Kwaye emva koko, ekugqibeleni, uphelile ngokupheleleyo, khumbula umthandi wakho kwaye wehla ukuze umnike ixesha elincinane lexesha elixabisekileyo. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, uya kumjonga, enethemba lokubona iliso elide elilindelekileyo nelinomdla elibhekiselele kuwe, eligcwele unomdla ongathandabuzekiyo kunye nomkhwenkwe ongathandekiyo kuwe. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza, ukukhangela intanda yakho, uya kumangaliswa ukufumanisa ukuba umnqweno kuphela onokufunyanwa ngumdla wakho ngumnqweno ngokukhawuleza, lo mzuzwana nje ... ukulala kwaye akukho nto! Kwaye ke yintoni na obomi bomfazi?
Unokumisa njani le ntlupheko enamandla ebizwa ngokuthi "intambo yokuphila yangoku"? Emva kwakho konke, xa kusasa, ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ngumrhumo wentshiseko, ufumana "umsebenzi onobubele kunye nothando" kwaye, apho bafuna ukusebenza "ukugqithisa" egameni lekamva eliqaqambileyo, ngokunyanisekileyo, njengomntu, nokucima "zonke iigusi" , kwaye xa ufika ekhaya, uqokelela iingqungquthela zengqondo engaphelelanga nto ebizwa ngokuba "ubomi", ngoko, nangona imeko ephosakeleyo yezinto, ezinzulwini zomphefumlo wakho, kusekho umnqweno wokutshintsha yonke into ibe ngcono, ekugqibeleni uqale baphile ubomi obupheleleyo, ngakumbi, obusondeleyo!
Ngokufutshane malunga neonxantathu.
Esinye sesigqibo, esibonakala kwimeko efanayo, sichazwa malunga nolu hlobo lulandelayo: "Sichitha ixesha elide kunye kunye sele sibuhlungu. Sidinga iimvakalelo ezingavamile, ezonwabisayo kunye ezinomdla kumphefumlo ukuze sizive ngokupheleleyo ukuphila ukuze senze ubomi obusondeleyo. " Yaye loo mvakalelo ifumaneka ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ayifuni yonke into ngokufumanisa iingxaki zangaphakathi kunye nomlingani omnye kuphela, kodwa ngobudlelwane obutsha kunye nomnye umntu. Kwaye, into enomdla, ngesizathu esithile, iqabane elitsha lihlala liwanele kunye namandla, kunye nexesha kunye nomnqweno. Kodwa ngexesha elide, ukuphazamisa ukuzonwabisa ubomi, umbuzo uvela: "Yaye le nto ihlala ixesha elingakanani?".
Kwaye ngoko, ngokungalindelekanga, umxube wokungabaza kunye neentlungu malunga nokuqiqa kwezinto zonke ezenzekayo ngokukhawuleza, kukho ukuvakalelwa komnqweno kunye nokungakwazi ukufumana ixesha "yonke indawo kunye nangoko". Kwaye, kule mzuzu engaphephekanga, uyamangaliswa ngokukhawuleza ukuba ukuba imikhosi yakho engabonakaliyo, ibonakala iqala ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza, ubomi bakho obusondeleyo bubonakala.
Kule meko, kukho omnye umzekeliso ocacileyo kunye nokufundisa ngomntu othi, emva kokuphoswa kwiphondo lenkunzi yegusha, waya kwintsimi kunye nesicelo sokumnceda.
Sage, ukuphulaphula ngokucophelela zonke iinkcukacha zendaba engavamile eyenzeka kumntu, ngokukhawuleza yathi kungalindelekanga: "Kufuneka ufumane inkomo." Le ndoda, ngokuqinisekileyo ingalindelanga isiluleko esingaqhelekanga, yaqala ukubuza imibuzo yengqondo, iphinda yaqala ukuxelela ngokucacileyo malunga nokuhlushwa kwayo, icinga ukuba i-sage ayiyiqondi into eyayitshoyo. Nangona kunjalo, i-sage yaqhubeka igxininisa ukuba abalimi baqale inkomo. Ewe, le ndoda yayingenanto yokwenza kodwa iphulaphule iingcebiso zengqondo kwaye zithole inkomo. Kwaye ke, xa bezise isilwanyana, le ndoda yancinci, icinga ukuba ngoku isisombulule zonke iingxaki zayo, kwaye ubomi bomfazi obusondeleyo abuyikuvuyela.
