Kwaye eli qela labantu likwenza lokhu kumntu wonke: umphathi, osebenza nabo, izihlobo kunye nabahlobo, abangafuni ukucaphukisa okanye ukuthuka ngezenzo zabo.
Indlela yokufumana ukuzithemba ngakumbi, kunye nendlela yokukhusela ngokufanelekileyo imbono yabanye abantu?
Okokuqala kukho konke kufuneka uqale ngokuqaphela ukuba uhlala uxolisa, kwaye kungekhona kuphela kwishishini kwaye ngaphandle kwalo. Ngexesha elinye livuma ngokwakho ukuba awukwazi ukuzimisela. Awukwazi ukukhusela ngokwaneleyo nangokuchanekileyo imbono yakho kuyo nayiphi na impilo okanye imeko yomsebenzi phambi kwabantu abangabaziyo. Xa ufika kwisigqibo sokuba awufuni ukuthetha ngethoni ephazamisayo malunga nembono yakho (okanye uhlale ucebile), kuya kuthetha ukuba sele usesendleleni yokunqoba ukulungiswa nokungaqiniseki.
Njengoko sixelelwa lulwazi kunye nabaphandi, abantu abaxolisa kakhulu uxolo bayaqonda ukuba ababuthathaka, okanye abangaqeqeshiyo. Ngoko kufuneka ucinge, mhlawumbi umntu ucinga ukuba ungubani? Udinga ukuba ubhalise ngokukhawuleza kwiimina-mfundiso ezahlukeneyo kunye nokuqeqesha ekunxibelelaneni okulungileyo, okanye ubuncinane ufunde iincwadi ezininzi, izihloko ezichaphazelekayo. Bangakunceda ufunde ukucacisa ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokucacileyo imbono yakho, kwaye wenze ngokufanelekileyo! Zama ukufumana ulwazi kwi-Intanethi okanye kwilayibrari rhoqo kwiinkqubo zendawo. Qinisekisa ukuba ubuze nawuphi na isikhungo semfundo esikuloo dolophu malunga nokuba baneenkqubo zokunxibelelana ngempumelelo. Kunokwenzeka ukuba, kwaye kuwe kukho into efanelekileyo!
Okwangoku, khangela iinkqubo ezifanayo, ungasebenzisa lo msebenzi: soloko ucinga nje ngokulungileyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ufunwa okanye uxelelwe ngabaqeshwa bakho. Cinga ngokuqinisekileyo nangona, kuthi, ngolunye usuku ekuseni umphathi wakho ngokukhawuleza uxelela ukuba isicwangciso olawulayo, nangayiphi na imeko, kufuneka sigqitywe ngamaxesha emini.
Hlalani nihlala ninokuzola, nangona ukuba okokuqala niva ukuba umhla wokugqibela wesivumelwano unamhlanje, kwaye nangona uqinisekile ukuba akunakwenzeka ukulawula umhla wokugqibela. Musa ukuzama ukuxolisa kwakhona, uthi "Ndiyaxolisa, kodwa andinakukwazi ukujongana nomhla wokugqibela". Sondela kumphathi kwaye umxelele ngokuzenzekelayo ixesha langempela onokujamelana nayo. Kufuneka ukhunjulwe ukuba ukuba uthetha oku malunga nale fomu, ukuphendulwa komphathi kamasipala akuyi kuba nzima!
Funda ukukhusela ngokufanelekileyo ingcamango yakho kwindawo ethile yomsebenzi wakho okanye ubomi, kodwa emva kokuba utshintshise ukuzithemba kwakho kuzo zonke iindawo ezisele! Ungalokothi ufune ukuyeka, kuba nesigulane kakhulu, nangona ukuba ekuqaleni ungayi kukwazi ukukhusela ngokuqinisekileyo indawo yakho yokujonga. Abantu abaneminyaka engama-40 bahlala badinga iiveki ezi-3-4 ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke imihla, esebenza kumkhwa othile, uyilungise kwaye uphule ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukujwayela ukuvula ngokucacileyo kwaye uhlaziye uluvo lwakho, kuya kufuneka uchithe malunga neenyanga eziliqela. Zixelele ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuyenza, kuya kwenzeka nayiphi na imeko ingxaki yakho kwaye uya kuphumelela!