Umfazi ngamnye ufuna ihafu yesiqingatha ukuze abele abantwana kwaye adale intsapho enoqinileyo kunye nolonwabileyo. Kwiintsuku ezindala, abazali babehlala bekhetha iintombi zabo ngeentombi zabo, kodwa le nkcubeko yayinomsebenzi omkhulu-abazange baqwalasele iimvakalelo zabaselula kwaye ngamanye amaxesha imitshato yayingenalo uthando nhlobo. Ngoku yonke into ishintshile kwaye lona wesifazane ukhululekile ukukhetha iqabane lakhe ebomini. Kodwa ungathini ukwenza impazamo xa ukhetha nokudibanisa ubomi bakho kunye nomntu oyifunayo? Ngamanye amagama - indlela yokukhetha umyeni ofanelekileyo?
Uthando, ewe, luyinto enhle, kodwa enye kuphela ayaneleyo ukudala intsapho enonwabileyo. Nokuba uthando oluqinileyo luya kuphelela xa ungekho mnye. Emva kwakho konke, umtshato awukwenzanga nje ukuphana phantsi kwenyanga, ukuvuma uthando, isondo kunye nokuhamba phantsi kwengalo. Kwakhona nobomi, ubunzima obudibeneyo, nokuzalwa nokukhuliswa komntwana. Ngako oko, ukuthanda umntu, nokuba i-nect iqhawula imvakalelo yakho kwaye ucinge malunga nokuba uyakufanisa nesihloko okanye unabantu abafani nantoni na.
Ngezantsi, sinikela kuwe imigaqo emibini ebalulekileyo ekufuneka ilandelwe xa ukhetha iqabane lomntu. Ngoko, masiqale.
Nikela ingqalelo yakhe intsapho
Iimpawu ezininzi esizithatha kubazali bethu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwenzeka ukuba njengoko uyise eziphatha kunye nonina kwintsapho, ngoko ke indoda iya kuzalana nomfazi wayo kwikamva. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku akunakucingwa njengomthetho, kuba bonke abantu bahluke. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba kubazali abanengqiqo nabathuliyo bakhulisa unyana onobukrokra nobugwenxa, kwaye kwenzeka ukuba abazali baphika utywala kunye nabantu abanobuqhetseba, kwaye umntwana ngokuchaseneyo wakhula waba noxolo. Ngako oko, akukho mpendulo engabonakaliyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba intsapho yolutsha lwakho ayamkelekanga ukuhlonipha abafazi kunye nabantu besizukulwana esidala, kubaluleke kakhulu ukucinga ngako.
Qaphela kwakhona ukuba ngaba yamkelwe ukuba sisondelane, ncedisa kwiimeko ezinzima kwaye uhloniphe uluvo lomntu. Konke oku kuya kukunceda wenze inkcazo malunga nentsapho yakhe. Yintoni engabonakaliyo, kwaye intsapho inokuthi ibenomthelela omkhulu kumntu. Kungenxa yesi sizathu sokuba xa uqhelana nabazali bakhe banakekele ingqalelo yakho ngesimo sakho sengqondo, ngenxa yokuba kaninzi umamazala okanye umkhwekazi onokubangela ingxoxo kwiintsapho eziselula.
Khangela abahlobo
Into elandelayo kufuneka uyibeke ingqalelo kwiqela lakho elithandayo. Abahlobo ebomini bomntu badlala kude ekugqibeleni, ngoko jonga ukuba ubani ojikelezayo. Mhlawumbi ininzi yabo iqinisekile ukuba i-chatter kunye nabavakalisi, okanye ngokuphambene nentsapho - abantu bentsapho. Abahlobo bakhe baphatha njani ithole, ngaba bayayisebenzisa kakubi okanye ngaphandle kwesizathu, banalo naziphi iingxaki zomthetho? Hlaziya yonke into uze ufikelele izigqibo.
Isimo sakhe sengqondo ngemali
Nantoni na onokuthi, imali idlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini bethu kwaye imitshato emininzi iyaphula ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yabo. Khangela, ngaba indoda yakho ilungele ukusebenza kwaye izama ukuzinzela yena kunye neentsapho zakhe ezizayo okanye uthanda ukulala embhedeni xa utywala ibhiya? Qaphela, akazange ahluthe imali ngakwesokunene nangakwesobunxele, akayi kudlala? Ingaba iqabane liye lathatha ukuqokelela imali, ingabe ithatha inxaxheba kutyalo-mali, ingaba kukho uhlobo lwemali engabonakaliyo xa kukho imeko ezingalindelekanga?
Inendima enkulu edlalwa kukuba uya kukuhlawula imali? Ukuhlala nomntu onomdla oyika ukunika umfazi wakhe ipenki eyongezelelweyo, kunokubonakala ngathi ayinandi.
Isimo sakhe sengqondo kubantwana
Ukuba uceba ukudala intsapho eqinile kunye naye, nceda ukhangele indlela aphatha ngayo abantwana. Ukuba unabantwana ukusuka emtshatweni wokuqala, qiniseka ukuba uqaphele indlela awaphatha ngayo. Ngaba uzama ukwenza abahlobo nabo, ngaba uyayinyamekela, uyanyamekela?
