Abasetyhini abaninzi ngexesha lethu bayazi into enjengokuphila kabini, indoda kunye nomthandi - zombini ziyimfuneko. Xa ibhinqa lichithwa phakathi kwamadoda amabini, kungekudala okanye kamva kunomzuzu onzima wokuzikhethela uza, ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umthandi, onobuhle obungenakuphikiswa ngokukhawuleza, ngakwelinye icala, indoda eyaziwayo, eyaziwayo. Ukulimaza umyeni wakhe nje akafuni. Ukuze wenze ukhetho lwakho, kwaye oku kuphephekiyo, kuyimfuneko ukuvavanya imeko ukusuka kumacala onke.
Izinto ezifuneka ziqwalaselwe ngumfazi xa ukhetha phakathi kwendoda nomthandi
Kubalulekile ukwamkela into enjalo ngenjongo yokuba kungenakwenzeka ukukhokelela ubomi obungenamkhawulo kumfazi. Musa ukwakha imilingo ebudlelwaneni bamadoda. Inyani kukuba umyeni uya kuqonda ngandlela-thile malunga nokuba khona komthandi. Kungcono ukuxelela indoda kumfazi ngokwakhe, kuba kufuneka uqonde yonke into. Kodwa kufuneka uqwalasele ingqondo yomyeni wakhe, qiniseka ukuba imeko iya kukunceda.
Ibhinqa lifuna ukhethe phakathi kwamadoda amabini ukuba azenzele isigqibo sokuba yintoni exabisa kakhulu ubuhlobo. Umthandi - lo ngumntu omtsha, ngokuqinisekileyo unomdla kwaye unomdla wokuncoma, kodwa ucinge malunga nokuba ufanelekile ubuhlobo obude. Ukunyameka kuhamba ngokukhawuleza, ngaba ulungele ukwakha intsapho entsha kunye nalo mntu, apho akuyi kuhlala kumnandi kunye novuyo, kodwa kunye neengxaki ezahlukeneyo, kuba kungenjalo akukho nto?
Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ngokucacileyo oko umntu omtsha ekukutshathise. Mhlawumbi ungene kwinethiwekhi yakhe ngenxa yokuba ukhathele kwimihla ngemihla yobomi bentsapho. Kodwa ufanele ukwazi ukuba kukho iingxaki nakwiintsapho ezinamandla kunye ezintle kakhulu. Cinga malunga nokuba ufanele utshintshe ikhaya lakho thuthuzela kwizinto ezinokuzixhamla ngokubambisana.
Khawucinge nangento egcina wena eduze komyeni wakho, mhlawumbi umkhwa nje? Mhlawumbi umnqweno uphele kwaye uthando luye, ubudlelwane buye buthathaka. Mhlawumbi uphakamisa isandla sakhe kuwe okanye unemibono eyahlukileyo yokuphila. Mhlawumbi ayikuncedi kwaye uzitshintsha yonke imithwalo yengxaki zeentsapho. Musa ukugawula ehlombe, sitshele ngokungahambisani nomyeni wakho. Ukuba uyintanda ebomini bakho, ngoko uya kwenza konke ukulungisa imeko kwaye awuyi kuvuya. Kwaye mhlawumbi naluphi na utshintsho ongazifuni ukutshabalalisa umtshato wakho.
Abasetyhini abaninzi, xa bekhetha phakathi kwendoda nomthandi, bayalibala ngoonyana, becinga ngokuthanda kwabo. Ngaphambi kokuba uhlukanise abantwana bakho kobawo, cinga ngendlela abazahlukana ngayo naye, ukuba oku kuya kuthintela njani isimo sengqondo sabantwana. Buza iqabane lakho elitsha ukuba uzimisele ukunyamekela abantwana bakho, nokuba uyabathanda nantoni na. Lo mbuzo uya kunceda ukucacisa kunye neenjongo zawo ebuhlotsheni bakho.
Qwalasela ngokucopheleleyo kunye nomxholo wecala lombuzo. Umtshato okhoyo unokukufaka kwiimeko ezilukhuni, ukuhluka okufana neziganeko kufuneka kuthethwe ngqalelo xa ukhetha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umthandi onobubele akanakulungele ukufumana inxaxheba ngokufanelekileyo kwintombi yakhe entsha. Emva koko, iintlanganiso ezinqamlekileyo kunye nobomi bentsapho rhoqo zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo.
Kodwa nantoni na, nangomcimbi onzima, intliziyo yakho yodwa ngumcebisi olungcono. Uthando alukwazi ukudideka nantoni na enye. Kakade, isigqibo esilungileyo siya kuhlala nomntu oyithandayo. Emva kwakho konke, ubomi obungenalo uthando buthelwa. Emva kwakho konke, ukususela ebuntwaneni, yonke intombazana iphupha malunga nale mvakalelo. Musa ukuphulaphula nayiphi na icebiso elingaphandle, kodwa ukuba intsapho yakho ingasindiswa, ke ungayichitheli, kuba le nto ibaluleke kakhulu umntu.