Ukuba umntu uthe akakholelwa othandweni, akafuni ukuba umntu avule umphefumlo wakhe. Nokuba inkolelo enzima kakhulu kunye neentombi zamantombazana, ngokuqhelekileyo, ziba nje ngenxa yothando. Bathe cwaka ngolu hlobo, bafihla kakhulu emphefumlweni amava awayehlala nawo ebomini, kunye nokuhleka uthando, debunking iinjongo zamantombazana amaninzi. Mhlawumbi aba bantu bayayithiya uthando, njengento yokuziva. Inyaniso kukuba ngelinye ixesha, nguye owamanyanzelisa ukuba babe buthathaka, bahlazeke, bacinezelekile. Abayi kuthetha ngako kwaye baya kukhanyela yonke into, kodwa ngenxa yothando olungathandabuzekiyo lokuba isimo sengqondo esinjalo esi sibonakaliso sivelele. Kunzima ukuba amadoda anjalo avume iimvakalelo zabo nangona zikhona, aphule aze afihle ingqondo.
Umntu ovela kwimikhosi yokugqibela uya kuzibamba, aze aphike yonke imvakalelo. Oku, ukwenene, ubundlobongela ngokwakho, obangela ukudakumba nokudumala ebomini kunye nam. Kuba abantu abanjalo kuyacaca ukuba bayayiphika inkolelo uthando. Iyakwazi ukufundwa ngamehlo, evezwe ngamabinzana athile, athethayo ngaphambi kokuba babe nexesha lokucinga malunga nento ekhankanywe. Enyanisweni, kubuhlungu kwaye kunzima, xa ecaleni kwakho ngumthandayo okanye umngane. Kuthatha ixesha elininzi, ukunakekelwa rhoqo kunye nokuthanda ukuyivula, ukuqonda kwakhona iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ungesabi ukuba baya kuzisa ubuthathaka kwaye baphule intliziyo yakho. Awukwazi ukubeka uxinzelelo kumntu onjalo. Inyaniso kukuba abantu abanokuzikhupha ngamandla, bazichitha kwiintlungu kunye nosizi. Ngako oko, abanako ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza kwaye bashiya umphumo, bafuna iminyaka. Kufuneka ukuba uchithe ngaphezu kwenyanga enye ukuba le ntombazana ivule intliziyo yakhe encinane kwaye ithembele ngeemvakalelo. Enyanisweni, kubantu abanjalo, ukuthembela komntu onengqondo, oku kufana nokubeka ubomi. Kubonakala ngathi kubo banokulwa kwaye banqobe iimfazwe kwiimvakalelo. Uthando olungabonakaliyo, ubuthathaka kunye nohlazo olunxulumene nalo, kukhokelela ekubeni umfana uqala ukusebenzisa iimvakalelo kuphela ngesimo sezixhobo. Ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe azikwazi ukuba njalo, uqala ukuzivimba. Ukuba ufuna ukunceda umntu onjalo, yiba nesineke kwaye ukhuthaze, funda isingciloso kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, yiphulaphule. Wonke umntu oqhelekileyo unako ukuthanda. Kodwa akusiwo wonke umntu ofuna ukuyaziwa ngabanye. Kufuneka ufunde ukuziva amaxesha xa ulungele ukuvula kwaye wenze konke ukungalahlekelwa lo mgca. Emva kwexesha, le nsizwa izakuvala ngaphakathi kwayo. Unokumfundisa ukuba athethe ngakumbi kwaye, ekugqibeleni, uya kuphinda avume ukuba unako ukuthanda okwenene.
Ngelishwa, kukho abafazi kwihlabathi abathanda ukulimaza abantu. Baxoka baze batshintshe, bangaboni nantoni na into ehlawulelwayo kule nto. Amaxhoba ala mabhinqa ngowenye inqanaba labafana abangakholelwa othandweni. Aba bantu abatsha badukiswa ngabafazi babo okanye ngamantombazana. Iichiza, ewe, zihluke, umzekelo, ezifana nokuhlambalaza, ukusila, ukusebenzisa njengendlela yokukhipha imali kunye nokunye. Izindlela zokubangela amadoda ukuba azibethe kakhulu ngokwesini, kodwa isiphumo sinye - akayikholwa yothando. Ngothando lwethu. Abafana banokudumala kwiidodakazi kangangokuba abavumelani nokunyaniseka kweemvakalelo zethu. Kunzima kakhulu ukunxibelelana nabantu abancinci, kuba zonke iilwimi, zonke iimvakalelo, zibenza zikhanyele. Aba bantu bazama ukugqibela ukuba bangakholelwa kulo mfazi, nangona bafuna oko. Ziyakwazi ukuqondwa, kuba enye intombazana yayikholelwa loo mfana ngokungenamthetho - kwaye yaba yintlekele kuye.
Ukukhohlisa abantu abatsha ukuba bahlukane ngakumbi kunabo bahluphekileyo. Udidi lokuqala lwabantu abaselula alubonisi iimvakalelo, kodwa kulula ukudibanisa nabasetyhini. Kodwa ityala lesibini linzima kakhulu. Ukuba uzama ukunyamekela umntu onjalo okanye ukuthetha naye ngeemvakalelo, ngamaphesenti angamashumi asithoba anesithoba kwi-100 uya kuqala ukukhanyela yonke into kwaye athi oku akunakwenzeka. Ukuba abafana abavela kwicandelo lokuqala abakholelwa ukuba banokubathanda, ngoko abafana abanesigaba sesibini abakholelwa ekuthandeni ngokunyanisekileyo kwabafazi kubantu. Ngoko ke, nokuba uzama ukuba ngumhlobo onjalo kumntu onje, mhlawumbi, uya kukhubeka eludongeni olubanzi ngaphandle kokungathembeki nokungaqondi. Ngabo bafana kunzima kwaye kunzima ukwakha nawuphi na ubudlelwane. Inyaniso kukuba baqaphele okanye baqaphele, baqala ukuphindiselela intlungu abaye bazisa ngayo isetyhini. Yaye yonke le nto ingabonakaliyo. Akuyena onke amabhinqa anokuxhasa le nto kwaye aqhubeke nokulwa nentliziyo neemvakalelo zomntu. Kubalulekile ukuba kungekhona nje umfazi, kodwa kunye nodade, umhlobo, ngandlela-thile unina, ukuze ufumane ukuzithemba. Abantu abancinci banzima kakhulu ukudibanisa, musa ukuthetha ngabo kwaye uzame ukuvala ngokubanzi kwaye uhambe kude nabasetyhini. Eyona nto ibonayo, ibona kwintombazana kuphela into enokusetyenziswa ngokwesini, kwaye ekugqithiseni - abayithandayo nantoni na.
Ukuba umntu uthi akakholelwa othandweni, ngoko uyakwazi kakuhle. Nguye kuphela umfazi owamenza wacinge ngoko, akanakukuxabisa. Ewe, unokutshintsha yonke into, okanye, ubuncinane, zama ukukwenza. Kodwa ungalindelanga umphumo osheshayo kunye nendlela elula entliziyweni. Uzakufuna ixesha elininzi, umgudu nomonde, ukuze umntu wakho akholelwe kwakhona ukuba kukho imizwa yothando. Ukuba uyaphumelela, ngoko unokuqiniseka ukuba kuya kuba nomntu onobubele, omhle, onobubele obusondeleyo othanda wena.