Ukuba akukho okanye unabantwana okwamanje, jonga ukuziphatha kwakhe kunye nabazalwana abancinci, odade okanye abazalwana. Nepplemyannikov kunye nabazalwana abaselula? Akunandaba. Buza intombi yakho enabantwana ukuba bamema bobabini kwiqela leentsapho ezinkulu, umzekelo, ukuba ube nomcimbi wokuzalwa, kwaye apho, jonga othembekileyo wakho.
ZezeMpilo kunye neeGenetics
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunokubonakala ngathi kungcolileyo kwaye kukudumisa, kodwa ukhetha umyeni wakho, buze ukuba kukho izifo ezithandekayo kwiintsapho zakhe. Kakade, akudingeki ukuba ubuze loo ndoda kwiiveki zokuqala ukuba wazi ukuba unempilweni, kodwa xa ubuhlobo bakho buya kuthembeka ngakumbi kunye nezihlobo, unokwenza ngokucophelela kwaye unobtrusively uzame ukufumana malunga nempilo yakhe kunye nabathandekayo bakhe. Yenza ngokucophelela ukuphosakela umntu othandayo ngemibuzo enjalo. Emva kwakho konke, wena, njengomama ozayo, kufuneka ube nethemba kwimpilo yabantwana bakho.
Yintoni eyithandayo kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla ?
Imitshato emininzi iyahlukana ngokuthe ngqo ngenxa yemicimbi yasemakhaya. Vumelana ukuba ukuhlala nomntu ongafuni ukukhonkxa udonga eludongeni kunzima. Kule meko, zilungele ukuba yonke imicimbi yasekhaya iwele entloko yakho. Ngako oko, phawula into eyenziwa ngumntu wakho nokuba ingaba ulungele ukukunceda. Ukuba awuhlali ndawonye, jonga ukuba kulula. Kufuneka ufike amaxesha ambalwa ukumtyelela ngaphandle kwesi simemo kwaye ujonge oko kwenzekayo kwindlu yakhe.
Ukubona ukuba ulungele ukukunceda njani nokuthi unxulumene nomsebenzi wesikolo, ngandlela-thile umcele ukuba akuncede ngendlela encinane. Umzekelo, mcele ukuba akubophe ishedyuli kwindawo yokuhlambela, uhambise ifenitshala okanye mhlawumbi u-pat etaweni yesitrato. Landela impendulo yakhe ukucoca isicelo kwaye wenze izigqibo eziyimfuneko kuwe.
Ukuzilibazisa kunye nesimo sengqondo
Nangona bahlala bethetha ukuba ukuchasana kukutsala, ngokwenene kwenzeka ngokungafaneki. Umzekelo, ukuba awukwazi ukuphila ngokuhamba ngeenyawo, ukuhamba kunye nemidlalo, kwaye umfana wakho ukhetha ukuchitha ixesha lakhe elikhululekile phambi kweTV okanye ikhomputer, ngoko omnye wenu uya kufuneka 'aphule' kwaye ulungelelanise kwenye, okanye uza kulambile ixesha hlukile. Ngoko ukhethe umyeni wakho ubuncinci kangako.
Isimo sengqondo ngesini
Nanku imfihlo ibulula kakhulu: ukuba ulala kakuhle, zonke izinto zilungele. Ukuba, kwi-plane yesondo, awuhambelani kakuhle, ke le sihlandlo sokucinga ukuba ungumntu. Emva koko, ukuba omnye wabafazi abathobela ngaphantsi kwinto ethile yesini, ngoko mhlawumbi unqume ukuba akwenze kwicala, kwaye emva koko kukho inyathelo elilodwa lokuhlambalaza.
Ubomi befilosofi
Cinga ngendlela indoda yakho ephathelele ngayo ubomi. Yintoni ozama ukuyifumana, yintoni oyikisayo, uhlangabezana njani nobunzima? Qinisekisa ukuba ubeke ingqalelo kwiinjongo ozibekayo kunye noko afuna ukufezekisa. Wazama ukukhula ngokubhekiselele kubuntu, nokuba wayefuna intsapho kunye nekhaya? Ukuba i-UVass ifana nomoya, ngoko mhlawumbi usendleleni. Ukuba akunjalo, mkhulule umkhulule lo mntu kwaye ungazami ukumisela imbono yakhe kuye okanye ukulungelelanisa naye kwaye ulahle izicwangciso zakhe neenkolelo zakhe. Akunakwenzeka ukuba into efanelekileyo iya kuphuma kule nto.
Uyakuphatha njani ?
Kwaye into yokugqibela, into ebalulekileyo kwisihloko esithi "Indlela yokukhetha indoda" isimo sakhe sengqondo kuwe. Cinga ngendlela ovakalelwa ngayo kufuphi naye, ukuba uyakuthanda kangakanani kwaye kukulungele ntoni lonwabo.