Siye safunda ngokusesikweni kubuntwaneni: kungabi ukubanga ngaphandle kokulwa, kodwa amaxesha okudanisa ngokukhawuleza ekudeni kweengalo sele ihamba ngokukhawuleza, lixesha lokutshintsha ingcamango yakho yokuziphatha kunye neengqondo zobomi obusondeleyo .
Iingxabano "ze".
Wadibana ngokukhawuleza, watshintshana iindlebe zezinto eziqhelekileyo kunye nemigca emibini yokusebenza, kwaye ngokukhawuleza unamahloni uyaqonda ukuba wathandana. Ngaba kwenzeka ntoni? Kwaye! Uya kuhlambalaza, uthathe umhlalaphantsi kwincoko, kwaye uyaqonda ukuba ixesha lokuba wenze isigqibo. Uthando lunelungelelwano olwaneleyo ngenxa yeso sifo. Iimvakalelo zakho zinyanisekileyo, ukhululekile, oqinisekileyo uqaphela kwaye uyamxabisa iqabane. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, isondo esithandwayo okokuqala ngangoko asiyi kuba.
Kwenzeka ukuba ukuphuka phakathi kobudlelwane buhlala ixesha elide ukuba uyilibale xa uqala ukuwanga, ungakhankanyi into engakumbi. Kwaye kukho umntu obonakalayo onokukunomdla, ukumema ukuba udle, kodwa awuqinisekanga ukuba ulwaziyo lwakho luyaqhubeka. Nangona kunjalo, ukhathele ukuba unesizungu ukuba isondo kunye nomfana omhle luyindlela ecacileyo yokuphuma kwimeko. Ubuncinane, uya kuzihlamba ngokuhlwa, eziza kukhula zibe yimvakalelo enomdla, njengento ephezulu.
Ngamanye amaxesha kwindlela yethu kukho amadoda, emva kwawo alula i-long train of broken hearts. Kwaye emva kweendibano ezimbalwa zeentlanganiso uyazi ukuba ulungele ukumnika kunye nentliziyo yakho. Xa umntu onjalo ekhetha usuku, akukho ndawo yokucinga. Ulahlekelwa yinto yonke okanye ube ngumnikazi wesiganeko esinomona, nangona ixeshana. Kule meko, isondo ngosuku lokuqala luyamnandi, kodwa luyimfuneko. Nangona kunjalo, akukho namnye oye wanciphisa injabulo yokufumana into enomdla.
Ukuba ukwabelana ngeengcamango zesini, ubona intombazana yanamhlanje kwaye ingaxilwanga, ungamkela ngokulula isondo xa ufuna, unako. Kwaye akukho umahluko xa kuya kuba-ngomhla wokuqala okanye ngomhla weshumi. Kukho okuncinciweyo - nawuphi na umntu onokuqhawulayo unokukukhawuleza ukuba axoxe ngolu hlobo ngolu hlobo, kwaye kufuneka wenze ezinye izenzo kungekhona ngenxa yolonwabo, kodwa ngenxa yokugcina umfanekiso wentombazana yekhulu lama-21.
Ngaba ucinga ukuba kuyisiphukuphuku ukwenza izicwangciso ezide, kuba ubomi bungaqinisekanga? Emva koko akukho nxaki yokwenza isondo ngosuku lokuqala kwakuyindawo. Ewe, ngubani owaziyo, ngokukhawuleza, le ntwazana engaqhelekanga yinto yakho yokugqibela? Kwiimeko zokhuphiswano lwasemaphandleni, akusikho ubuqili ukusabalalisa izibini. Ukuba uhlala olunye usuku, olu khetho alona lubi kakhulu kuwe.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukuba uyondla umntu ngokutya kwasekuseni ixesha elide, unqwenela ukunyamekela enye intombazana engayi kuhlala ilindele umtshato okanye ize ifike okwesibili. Amadoda, ngelishwa, asithandi njengothando kunye nathi kwaye sihamba phantsi kwenyanga iintsuku eziliqela kubonakala ngathi akuyona indlela efanelekileyo yokusondela.