Kodwa kwakukho! Kungekudala emva kokubonakala kwenkomo, le ndoda yahlushwa kakhulu. Akazange afumane indawo yakhe kwaye wayecinga nje ngendlela yokulahla le nkomo engadingekile. Kwaye, ngenxa yokuphelelwa amandla, indoda yayingena kwi-sage kwaye yaqala ukukhalaza ngobomi bayo yaba yinto esihogweni. Indoda yaphulaphula ngokunyamekela loo ndoda kwaye, emva kwekhefu elikhulu, yathi: "Ukuba ufuna ukulahla iingxaki-thengisa inkomo." Le ndoda yabulela loo ndoda kwaye yabuyela ekhaya. Emva kokucinga ixesha elithile, loo mntu wagqiba ekubeni alandele le ngcebiso yesazi kwaye alahle inkabi enjalo. Ngoko ke, ukuthengisa isilwanyana, ngokukhawuleza loo mntu yafumanisa ukuba yaba nzima kakhulu emphefumlweni wakhe, ngokukhawuleza wayenexesha elininzi lokukhululeka kwaye yena, wamangaliswa kukuba wayenanto engakhathazeki ngayo! Ubomi bube bhetele, buhlungu kwaye buhle ngakumbi!
Yaye ukuba, emva kokufunda ibali elilulekayo, izigqibo ezifanelekileyo zivela kumntu kunye nezigqibo ezifanelekileyo ezifanelekileyo, ngoko kwakubhaliweyo. Kwaye umntu ongenasizathu esingazange acinge ngentsingiselo yalo mzekeliso, ngokucacileyo, kufuneka abonakalise ngenye indlela. Ngokomzekelo,
Ngethuba lokuthandana nobomi obusondeleyo bomfazi.
Mhlawumbi, abaninzi abantu sele benengcamango engacaciswanga yokuthandana, njengokuba kunemvakalelo yemilingo nengenangqondo. Kubonakala ukuba kuphela ubuhlobo besikhathi eside kunokuba kunqweneleka kunokuba kukho into ekhoyo enyanisweni, kubonwa ukuba ubomi obusondeleyo bomfazi okhulileyo bulahlwe kulo mzuzwana. Ukudala ifom yezinto ezibonakalayo ngokukhawuleza ukusinda kwibudlelwane bentliziyo, njengento yokuzivalana, kubalulekile ukudibanisa yonke ingcamango kunye nengcamango enomntu. Nangona, mhlawumbi oku akuyi kuba nako, kwaye kuya kubakho ukudala indawo ekhethekileyo yobudlelwane obusondeleyo, ephethe i-halo yemfihlelo kunye nokungazinzi, ngoko ubomi obusondeleyo buya kukhanya ngakumbi.
Akungabazeki ukuba inyaniso kukuba kukho abantu abatsha abathanda kakhulu "iingxaki" ezibalulekileyo kunye nezenzo. Kwaye xa befika ekhaya baze bagcine yonke into okanye nje kuphela kwezi zinto zikhankanywe apha ngasentla, abanako ukuqonda nokugqiba oko kwenzekayo. Kwaye ke, ngokukhawuleza, banengcamango kwi-blink yelihlo mhlawumbi abalindelekanga apha nonke? Abantu abanjalo kufuneka balungiselelwe kwangaphambili. Kule meko, zombini iziphakamiso kunye neengxoxo ngokuthe ngqo, "kumbhalo ocacileyo", unokunceda. Kodwa into ephambili kule shishini kukuba inqabile kwaye ivuselele umdla kule nto okanye kuloo meko.
