Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi bacela uncedo kwimiba apho ubudlelwane bunenkinga ngento ebalulekileyo, ngamanye amagama, ukuba indoda iyala umfazi ngesondo. Oku kwenzeka nangona umfazi ehlawula ingqalelo kwimeko yakhe, ekhangeleka kakuhle, ekulungiselela kakhulu, kwaye umyeni wakhe akabonakali engakwazi ukuhlala engahlali apho ekhululekile khona ixesha, kodwa ukhetha ukuyisebenzisa kunye nabahlobo okanye kwikhompyutha. Kwenzeka ukuba loo mntu ngokwakhe akazami nje ukuzama ukubonisa isinyathelo, kodwa kwakhona uyalahla yonke imizamo yomfazi ukuba abe nobuhlobo bobulili. Izizathu apho umyeni enqatshelwe ibhinqa ebudlelwaneni obusondeleyo ngumlinganiselo omkhulu.
Ubomi kunye nengxabano ebomini obusondeleyo
Inqaku elithandwayo kakhulu, ukuba amadoda ayenqaba abafazi ngesini-kuqhelekileyo ekwenzeni uthando. Ngokwamadoda amaninzi, ebomini babo bobulili kunye nomkakhe akukho mvelaphi, ngokulandelanayo, balahlekelwa ngumdla kumfazi wakhe. Lapha, njengomthetho, kufuneka kuxhomekeke ekubonakalisweni kwengcamango yowesifazane, kuba umyeni ulahlekelwa ngumdla kwindawo yokuqala, kwinkqubo ngokwayo kwaye akanakufumana nantoni na ngesondo. Kodwa akukufanelekanga ukubethelela ityala phezu kweqabane elinye. Hlaziya kwakhona kwaye wenze iintlobo ngezo zesini kufuneka uzame bobabini abatshatileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, isizathu sifihliweyo kwimpilo yentsapho engaqinisekiyo, umzekelo, ukuxabana okuqhubekayo, ukugwenxa, njl njl. Kwakhona kubangelwa enye into xa indoda ingavumi ukuthandana, ehambelana nokungabi nandipha kwintombi. Zizinto ezi zimbini kwaye ziba zizathu eziphambili zokwala ukuzaliswa komtshato.
Igalelo legazi
Kwenzeka ukuba umntu akafuni ukutshata nomfazi wakhe ngenxa yokuba wamcaphukisa kwaye ngoko ufuna ukumfundisa isifundo. Intukuthelo yakhe kumfazi ibangela isimo sengqondo esibi kuye kwaye ibulale nayiphi na into enqwenela ukuba nayo. Ngendlela, lo mkhuba "wokuxothwa emzimbeni" ngowona mfanelo kuphela wesondo esilungileyo. Amadoda ayayisebenzisa ngokufanelekileyo iinjongo zawo. Ngendlela, kunye nayo yonke into, ngaphezu kokusondeza nomfazi wakhe, iqabane lingakhetha ukujonga ii-movie okanye iiwebhsayithi zoonwabo. Oku kuphakamisa ukuba le ndoda ifuna ukubuyisela into engokoqobo kunye neengcamango. Kule meko, ukuba oko kwenzeka njalo, kulungile ukubonisana nengcali yeengqondo ukuze ucebise.
Iingxaki ezizilungeleyo
Isizathu sesithathu sokukhanyela umfazi ngesini - umfazi uyeka umdla kumlingane ngendlela yesondo. Apha, ukungathembeki komtshato kumacala omabini kuyafaneleka. Oku kungaboniswa esinye isizathu, esihambelana nokuhlaselwa rhoqo komfazi kumyeni wakhe. Kule hlaselo, indoda iyahlambalaza indoda yayo yonke impazamo kwaye igxeke. Kuvela apha ukuba loo mntu uvelise ubunzima obuphantsi, obangela ukuba acinge ukuba akathethi nto kumfazi.
Ukugqitywa komfazi
Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku akukwenzekayo kuzo zonke izibini ezitshatileyo, kodwa kunjalo inyaniso ihlala. Kwenzeka ukuba emva kokuzalwa komntwana, ibhinqa lifumana ubunzima okanye liyeke ukubukeka kwimeko yakhe (abaninzi bajwayelene nale meko xa umfazi esembatho engcolileyo eneenwele ezihamba ngeenwele kwizinwele zakhe ukusasa kwaze kwahlwa kusimile kwisitofu). Kwaye njengoko sonke siyazi, abantu bathanda amehlo, ngoko ke bengabonakali, umfazi unqabile ukuba nomdla kumyeni wakhe njengento yesondo. Kunzima kakhulu kule meko, ukuba umlingane akavumelani kuphela nomfazi ekuthandaneni naye, kodwa ugweme ukuvuma, ukumncenga nokumanga.
Ukuthetha ngokuchanekileyo
Ukuba oko kwenzeka kwaye indoda iyazama yonke indlela yokuba "ilahle" ukusebenza komtshato, kuyimfuneko ukufumana isizathu esona sizathu, ngenxa yoko oku kwenzeka ntoni. Unokwenza oku ngentetho engathethekiyo kunye neqabane lakho okanye ukujonga ngokucophelela ukuziphatha kwakhe. Kwimiba yeziganeko eziqhelekileyo ezichaphazela kakubi ubudlelwane bezesondo, kunokwenzeka ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwendima yomyeni nomfazi. Indoda isoloko iyinkokheli, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi uthatha indawo yakhe kwintsapho, enzima kakhulu kumyeni wakhe. Nanku kulungele ukunika isicwangciso kwizandla zomntu, kungekhona kuphela kwisini, kodwa nakubomi bemihla ngemihla. Umlingane uza kuziva ngathi intloko yentsapho kwaye uzakuzama ngazo zonke iindlela ukugcina lesi sihloko, ukuhlawula umfazi wakhe ngendlela yesini.