Kodwa wonke umntu uyadlula kwaye uyayiqonda ngendlela yawo. Kwaye ngexesha oya kuqonda ukuba olu luthando ngokwenene, uyazibuza: ingabe ihlala ihlala? Ngaba sinokukwazi ukuba kukho uthando olungunaphakade ngoku?
Kukho uluvo olusisiseko esilungileyo lokuba uthando lwazo ngaphandle, luhlala ixesha. Nangona kunjalo, kukho imimandla yobudlelwane obuqinile kunye nexesha elide. Yintoni edibana nala bantu? Hlonipha omnye nomnye, umkhwa, abantwana-kunokukho izizathu ezininzi. Kodwa bathi: "Siyamthandana" kwaye sineminyaka engama-25 kwaye sineminyaka engama-65. Ubukho bothando olungunaphakade, njengoShakespeare eRomeo noJuliet, alukwazi ukubonakaliswa. Oku kufuneka kuvelelwe kwaye kukholwe.
Uthando luni kwihlabathi lanamhlanje? Umthetho kunye nokuziphatha kwamhlanje kunika, kwaye ungakuvumeli, ukuvavanya iimvakalelo zakho, kukho umbono wamhlanje wothando kunye nolwalamano oluhluke kwiimbono zabazali bethu, oomkhulu, oogogo. Kodwa ngelo xesha, ixabiso le mvakalelo yokukhanya iyawa.
Ngoku uthando oluphakade luphupha. Kodwa ukugcina uthando, ukufudumala ngamandla ethu. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, sisetyenziselwa umntu, sicinga ukuba uya kuhlala ejikeleze. Kodwa akuyi kubakho uthando olungunaphakade ukuba aluxhaswanga ngqalelo, kumnandi kunye nokuthandana kunye nokukhathalelana.
Abaninzi banokucinga ukuba akukho uthando olungunaphakade, kodwa alukho. Ngaba isipho okanye indawo ekuya kuyo? Ikhono lokuthanda lubugcisa obunganikwa bonke abantu. Ngelishwa, sisoloko sithatha ukuthanda uthando olunjalo njengothando, ukutsalana: ziqhakazile, zinamandla, zinomdla kwaye zintle. Kodwa zidlula. Yaye ukuba emva koko, emva kokumqonda umntu, nazo zonke iingeniso kunye nokuphazamiseka, uthi: "Ndiyamthanda" , kuphela ke ngala mazwi malunga nothando lokwenene. Kunzima kwihlabathi lanamhlanje ukukholelwa othandweni ekuqaleni kokubona. Sithandana nomfanekiso, kodwa simthanda umntu, intliziyo yakhe, umphefumlo wakhe.
Uthando olungunaphakade lomntu wanamhlanje? Kunokwenzeka ukuba yithanda kuphela. Ngoku ayikho. Izinto eziphambili ziye zahluke: umsebenzi, inkululeko, abahlobo, ukuzonwabisa - oku kufuneka kubekho ebomini bethu, kodwa kukho umgca ongeke uweleke ukuba ufuna ubuhlobo obuqinileyo. Uthando aluhambelani nokuzingca. Kufuneka uhloniphe intanda yakho, uluvo lwakhe nembono. Ukulondolozwa nokugcina ukukhanya, ukukhanya kunye nesithando siyisiseko sokonwaba.
Uthando olungunaphakade luhluke kakhulu kwii-XVIII, i-XIX iikholeji, kwaye kwenzeka njalo kangangoko. Mhlawumbi ulwalamano luye lwahluke kuye okanye ixabiso litshintshile, - umntu unokuthetha ngolu hlobo ngonaphakade. Kodwa into enye iya kuhlala yinto efanayo: uthando luhlala lubonakala lungalindelekanga ebomini bethu. Omnye unothando kunye nomhle, umntu-onomdla kwaye oqaqambileyo, kodwa udibanisa yonke imbonakalo yothando lwenene, ubunzulu balo kunye nokungathandeki.
Ngaba kukho uthando olungunaphakade? Kungenzeka ukuba, wonke umntu unayo. Uthando lokwenene lunabalingani balo, ngaphandle kokuba luba lukhuni kwaye luyadlula: inhlonipho, ukuqonda, ukuthembeka kunye nokunyaniseka.
Ngamnye wethu, uthanda, unqwenela kwaye uthemba ukuba oku kubomi, kungunaphakade. Kodwa akusoloko kuvela ngaloo ndlela. Uthando lubuhlobo. Yaye kunye kuphela unokuyigcina kwaye uyenze ibe ngonaphakade.
"Uthando alukho umkhwa, kungekhona ukunyaniseka, akungathandabuzeki. Oku akusikho umculo wothando osifundisayo. Uthando lu ... ngaphandle kokucaciswa kunye neenkcazo. Uthando - kwaye ungabuzi. Mthande nje " (Paul Coelho)