Umona ngokwezengqondo

Sinomona kwaye sinomona. Ngaba kubi? Akunjalo. Umona akusoloko unobungozi. Ngaphezu koko, kunokunceda kwaye kufanele ukuba luncedo, into eyona nto "kukufunda ukupheka." Umona ngokwezengqondo - invakalelo enokuqala njengesimo sengqondo esibi kwabanye kunye nawe.

Masithi ngokunyanisekileyo: yile ngcamango yokuba sikwazi ukukhwelela umntu ongenakulinganiseki kuthi. Nangona kunjalo, oko sinokukukhwelezela, intanda wethu, sivumela ngokukhululeka. Kwaye xa sikhanyela ngakumbi ukuba sinako ukuvakalelwa okunjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo ukusihlutha. Ngenxa yoko, izazi zeengqondo zicebisa, ubuncinci ngasese, ukuba zilahle nayiphi na ezopolitiki kwaye zikhumbule ukuba le mvakalelo yanikezelwa ngokwemvelo. Ngenxa yoko kulandela isiphetho: ngesizathu esithile, wayeyidinga. Kwinqanaba elithile, sinokwenza umzobo ngesondo, apho sivumele khona ukuba siqaphele inyaniso elula: yonke into engokwemvelo, ayinamahloni.

Ingxaki yomona yayikhathaza izafilosofi zexesha lamaGrike. U-Aristotle wachaza "umbala wombala" owaziwa ngumona - omnyama nomhlophe. Kwimeko yokuqala, umnqweno uyabalawula: "Ndifuna ukuba ulahlekelwe into onayo." Lo ngumzekelo weklasi wokutshabalalisa, okanye umnyama, umona. Kwimeko yesibini: "Ndifuna ukuba nento enayo" - iinguqulelo zitshintsha kakhulu. Sekunjalo umqobo wamhlophe, umkhwele wokukhuphisana. Ekugqibeleni, lo luhlobo lomona omhlophe oba yinjini yeeprojekthi ezininzi zeprojekthi kwaye luya kuba sisiseko somncintiswano onempilo kunye noxhathiso.

Indlela yokusela!

Kanye njengento entle ayikho ngaphandle kokubi, umona omhlophe ungenakwenzeka ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle komnyama. Okanye kunjalo: ngokuqhelekileyo luncedo kwaye kuyimfuneko, umona "unokutshaya". Kodwa ukuba ufumana ingxaki yesisu, musa ukukhawuleza ukuwususa? Ngokufanayo, kubalulekile ukuba "uphathe" umona, ukuze utshintshe umbala wayo ukususela emnyama ukuya ekukhanyeni. Kwaye oku kusemandleni ethu.

Enye yemisebenzi edumileyo edluliselwe kwingxaki yomona, ingowomhlaziyi wesiNgesi uMelanie Klein. Kwincwadi yakhe, Isifundo Sokuba Nomona Nokubulela, utsho ukuba ukuziva kungekho ngokucacileyo kusekwe ebusaneni ngobudlelwane phakathi komama nomntwana. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba umntwana ufumana iimvakalelo eziphikisanayo malunga nesisu somama. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuye oku kukubonakalisa intuthuzelo, uxolo kunye nokukhuseleko, oko kukuthi, izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ngelo xesha. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, akakwazi ukukwazi ngokupheleleyo ukuzenzele konke oku kwaye kufuneka akhalise iimfuno zakhe. Ngaloo ndlela, isiseko somona ukusuka kwingcamango yengqondo yenziwa ngokoqobo kunye neentsipho zokuqala zobisi unina. Kodwa ke, kuninzi, kuxhomekeke ekubeni ngubani owamkela ubuncinane. Emva koko, iimpawu zobume bethu zenziwe ngokubanzi phantsi kophahla lwekhaya lomzali, kwaye umona wokuba umona awunjalo.

Ekuqaleni ukususela ebuntwaneni

Ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakhulela kwaye kwimiqathango ekhoyo, umona uya kuzuza ifomu okanye enye. Xa ukwaneliseka nokuzithemba ngokwakho, kukhula ngakumbi umkhwa wokuzithemba wena kwaye ungathembeli kwabanye, umona ongaphantsi uza kubonakaliswa ngumntu omdala.

