Ubundlobongela besilisa, kunye nabasetyhini, ngumxholo wenani elikhulu lemisebenzi yenzululwazi ebalulekileyo, kodwa umntu osecaleni kwesazinzulu ekufundeni ubulili bomntu, kunye nososayensi, akathandanga kulo mbandela. Ukuze sibone imfuno jikelele yokukwazi ukungafani kwaye kweli nqaku eliyinkxalabo yeemeko zesimo sengqondo phakathi kobulili besilisa kunye nesini esinikwa kuninzi.
Ummeli wesilisa onempilo, njengomthetho, phantse unomnqweno wesondo ngesondo, ngelixa kubhinqa libonakalisa ebusweni bokuvuselelwa ngokwesondo. Kodwa ukuvuselelwa ngokwesini kwabesetyhini akukhawulelwanga kwizinto ezilula, izilwanyana, iziphumo zomzimba. Abanye abesetyhini bachaphazeleka ngokukrwada, amanye amagama athando kunye neentlonelo, amagama amathathu alumkileyo kunye neengcamango ezinengqiqo, izenzo zesine, isimo sesithandathu senhlalakahle kunye nokunye njalo njalo njalo. Kubafazi, akusiyo umzekelo ongaphezu kwamadoda, ixabiso lezenhlalakahle zibaluleke kakhulu - iimpawu zomntu weqabane, ukuziphatha, umlinganiso, uthando kunye nobudlelwane. Ubundlobongela besini buxhomekeke kakhulu kwiingcamango ezifana nothando, ubudlelwane kunye nokuxhamla ngokomzwelo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abaninzi abasetyhini abanelisekile ngongqondo olungabandakanyekiyo, obandayo obuthandayo, kunokusukela kwisenzo sesini esingaphumeleli. Ngaloo ndlela, ihlabathi langaphakathi, ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo kunye nomoya womntu kubaluleke kakhulu kumfazi.
Ngokuchasene noko, amadoda athanda kakhulu kwaye akhuthaza uhlangothi lwangaphandle lomlingani, ukukhanga kwakhe kwangaphandle, ukuthobela imilinganiselo yesini, okanye ukuthanda kwakhe kunye nokuthanda kwakhe.
Ubundlobongela besetyhini luyinto enzima kakhulu kwaye iyinkimbinkimbi, ngoko ke kubasetyhini, imimandla ephosakeleyo ininzi kakhulu kwaye iqhelekileyo kuneyona nxalenye yindoda. Ngomfazi, iimvakalelo ezimnandi zibangelwa ngokuchukumisa amaninzi amaninzi omzimba wakhe, ngelixa emadodeni imimandla ephosakeleyo iboniswa ngokubanzi kwindawo yesini.
Iinkalo ezimbini ezibalulekileyo zesini - ubundlobongela kunye nokunyaniseka ngaphezu kweminyaka eyi- Ukunyanzeliswa kulo mongo akunakwenzeka ukuba kubonakaliswe njengento enobudlova, ingendawo kunye nekhohlakeleyo. Ngokuchanekileyo kwindlela yokujonga ngengqondo, "ulwaphulo" lithetha ukunyuka phambili, kwintlanganiso yenjongo (kulo mzekelo, isenzo sesondo). Amadoda ngokubaluleka kwabo kunye nesakhiwo sabo sezinto zenyama zibonakalisa intshukumo phambili, ngexesha elifanayo, abafazi kwisakhiwo sabo, njengokuba kunjalo, indawo yokugcina iinjongo, apho iinjongo zentlupheko zijoliswe kuyo. Unamandla okungena ngaphakathi okubangela ukuba isinyathelo samadoda. Ngethuba lethu, ugxininiso luye lushintsha kakhulu kwaye umlinganiselo wabantu abanobudlova kunye nabasetyhini abathandanayo, naye, kodwa le nto ibalihluke ngokupheleleyo. Ngenxa yokuba ibhinqa ayinalo nje ukungahambelani, kodwa nobudlova, yinto ephezulu kakhulu. Injongo yobundlobongela bakhe kukuthabatha ingqalelo yindoda kuye, ngelixa egcina ubungqina obungasifanelanga kunye nokuhlala njengoko kulandelwa. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba umntu udibana nobudlova obundlobongela besifazane, uyaqaphela ngokukhawuleza, ngenxa yesifiso sakhe sobulili sokuba umfazi abe buthathaka, oku kunokukhokelela ekufuneni ubudlelwane obutsha ngokwesini kunye nokungabi namandla. Zizo zizathu ezinzulu kunye ezingenazizathu ezibeka uluntu kwisiseko sobuhlobo bezesondo phakathi komfazi kunye nendoda. Ukongezelela, kufuneka ukwazi ukuba ibhinqa lifuna ukunqotshwa kwaye liyiswe, ephosakeleyo. Enyanisweni, ibhinqa kufuneka ibe yimfuneko kwaye iyinqweneleka, kwaye kuphela ke iya kuvula umtshutshisi wakhe. Into into yokuba ibhinqa ayifuni ukuba yinto nje yesondo.