Yaye yintoni enye oyaziyo ukuba uyasondela, njani na ngendlela engafanelekanga? Unokuba ngumhle, ukhaliphile kwaye unomtsalane, kodwa ukuba eminqweno yakho iminqweno namathuba awafani, ulwalamano aluyi kusebenza. Ngaba ufanelekile ukulinda, emva koko, xa unxibelelana ngakumbi, kuya kukhwankqiswa xa kuya kuba kungeyena indoda yephupha lakho .
Iingxabano "malunga".
Unokucinga ukuba ungumntu onobuchule. Amadoda avunyelwe ngaphezu kwamabhinqa, kwaye uyayithanda nje le nyaniso. Kodwa, ukuba bonke abafazi bevakalisa ukuba balala ngesondo ngaphambi komtshato, ngaba banjani abanye abantu abanokukwazi ukusebenzisa ilungelo labo lokulala ngesondo xa befuna, kungekhona nini?
Uyakuthanda ukufezekisa nokuxabisa abafazi abamele bahlulwe, njengeziseko. Ewe, awukwazanga ukumelana kwaye ukuzingqingwa kwexesha kwakuza kubakho indlala ebuhlungu. Mngqina nje ukuba inqaba yakho inobuthakathaka, kwaye uxinzelelo lwayo luqine kakhulu, kwaye awukwazanga ukukhusela ukuhlaselwa
Unamathela kwiimbono ezixhasayo, kwaye unamaxesha amaninzi kuye. Lindela, ukuba akabonakalanga nantoni na, mhlawumbi le ntwazana iyingcamango enomdla othanda isinyathelo esivela kumfazi. Kuvela ukuba uvele wamnika oko wayekuphupha ngasese.
Akasoze atshate nentombazana efikelelekayo. Kakade ke, akukho mntu ufuna umfazi onika isizathu sokungabaza ukuziphatha kwakhe. Kodwa impembelelo yakho ichazwa ngokulula yimvakalelo kunye novelwano olukhulu. Ngaphambi kokuba "ukufunyanwa ngokubanzi" kunzima ukumelana.
Yayivivinywa ongazange uyidlule. Ewe, akukho mntu uphelelwe yimpazamo. Ngaba ulahlekelwe kakhulu? Mhlawumbi lo mncedisi uya kukuthunjisa ngokulawula ngokupheleleyo kunye "namacwecwe angenanto" phambi kwelokulwa. Ubomi bentsapho olunjalo luhlobo olunzima kakhulu ukucinga.
Enye yezona zinto zingabalulekanga kakhulu ngesondo ngokukhawuleza kuyingozi. Unobungozi ulala embhedeni kunye ne-maniac okanye i-pervert, kunye nomthandi onyanyekayo. Izilonda ezininzi eziqhubekayo zilandela ulonwabo olungathathi kakubi. Kodwa, njengoko besithi, ngubani ongathathi ingozi - engasayi kusela i-champagne. Unokuzikhusela kunye nempilo yakho, iindlela zanamhlanje zivumelekile.
Kuvela ukuba akukho zizathu eziphambili zokulwa nesondo ngosuku lokuqala. Ngaphantsi kweminye unokufumana izibonelelo zakho. Kubalulekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba uyayidinga, ukuba yeyakho, kungeyakho isinqumo somnye.
Ukuba ngelo xesha ugcina uhla lweengqiqo kwaye uphulaphule intuition, nemiphumo emibi emva kokulala ngesini esinye, unokuphepha. Ekugqibeleni, siphila kwikhulu leminyaka xa umgca phakathi kwamalungelo wabasetyhini kunye namadoda ngokusemthethweni akakho. Oogogo bethu babengazange bacinge ukunikela kwiiminqweno zabo, sele sizalise inkululeko yokusebenza. Ngoko kutheni ungayisebenzisi?
Ukuba uyaluxabisa izithethe, kwaye ungathanda ukugcina ubuso nangaluphi na iindleko, ngoko "ukutyelela kathathu" kwindlela efanayo isizukulwana esidlulileyo sasiza. Oku "ngokukhawuleza" kuya kukuvumela ukuba wazi kangcono iqabane elincinci, ukuzinzisa kwiminqweno yakho kunye nexesha elifanayo ukuba ungalahlekelwa idumela lakho.