Kodwa oku kubangela ukuba le ntliziyo kukuba abazali abanalo ulwazi olaneleyo kumntwana. Umzekelo weklasi: abantu abahlala bexakekile bathabatha inkunzi yebhokhwe kwi-kindergarten yokugqibela. Ngelo xesha, ubona ukuba oomama bahlala befika ngexesha likaPetya okanye uMas. Ngaloo ndlela, umona ungabonakaliswa ngobundlobongela: "Abazali abayi kundithatha njengoPetya, kwaye ngenxa yoko ndiya kuphula umtshini wakhe wokubhala."

Ukukhupha inkonzo kunye nokugqithisa ngokweqile. Umntwana usetyenziswa kwinto yokuba nayiphi na i-whims yakhe iyazaliseka ngokukhawuleza, kwaye uthatha lo mzekelo ukuba ube ngumntu omdala, apho eqhubeka ekhusele khona ukulinda iintlawulo eziza kuziswa kuye kwisitya sesilivere. Ekubeni akukho njengaye le nto yenzeka, umntu uqala ukukhwele inhlanhla, njengoko kubonakala kuye, indawo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ingxaki yomona kukuba ngandlela-thile iba njengomculi ongabonakaliyo, iliso lakhe libonakalisa inyaniso ngendlela ekhethekileyo.

Nangona kunjalo, njengoko uyazi, asikhethi abantwana. Ngoko kuza ixesha apho kufuneka uzithathele ngokugqithiseleyo, kungenjalo kukho umngcipheko wokuguqula waba yinkosi esuka kwi "Impawu eziqhelekileyo", echanekileyo ngenxa yokuba ukuthulula inetyhefu enkundleni yakhe kumenza abe nomkhwa ovela kumalume wakhe.

Vanderbildiha iya kutshabalala!

Ngomona ukusuka kwinqanaba leengcinga zengqondo kukho enye into ebangel 'umdla: sinomona ngokwenene kuphela abo basondele kwisangqa kunye nobomi bethu. Kwaye umncinci umgama phakathi kwethu kunye nenjongo yomona, kuphakanyiswe ingozi yokuba uvakalelo luya kuqinisa. Emva kwakho konke, asinomona ngeein Princess Princess Caroline okanye Angelina Jolie! Kunoko, silandela amabali abo, ahlala echazwe ngophicilelo, malunga neemvakalelo ezifanayo apho ebuntwaneni bephulaphule iindaba zeentetho zeCat kwiibhuthi. Iintlanzi kuthi - abalinganiswa be-fairytale order, bahlala kwiimeko ezifanayo, eziyingqungquthela.

Yintoni ongenakuyithetha ngayo kumphicothi-mphicothi-mkhulu L. Nangona kunjalo, yilo P., kwaye akukho nanye ikhamera Diaz, - inxalenye ebalulekileyo ebomini bethu. Emva koko, nguye, kwaye kungekhona i-Hollywood diva, eyasikhupha phezulu kwinqanaba lomsebenzi waza wathatha indawo esasiyibiza ngayo. Kwaye ngoku uhamba ngeekorori ngokukhangela okunokuthuka.

Eyeshadow amehlo

Kwinqanaba lezenhlalakahle, isimo sengqondo ebantwini sisoloko sinobukhwele - asibi. Ngako oko, umbuzo: "Ngaba unomona?" - impendulo edla ngokuphindaphindiweyo: "Hayi, hayi, mna, andifuni nabani na ongendawo."

Akukho mntu uya kuvuma ukuba uyamona. Nangona kunjalo, into yokuba le mvakalelo iyingozi. Ngoko ke, njengoko bethetha, musa ukuvuka. Nika ingqalelo ekuphenduleni okungenanto ngomlomo wakho. Ukuba, ngelixa ubalaphule, umntu uthatha i-closed closed pose: ukhangele kude, uwele iingalo zakhe, amabali anomdla ajongelwe. Xa, xa uxoxisana, u-interlocutor "akahlali ekhaya", kukuphela kwakho ukuba wabelane ngesiganeko esimnandi ebomini bakho, esi sihlandlo sokubonisa: ngaba ngulo hlobo lomhlobo afuna ukubonakala?

Ewe, unokuzama ukutshabalalisa isisusa somona. Isikhalazo sokuthi imisebenzi emitsha ewa kuwe malunga nokuphakanyiswa eofisini, ungashiyi ixesha lakho. Kwaye ngexesha elifanayo, qiniseka ukuba ulwazi lufikelela kwiindlebe ze-addressee. Nangona kunjalo, izazi zengqondo zisinxusa ukuba singabonakali kwaye sizilumke kakhulu: lo mkhuba siyazicwangcisa ngokungafezeki.