Kukho ukwahlukana okubonakalayo kwisimo sengqondo kwimpumelelo yokulala ngokwesini phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini. Ukungaphumeleli komfazi kwisenzo sesondo kuxhomekeke ngokukodwa ekungabikho komntu. Kule meko, isitatimende esilandelayo, njengomthetho, asisebenzi. Kubalulekile ukukhumbuza ukuba ukungabikho kwengqondo yabesifazane kunye nobuthakathaka akukhatywanga ngokukhawuleza ngexesha lokusebenzisana ngokwesondo, njengoko kungasizwakala buhlungu ngenxa yowesifazane. Ngexesha elifanayo, ukungabikho kwintlalo kumntu kuya kubakho kwi-fiasco epheleleyo yeemfuno ezilungileyo kunye neziphumo. Yingakho umfazi enentlonelo kakhulu nakubuthathaka obuncinane kunxalenye yendoda. Ukongezelela, uyaqaphela kwaye engazi kakuhle ulwalamano nxamnye naluphi na ubonakaliso obuthakathaka kwindoda yendoda exhomekeke kuyo ngokomzwelo. Ekuqaleni, unokuxhasa, ukuqonda, nokubonelela ngenkxaso yokuziphatha ukuze umntu anqobe ubunzima bakhe. Kodwa ukuba akukho nanye apha ngasentla inceda, ngoko umfazi unokuba yintlonelo aze ahlasele iimvakalelo zintlungu kuye okanye uya kushiya elinye iqabane. Amadoda kwinqanaba elingenalwazi aqonde amandla okubhubhisa yowesifazane, kwaye umnqweno wabo wokuqhelisa umlingane wabo ungabanjwa, ubonakalise ukwesaba kwabo okungenakuqonda kwamandla ayenziwa ngumfazi wakhe. Ngexesha elifanayo, kunzima ukuba ibhinqa likhohliswe ngokunyamekela nokunyamekela, njengoko uya kuqonda okanye akrokre ngeengxaki zangaphakathi zeqabane.
Kodwa ke, kumadoda, kunqabile ukuba ukuthambekela okunokonakalisa kwenzeka kumfazi ofunyenwe ukuba akanakunxibelelana ngesondo. Indoda, kwiimeko ezimbi kakhulu, inokukhalaza ukuba iqabane lingakhathazeki, kodwa kunye naye, konke kulungelelaniswa. Into ephambili kumntu kukuba akayi kukhononda kwaye abuze ubukhulu bakhe. Indoda eqhelekileyo kufuneka iveze indima yakhe kunye noxanduva lomphumo wokuqhagamshelana, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo uyayiqonda ukuba umsebenzi wakhe kuphela ukuvusa nokwanelisa umfazi. Ukuba ibhinqa ifuna ukuziva iluncedo kwaye iyanqabile, idinga indoda ekhululekile ekwesabeni ukwehluleka.