Iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo zentombi-mkhwenkwe

Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuphepha ukulwa phakathi kwentombi nomkhwekazi? Kunokwenzeka ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba silwela ukuqonda kunye nokuthula. Kukho iimpazamo eziphambili umfazi womyeni azenza kumamazala. Cinga ngolu hlobo oluqhelekileyo nolona luqhelekileyo.
Umama ungcono kunomkhwezala
Intsapho encinane ihlala kunye nabazali bayo. Kwaye kuyinto efanelekileyo: rhoqo umama osondeleyo, ukuba oko kunceda. Ewe, kunye noqoqosho kwiimithwalo ezingaphantsi. Nangona kunjalo, into ehambelanayo nomyeni wakhe. Waqala ukuzidela ngakumbi kumfazi wakhe. Kuphantse kwenzeke ekhaya, uhlala emsebenzini okanye udibana nabahlobo.

Unina wendoda ubiza rhoqo kwaye uvakalise isikhalazo esilandelayo kumkhwekazi wakhe. Uninazala uyaqiniseka ukuba umfazi omncinci akayithandi kwaye akayikuxabisa unyana wakhe, ngoko kufuneka baqhawule kwaye baqhawule umtshato.

Inkcazo
Intsapho encinane ayifuni ukuhlala kwintsapho yomfazi. Ekubeni linciphisa imeko yabanye emehlweni abo. Uninazala unenkxalabo malunga nendodana yakhe ayiyize, kuba unyana kule meko uzama ukuphucula isimo sakhe ngeendlela zonke. Ewe, xa lo mnqweno uyancitshiswa waba yimali ephezulu kunye nomsebenzi. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo uqala ukufuna ukuqashelwa kubahlobo, omnye umfazi okanye ibhotile.

Ndiza kunceda uninazala
Umbhangqwana osemtsha uhlala nabazali bomyeni wakhe. Umalokazana uzama ukukholisa umkhwe wakhe kuzo zonke izinto, usebenza ngokuzimeleyo kwiindaba zasekhaya, kodwa azikwazi ukuhambelana. Ngamnye wabo unemibono yakhe ngobomi. Uninazala unomona ngokunyuka kwakhe kwaye ufuna ukuba yonke into ihambe ngaphambili. Umalokazana, weza endlwini yakhe "kunye nomqulu wakhe," njengoko bathethayo. Ngako oko, wenza konke okubi, uphekisa kakubi, akayi kushicilela ngokufanelekileyo, ulungiselele. Uninazala uzama ukumfundisa, kwaye umalokazana wakhe uqala ukumelana naye. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxubana ekhitshini kuya kuba ngama-scandals, aqhubeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo.

Inkosikazi kwindlu ngumkhwekazi. Akamele anike indima yakhe kwintombi kamalokazana. Umfazi omncinane kufuneka amkele imithetho yomkhwekazi wakhe aze axolelane nawo. Umalokazana ngumntwana apha kwaye ukusuka kule ndawo angayifumana inzuzo ethile. Vumela oomama ukuba bakhokele indlu yakhe, njengoko efuna. Nangona kunjalo, akukho nantoni na umama-mkhwenkwe angavunyelwa ebomini bodwa yabaselula.

Uninazala ungathatha isikhundla somama
Ibhinqa elingazange lifumane isisa kunye nomsa njengomntwana kunina, idlulisela intombi yakhe imthanda uninazala. Kuyenzeka ukuba umama wasezulwini wamphatha intombazana ebandayo okanye wakhula kwintandane kwaye akazange amukele uthando lomama. Kulo thando uyayifuna kwaye uzama ukumfumana kwintsapho yomyeni wakhe. Uninazala kamhla wokuqala ubiza unina, bahlala ngokuvisisana ngokugqibeleleyo.

Kuya kubonakala kulungile, kodwa kungekhona apha. Ukususela ekuqaleni, uninazala unxulumene nomalokazana kunye nento enxulumene nonina. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, uqala ukwenza iprojekthi kumama-mkhwenkwe wakhe ongenakunokwenzeka, oko waqokelela ngokucaphukisa unina. Oku konke kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kuba yimpikiswano kwaye abafazi baqala ukudonsa elowo icala kwicala elibi kakhulu.

Amazwana
Ubudlelwane phakathi komkhwekazi nomalokazana kufuneka babe nemida ethile. Umkhwenkwezana kule meko ulindela kumamazala omthandayo angathanda ukuwamkela kumama wakhe. Kodwa umama-mkhwenkwe, ekhulile unyana wakhe, sele sele ezalisekile umsebenzi wakhe wokubeletha kwaye akafunekanga ukuba amthande umalokazana wakhe njengendodakazi. Xa umda phakathi kwentombi nomkhwekazi ususiwe, imeko iya kuba yintlungu kwaye iqhube.

Kuzo zonke iingxaki zethu, uninazala kamama kaninzi ubeka ityala ngendoda yomkhwenyana womkhwenyana. Nantoni na eyenzekayo "embi" kwintsapho yabo, uninazala kufuneka ahlawule yonke into. Njengokuba umfazi wayengazange athukuthele umyeni wakhe, akayi kumqubuzela kwimpikiswano, kodwa uyabuyisa umama wakhe. Umama-mkhwenkwe kule meko uhlala nzima kakhulu. Umkhwenyana akafungi nomyeni wakhe, njengoko elawula onke amandla ambi kuninazala. Umyeni akaphazamisi kwingxabano yabasetyhini, kuba ubona ukuba "ibhizinisi lomfazi".

Inkcazo
Ukuba umntu umgxeka omnye umntu ngenxa yokusilela kwakhe, oko kukuphawuleka kokungakhutshwa kwengqondo. Ufanele uthathe uxanduva kwizenzo zakho nakwentsapho yakho, njengoko wena ngokwakho ukhethe umntu owaba ngumyeni wakho. Ukuba umama-mkhwe wakho uphazamisa kakhulu intsapho yakho, yithintele impembelelo yakhe, ingqondo yengqondo iya kuba lula kuye. Abazukulu kunye nendodana baya kuhlonipha unina nomama, abanomdla wabo.

Kwimfundo yabazukulwana, ugogo akafanelekanga
Uninazala unamkela abazukulwana bakhe, nangona umalokazana wakhe akazange akhulise ubuhlobo obuhle kakhulu. Uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabazukulwana bakhe kunye noxinzelelo lokuba uyazi kakuhle indlela yokukhulisa abantwana. Umntwana onethuba lokukhetha phakathi kweembono ezimbini zikagogo nomama uya kutshabalalisa, udlala ngokuqhubekayo ebuthathaka babantu abadala. Uninazala usoloko ephazamisa ebomini bomntu womntakwabo, kuba uvakalelwa kukuba unika iinkonzo zakhe ngaso sonke ixesha.

Inkcazo
Ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe anganyanzelwanga, kuyimfuneko ukufumana umsebenzi wakhe kwiindlela ezifanelekileyo kakhulu zomvuzo. Mhlawumbi imali, uncedo ngemisebenzi yasendlini, izipho, njl, kunye nayo kuya kuba mnandi ukukhawulela ixesha lokuhlala nomkhwekazi kunye nabazukulu ngeendleko zontanga okanye inzala. Kodwa ufuna iimpikiswano eziqinileyo ukuze ungakhubekisi iimvakalelo zikamamazala. Ngokomzekelo, ugogo unxinzeke kakhulu, kwaye umntwana kufuneka aqhele ukuthetha kunye noontanga bakhe. Phakathi kwezinye izinto, baya kuhlangabezana naye.