Unokuhamba ngokuthe ngqo kwindlela eyahlukileyo kwaye uvakalise imfazwe kumntu onomona. Ekubeni uyazi amabala akhe abuthathaka, unako ukuphazamisa ukuzingca kwakhe ngokungapheliyo, ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwi "calluses". Umzekelo, ukuba unomona ukubonakala kwakho kunye nempumelelo ngesini esahlukileyo, yenza ngokuphandle ixesha elivuyisayo lobomi bakho. Kwaye ukuba umntu onobukhwele akanakuxinzelelwa ngqalelo yindoda, qalisa malunga ne-oddities kunye nesabelo esingenakunyaniseka "sesitokisi esiluhlaza". Umthetho weengqondo usebenza: ukomelela iimvakalelo umntu azifumanayo, kunzima ukugcina umgca wokuziphatha. Kwaye amathuba ethu okuphumelela ayanda. Nangona kunjalo, le ndlela ilungele kuphela abo banamathandabuzo ngokwenene amathandabuzo eengqungquthela. Kwaye ukuba ungangeni kwinani labo, kungcono ukugcina amandla okwenza imisebenzi eyakhayo.

Enye inketho kukuzama ukuzidela kumntu onomona endaweni yokuzimela. Oko kukuthi, ukuzisa lo mntu ngaphaya kwemida yomdla wakho. Iphuzu aliyiyo ukuphakamisa iimvakalelo ezimbi zentshaba yakho impendulo yokucasuka, kodwa ukuwachitha. Yenza umona nje ... kwimozulu embi kakhulu. Awulahlekelwa ngumsindo xa imvula, kodwa thabatha i-ambulera nawe. Ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuseka umgama wangaphakathi kwaye ukhohlwe ngombandezeli, ngoko ke into ebaluleke kakhulu yenzeke: siyayeka ukuba sisisulu esithandekayo kuye.

Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu: musa ukugweba umntu onomona. Ewe, le ntliziyo ayikwazi ukubizwa ngokuba yinto emnandi, kodwa yendalo kwaye ivela kubo bonke abantu. Kwaye kulungile kakhulu ukufunda indlela yokuyilawula. Kuba, ukuba ucinga ngako, enye indlela yokukhwelela ihlabathi lamanveveli amahle. Abemi bayo ziilwanyana ezinjenge-robot ezinamathuba athile kunye namathalenta. Yilapho kungekho ndawo yokuba nomona. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuyona into ekhuthazayo, akunjalo?

Amahlaya ngenxa yesaziso sokuba izigulana ezibhenelayo azihlali ziphazamisa. Ngamanye amaxesha awaziqondi ukuba isizathu sokungakhathazeki kwabo kwangaphakathi sisona sivakalelo. Nasi umzekeliso womzekelo: intombazana yayikhala isikhalazo sokukhawuleza ukuba iyayikhathaza nayiphi na imisebenzi - ingaba iiprojekthi ezintsha emsebenzini okanye ukudansa. Yaye kunye nomntu onobudlelwane nobudlelwane naye akanako ukugcina ubudlelwane obude nabantu. Sifike kwisigqibo sokuba isiseko samava akhe asinalo umona. Xa eseluhlobo olutsha lomsebenzi awakwazi ukuthatha isikhundla esiphambili, waqala ukuva iimvakalelo ezimbi kumntu ophumelele. Kwakhona waphosa umsebenzi. Kuyafana nabahlobo-ulwazi malunga nempumelelo yabo ayinakuxolisa kuye. " Kodwa ukuba umona - ingqondo ephosakeleyo, ngoko, njani ukujongana nayo?

Fumana kwaye unqande!

Isibonakaliso santoni esithethayo kuwe sinokuqaphela ukunyanzelwa komntu ngaphandle kweminye impumelelo yabantu. Ngamanye amagama, xa unqotshwa ngokukhawuleza ngepeni ephuma kwibali malunga nendlela uA. ayisebenzise ngempumelelo ngayo ukuyithengisa eMilan, kwaye ekugqibeleni uK. wagqiba kwelo lwakhiwo lendlu entsha, kunye nabahlobo bakhe babonakala ngexesha elifanayo kunye neenqwelwana ezingenangqiqo "zonke ihlabathi zacula" kwaye unomonakalo ongenakunqandwa, ukhatywe yintlanzi yonke, ngoko, mhlawumbi, yile nto - isihloko somxholo wethu.

