Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi bahlala kunye nomthande wabo kwaye konke kulungile, kodwa umanyano wabo ubizwa ngokuba ngumtshato womtshato. Kutheni amadoda edonsa nomtshato? Kutheni ungalindeli ukuya eofisi yokubhalisa kwaye ubhalise ngokusemthethweni ubudlelwane bakho? Yintoni abantu abamoyikayo? Kule nqaku, siza kuqwalasela zonke izinto ezibangela ukwesaba umtshato osemthethweni.
Akukho mbopheleleko
Indoda ehlala emtshatweni womtshato, yonke into ifanelekileyo. Uthanda ukutshata kwaye ngexesha elinye. Awunayo isitampu kwipasipoti, ngoko, ngokwenene, ikhululekile. Unokujonga amanye amantombazana. Nangona ebiza umnina wakhe othandekayo, akasabandakanyekanga kuye nayiphi na imbopheleleko. Ngaliphi na ixesha, unokwenza umnyango, ushiye. Akufanele athathwe yinkqubo enjengomtshato.
Kuvela ukuba amadoda amaninzi asemtshatweni esemthethweni, iofisi ye-registry, nayo, ithathe ixesha lawo. Sisiphi isizathu? Oku kuya kuchazwa ngento yokuba akukho namalungelo, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, ezinye izibophelelo. Nangona engatshatanga, unokusebenzisa imali njengoko ayithandayo, uthenge into ayithandayo, musa ukwenza i-zanachek. Unendawo enkulu yokukhulula.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwixesha le-candy-buketny, ibhinqa liyaqaphela ukuba ufuna ukudibanisa nalo mntu ubomi babo obomi. Indoda idinga iminyaka ukuya kwesi sigqibo. Kwaye akusiyo into yokuba uthatha isigqibo sokutshata. Ukuba akafuni ukuzibopha ngomtshato, ngoko akukho ngonyaka, okanye ezimbini ukuya kwi-ofisi ye-registry kunye naye akaze asebenze.
Iingcamango zengqondo
Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokungafuni ukutshata zi:
- Ukuba le nkwenkwe yayingummangalisa ngokuqhawula abazali bakhe, kwakunokuba yathintela ingqondo yakhe. Ebomini, uya kuba netyala lokuba umtshato ovuyayo kunye ohlala njalo unganakwenzeka. Kutheni sakha ubudlelwane obuya kutshabalaliswa.
- Ngokuqinisekileyo iimvakalelo ezifanayo zifunyanwa ngumntu owayesenomtshato ongaphumeleli. Akukho mntu ufuna ukunyuka kwi-rake efanayo.
- Amadoda amaninzi ayesaba utshintsho olulungileyo kwiintanda zabo, emva kokuba abe ngumfazi osemthethweni. Ngoko ke, abaninzi banqwenela ukushiya njengoko kunjalo. I-Temsam yinika lo mfazi ithuba lokubonisa ukuba wayemhle kangakanani njengomfundi, inkosikazi.
- Abanye abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo bakholelwa ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba babhalise ngokusemthethweni ubudlelwane kuphela xa liqinile kwaye limi ngenyameko ezinyaweni zalo. Ngokuphathelele kwimpumelelo yezinto ezibonakalayo. Abantu abanjalo abanomdla banqwenela ukuxazulula iingxaki zabo zentlalontle bodwa, kwaye kungabi ndawonye ukuze baphumelele kwisiqingatha sabo sesibini.
- Kuninzi kuxhomekeke kuluntu lomntu, oko kukuthi, indawo yakhe, kunye naye othetha naye. Mhlawumbi kwiqela lakhe labanye bacacors baqinisekisile, bazinikela isigqibo sokungena kwi-bond of marriage. Kuba kubo intsingiselo yobomi ibomi obushushu kunye nobundlobongela. Iintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo, ukubukela ibhola, ukuhlala kwibha, ukusela ubhiya njalonjalo. Kwaye xa umntu ebuyela kule mithetho, uya kuphakanyiswa ukuba ahleke, kodwa uya kukhishwa kwiindawo zakhe.
- Kwaye esinye isizathu - umntu ungumvukeli ngaphakathi kwaye akafuni ukuba njengomntu wonke, hamba indlela yendabuko. Umntu onjalo uya kuhlala kunye nentanda yakhe, abe nabantwana bakhe aze afundise, azuze, aqhube umzi oqhelekileyo, kodwa akaze atshate. Ukuba ucela umbuzo othi "Kutheni?", Uya kuphendula "Kutheni?". Unayo yonke isizathu esingenakutyala ukuba kuhle ukuba siphile, kuba le sitampu ayifuni kwipasipoti.
Awukwazi ukunika iingcebiso kuzo zonke izihlandlo. Wonke umfazi u nethemba okulungileyo. Ukholelwa ekunyameni komphefumlo wakhe ukuba kukho ithemba lokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane. Kwaye ukuba akunjalo, kungcono ukuba ukhangele.