Ngubani omele athande umtyholi?

Umfazi ungumntu onobubele, obuthakathaka nothando. Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ngolu dalo, xa, emva komtshato, ingabe iwela ezandleni zomtyholi?

Kukho iindlela ezimbini zokusombulula le ngxaki: shiya okanye uhlale. Abaninzi abaninzi bafazi baxhatshazwa ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo, kunzima umntu ukuba ashiye abantwana ngaphandle kobawo, umntu obambe indawo yokuhlala, kwaye umntu uvakalelwa. Imfihlelo yonke kukuba umfazi kwizinga elingaphantsi komtshato ngaphambi kokuba umtshato wakhe azi lowo ujongene naye. Yaye nangona izazi zeengqondo ziqinisekisa ngokungenakwenzeka ukuba zikhangele iimpawu zendawo ekhethiweyo, ezi zizinto eziheha umdlalo kumfazi.
Indoda enobukroti iyathemba kuye kwaye ihlala iyazi into ayifunayo ebantwini. Unamandla, ukhaliphile, unamandla. Enyanisweni, ukuqinisekiswa okunjalo, oku kukubonakalisa ukuzingca - akavumelanga nje ukungafuni iimfuno zakhe. Amandla kunye negunya kungekudala liba namandla kunye neengcinga. Kwaye wonke umfazi ufuna ukuba kufuphi nomntu onamandla, onesibindi, onokuqiniseka. Enye imfihlelo kukuba umntu onobuqili ukhetha ngokuzithandela umngane wakhe obuthathaka, ngokukhethekileyo nomntu onomdla, ofuna ngokugqithiseleyo umxhasi wakhe. Kulula ukuchazela indlela enhle ngayo, ehlakaniphile, kwaye enobuchule. Umntu onjalo uzakukholelwa ngokukhawuleza ekuhambeni kwakhe, amkele imeko yakhe yokuphila kwaye abe ngumfazi othobekileyo.

Xa ufumene "umbingelelo" umtyholi akayi kukhanyela ngokuzithandela. Unendlela yakhe yokubamba ibhinqa ecaleni lakhe - uyabetha ngentlungu (umzekelo, akukho mntu wandithandayo), ukuncoma, ukukholisa ukungafuni ukuthanda kunye nokungakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwakhe, kwaye ukuba iingxabano ezinokuthula azizenzi iziphumo ngethuba elifutshane lokusebenzisa amandla.

Ngoko ke, bafazi abathandekayo, ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo kumtyholi mva kamva kulula. Isigqibo kubalulekile ukuthatha ixesha langaphambi komtshato. Kufuneka ujonge umntu okhethiweyo ukuba uhlala ethatha ikhethi (apho uya khona, apho uhamba khona, ufanele ulandelele, njl.). Xa umntu echazela okanye uthetha ngokuthe ngqo ukuchasana nabahlobo bakho kunye nabaziyo, kwikamva, qiniseka ukuba, ukuthetha nabo kuya kuncitshiswa kube yinto enzima, le yinto yesikhathi. Indoda enobuqhwaphu iyazama ukufumana amalungelo kumfazi ngokukhawuleza, ngoko ungahlali ujabule ngokunikela ngokukhawuleza kwesandla nentliziyo. Kwezinye iimeko, uqoqosho olugqithiseleyo lulandelwa - ndalibala, andizange ndifumane isipho esifanelekileyo, ndiza kusindisa ubomi bentsapho ezayo - nanku nawe unomdaka wobuqili, uphumelele kwaye ubale.

Kodwa awukwazi ukuyalela intliziyo yakho, kodwa kwi-catcher nganye isilwanyana sakho siyabaleka. Abantu bathanda, batshata baze baphile kunye de kube ngumdala. Ngomntu onobuncwane kunokwenzeka kwakhona ukuba uphile ubomi obungapheliyo, ungavumeli ukuxhomekeka okukhulu nokuhlaselwa. Oku kunokwenziwa kuphela ngumfazi onobuqili neqhinga. Kubalulekile ukuba umdumise kwaye umdumise umyeni wakho kwisithuba esincinane, ukumkhumbuza ukuba ungumntu onondliwa yintsapho (kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuba nelizwi lithile, ibhinqa lifanele lifumane kakuhle, kodwa lingekho ngaphaya komyeni wesibindi), iyavumelana nazo zonke izigqibo ezenziwe nguye . Iingcamango zabo nezicwangciso kufuneka ziphunyezwe ebomini ukuze indoda ithathe njengabo. Yaye ukuba ngaba ukuziphatha okunjalo kuhlaziyileyo kwaye kungamkelekanga, kulula ukuphula ubudlelwane kunokuguqula ubomi ube ngumsizi ngokufunda kwakhona.