Ndimele ndithi inzondo ayiyona nto inobungozi nje kuphela ngenxa yesimo sengqondo kunye nobunzima, kodwa nempilo. Kwaye kunako ukunyanzela umona ukuxinezeleka kwangempela. Ngokuqinisekileyo unako ukushiya yonke into, unethemba lokuba "uya kulungisa." Nangona kunjalo, izazi zengqondo zithi iingxaki zethu, esingayifumananga ngazo inkalipho yokuziqonda ngokwenene, ziphanga umlo, ziphoqele ukubona yonke into emnyama.

Ngoko ke, ukuba unqanyulwa ngumbumba weshwele, kuyafaneleka ukuthatha amanyathelo athile ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye ookuqala kubo ukuqonda ukuba umntu makabe nomona ngenzuzo. Ukuba, ngokwenene, uyicinga njengesizathu sokuba uphumelele ngakumbi.

Okokuqala, nqama ukuzenzela le nto "amava" amava. Ukuba kunjalo, kuyafaneleka ukuyiqonda, emva koko, akukho mntu ufuna ukuba uphenduke ebantwini. Khumbula ukuba umona ungumva oqhelekileyo, kuyinto engokwemvelo kwaye akayi kumona umntu kwaye akukho nto engenakwenzeka. Emva kokuba uyeke ukuzithemba ukuba "inzondo yimihlaba yabantu abalahlekileyo", qala ukuguqulela iimvakalelo ezivela kwisitishi esibi sibe yinto enhle.

Wonke umdaka unesiphako. Kuya kuba luncedo ukuthetha "into enomona" malunga nokuba yiyiphi na ilandelayo okanye ezinye izibonelelo. Umhlobo weNkcazo ngokukhawuleza wanyuka? Kodwa cinga ngendlela oye wadibana ngayo naye ngenyanga edlulileyo. Ngoko ke, maxa wambi akunangqiqo ukuzibuza umbuzo: "Ngaba kuyimfuneko kum?" Ukuba impendulo iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukudlula kwisimo esinqabileyo ukuya kwindawo esebenzayo.

Yenza into enomona, kwaye uvavanye amathuba akho okufumana okufanayo. Zama ukuqwalasela phantsi kweziphi iimeko onokuzifezekisa esi siphumo. Ukuba le nto idinga imfundo eyongezelelweyo, oonxibelelwano lwezoshishino okanye ukubonakala kakuhle, uya kuvuma, konke oku kusemandleni akho.

Ngoku uyehla kwi shishini. Yahlula iqela lephepha kwiikholam ezimbini. Eyokuqala, khetha oko kukukwenza ube nomona. Yenza isicwangciso-nyathelo sinyathelo-nyi-step and put it in column column. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukugxeka iminqweno yakho. Ekugqibeleni, akukho maqhinga angeke akuncede ufumane ukukhula kunye noNaomi Campbell. Yiba ngqiqo!

Ukuba amaphupha akho ayenesibindi esikhulu, kukho iindlela ezimbini zokumelana nale meko. Eyokuqala kukugxila kumacandelo akho okuphumelela, ekuyeke ukuba uqhathanise nomntu. Okwesibini, ngokungaqhelekanga, indlela ye-Ellochka i-Cannibal, xa ukuqonda ukunqoba "iVanderbildih evunyelwe" kwakudingeka kuphela ukubuyisela umvundla kwingweyi yaseShanghai. Kwaye kuluqhetseba oluqhenqileyo, apho kwaye uyavuya. Kwaye xa sibheka u-Ellochka njengengqondo yokuba "bimbo" engenangqondo, izazi zengqondo, ngendlela, ziwagcoba lo mzekelo weplastiki yengqondo kunye nomona omuhle.

Ukuba unqotshwa ngumona omnyama, kukufanelekile ukuzama ukuphoyisa iimvakalelo kwaye uqondise inkambo yokuqiqa ngendlela efanelekileyo. Cinga ukuba imoto entsha yomhlobo wakho yabiwa. Yiyiphi okuya kuzuza kuyo? Kodwa kwixesha elidlulileyo ungathembela kwisithuthi sakhe xa kuyimfuneko. Ewe, kuyavakala kungeyonto. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukuze sibaleke kwiimfumba zeemvakalelo ezingathandeki kuthi kwaye sihambe ngendlela yazo ezizimeleyo, kubalulekile ukwenza izinto ezinjalo zokuzimela. Futhi ukuyeka ngokungapheli, ziqhathanise nabanye, ngokuqhelekileyo ubhekisele kulabo abathandayo ngenxa yokuba ungubani.