Abaninzi ekukhangela ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kubomi obusondeleyo, fumana iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphuhliswa kweemeko, umzekelo, ukulungisa itafile kwindawo yokutyela, ukushiya isixeko, okanye ukumema "isiqingatha" sakho ukuba ubukele ibhayisikobho yothando. Ngokusemgangathweni, unokuza ngokubanzi, kufuneka nje uhlole imeko yakho yezemali kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ulindele ukuba umlingane wakho angasabela njani kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zobomi.
Omnye wabahlobo bam uxelele malunga nobusuku obusandul 'ukutshatyalaliswa kwintsapho yakhe yobomi. Kungekudala emva kokuba umyeni wakhe ebuya emsebenzini, wafumana inqaku kufuphi nomnyango ayefuna ngamandla ukuba angene ekhitshini. Ukuwela umda wekhitshi, umyeni wamangaliswa ukufumana itafile ephakamileyo. Kodwa kwakhona ukukhangela kwakhe kwawa kwesinye isigidimi, apho wayefuna ngokukhawuleza ukuba aye kwigumbi lokulala. Emva koko umyeni wam umhlobo wafumana amanqaku amaninzi kwaye ahamba kwi-balcony, waya ehholo, ngezinye izikhathi wayefuna ukukhangela phantsi kwe-sofa!
Ekugqibeleni ndiphelelwe ngumnqweno wokufumana "ukumangaliswa" okulungiselelwe, umyeni womhlobo wam ekugqibeleni wafumana kwindawo yokuhlambela yeso sizathu sokukhangela nokukhawuleza - umfazi wakhe. Kamva, ngokuqinisekileyo, iqabane livakalise iinqwenela zakhe emfutshane ukuba "iphupha" lakhe. Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, umyeni wale ntombi wayenwabile kwaye uyamangalisa ngcamango ecebileyo yomthandi wakhe. Ngaloo ndlela, ubomi obusondeleyo balo mfazi sele buhluke kakhulu.
Ngomfutshane malunga nokuhamba
Ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba isicwangciso kunye namaqhinga yinto entle, kodwa asifanele sikhohlwe ukuba kunomsebenzi othakazelisayo nangakumbi. Ngenxa yentshiseko kunye nokucinga okungenamkhawulo, uyakwazi ukwenza imimangaliso. Kwimeko apho uxakeke ngezoshishino kwaye udibane nomthandi wakho kuphela kwimiboniso, kwiivenkile, kuzo zonke iintlobo zamaqela, ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna, unokusebenzisa ngokunjalo ezi ngcebiso. Nangona kunjalo, ungalindeli amaxesha angcono. Kuba xa wena, emva kokuzonwabisa, ngokuhlwa, ukhathele kwaye uphelile, uya kubuya, ekugqibeleni, ekhaya, ngoko awuyi kuphinda usebenze ekwenzeni uthando. Kule meko, ubomi obusetyhini obusetyhini buya kunqongophala.
Inomdla kakhulu kwaye inomdla kukuba le ngcamango idibanise kwi-costasy ekhoneni eliyimfihlo yelo naluphi na uhlobo lwentetho, okanye iqela elisemthethweni. Ingqungquthela yobumnandi, ukumomotheka, ukunyakaza okungaqondakaliyo kwamehlo amahle, ekhutshwe kwi-"povoloka," engathandabuzekiyo phantsi kwetafile, kubangele ukuphendulela kwangaphambili kwaye, ngoku sele kufikeleleka. Kwaye ukuba ufuna, ngoko unokucinga ukuba awukwazi kakuhle kwaye unalo iphupha elilodwa - nokuba yintoni na into ekumlinga umntu wamaphupha akho - le enye indlela yokwenza ubomi obusondeleyo bomyeni. Kwaye, inene, eqinisweni, yenza njengento ekhuthaza abantu abaninzi.
