kwaye ekugqibeleni bahlula. Kodwa emva kwexesha, le ntokazi iyaqaphela ukuba ayikhathali ukuba ingathethi okanye ayikho, kuba inqabileyo "Ndiyakuthanda" kunomvakalelo omkhulu nomnqweno wokwenza konke. Kodwa ixesha lilahlekile kwaye umfana sele sele efike kwisigqibo sokuba akukho nto iya kuvela. Kule meko, kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba uyamkela njengoko unjalo. Ngaphezu koko, kufuneka aqonde ukuba isimo sakhe nesimo sakhe asikukhathazi, ngokuchaseneyo, uyathanda ukuba nguye nje. Emva kwakho konke, wathandana naye. Kule meko, kufuneka uqale ukuqhagamshelana nomhlobo kwaye ubonise ngokucacileyo ukuba uthanda ukuba naye, uthanda umlinganisi wakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe. Khumbula ukuba awunayo nje into yokuba ubeke imbonakalo yakhe yehlabathi, ufanele ukwamkele. Ngaphandle koko, kungekudala okanye kamva uya kuphumelela kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kuqinisekisa ukuba iindlela zakho azikwazi ukuwela. Kwaye khumbula ukuba kuthatha ixesha elide ukubuyisela yonke into kwisikwere esinye. Akudingeki ukuba uziphathe ngendlela, vumelana nayo yonke into kuyo, njalo njalo. Yeka ukumgxeka, ukucaphuka nokucaphuka. Funda ukuziva ngathi. Yaye ukuba uyonwabile ngokwenene ekuxhonyeni kunye nentombazana, uya kuvakalelwa kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kuqonda ukuba akayiyo iphathi embi kuwe.

Kukho nawuphi na, nantoni na eyenzekayo phakathi kwakho nentsha yakho, khumbula ukuba yonke into ithatha ixesha. Ngamanye amaxesha ixesha elide. Into ephambili akuyi kuluhlukana naye. Ukuba usondele kwaye uza kumbonisa iimvakalelo zakho zokwenene, kodwa ungammangaleli, emva koko uya kucinga kwakhona ngesimo sakhe sengqondo kwimeko. Ungalokothi ushiye xa uthanda ngokwenene. Mhlawumbi inyanga iya kudlula, mhlawumbi ngonyaka, kodwa ekugqibeleni uya kuva kwakhona kuye "Ndiyakuthanda, mncinane."