Kwimizila yokudibanisa.
Khumbula ukuba unendlela yakho, kwaye umthandi wakho unayo. Ngamnye wethu uyakha ubomi bakhe, ngaphandle koluncedo lwabanye.
Kodwa kaninzi kangakanani iindlela zakho ezidibeneyo ziya kuxhomekeka kuwe kuphela. Mhlawumbi zimbini iindlela eziqhelekileyo ezingaqhelekanga, ngaphantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko, zidibanisa, mhlawumbi kuphela ephupheni. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, le mihlathi emibini edibeneyo eyenza i-fairy-story kunye nomzekelo wamatshini.
Ungakwazi ukudala izizathu ezifanelekileyo malunga nokuba umsebenzi uthatha iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku, ukuba ikhaya liphelile ngokupheleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, lo kuphela ubomi bakho kunye nesigqibo sakho. Zama ukutshintsha kancane. Zama ukuququzelela nokucwangcisa ubomi bakho ngendlela efana nokufumana ixesha lokuhamba kunye kunye neminye imisebenzi enomdla. Emva koko, kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane isiqingatha seyure ngexesha lomsebenzi ukuze udibana kunye nokutshintshisana neendaba zakutshanje. Unokuthetha nje kwifowuni ngaphandle kokuchukumisa kwesihloko kwimeko kwaye ukhuphe ukuhlalutya ngokubanzi kweziganeko. Vumela ilizwi lakho libe lula kwaye linyameke, eliyakhayo, i-beckons kwaye izithembiso ezininzi. Kwaye ke indoda yakho iya kuba ilungele ukuyeka konke ukubuyela ekhaya ngokukhawuleza, kunyanzelekile kwaye wenze ubomi bakho obusondeleyo bulibaleke. Ewe, ufune kuphela ukungaphutheli ixesha elifanelekileyo, elungiselelwe ngazo zonke iindlela ezaziwa kuwe.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho konke kukho enye "kodwa". Ngokuqinisekileyo, iimeko ziqwalaselwa xa umnqweno unxulumana. Kodwa ngokusoloko kuvela ukuba ukungahambi kakuhle kweengcamango malunga nokuba kuya kuba kuhle kangakanani ukuba abathandi bobabini abenzekanga. Kwenzeka ukuba awunayo imvakalelo, kwaye ke isimo sengqondo sitshintsha kunye neqabane, ngoko ubomi obusondeleyo buya kuba buhlungu. Kwenzeka, kwaye omnye akufanele akwenze intlekele kuyo kwaye aziphephe ngokungathandabuzi ngokungathandekiyo. Unokuzama ukutshintsha kokukhwabanisa. Ungakhathazeki ukuba awuphumelelanga-ngokuzayo uza kuba nethamsanqa. Iintsuku ezingaphumelelanga zenzeke kuwo wonke umntu. Nangona kunjalo, awukwazi ukunyanzelisa wena okanye iqabane lakho - ngokuqinisekileyo oku kulahlekelwa ngumntu, ubomi obusondeleyo abuzuzanga kulo. Khumbula ukuba akudingeki nje kuphela ukuba ukwazi ukuthi "hayi" ngexesha, kodwa ukujonga ukuba umnqweno wakho unomdla. Into ephambili ayikukhawuleza, kuba ubomi bude kwaye uya kuba namathuba amaninzi okufumanisa yonke iminqweno yakho eyimfihlelo kunye neemfuno ezifanayo.
Khumbula ukuba xa uthetha ngokuthandana, awunakho ukunyanzeliswa kwengqondo, kuba iguqukile kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uyasithatha ngokungalindelekanga. Nangona kunjalo, wonke umntu ulindele ukuva. Kwaye oku kufuneka ngezinye izihlandlo ukuthembela ukuthanda kweemeko kunye nazo zonke. Inhlanhla kuwe!