Ngelishwa, iinkosana ezimhlophe zamahashe amhlophe zidlulile kwiindawo ezithile. Ngoko ke, thina bafazi banamhlanje, kufuneka bathande amadoda abo, kunye nazo zonke iziphoso zabo. Kodwa yintoni ongayenza ukuba, umzekelo, itompu kwindawo yokuhlambela iqhutyelwe inyanga ngoku, kodwa ingabe intliziyo yakho endiyithandayo ingenakuyiqonda? Okokuqala, khumbula ukuba inyoka kunye nabasetyhini banezinto ezifanayo - ubulumko. Xa unxibelelene nobulumko umkhwa, lo mfazi unako ukuguquka ukusuka kwindoda.
Isimo 1
Amandla ethu aphantsi kobuthathaka bethu
Ngoko, masiqale ngepompo. Esikhundleni semini nobusuku ukukhumbuza umyeni wakhe ukuba uyaphonsa (itompom, oko kukuthi), unokudlala intloko kunye nezwi ngelizwi elibuthathaka xelela umyeni wakho malunga nephupha oye wahlanjululwa ngamanzi awela emgqeni.
Nangona kunjalo, inqaku elifihlakeleyo kwi-addressee lingafi. Umfazi osisilumko uya kumhlangabeza umthandi wakhe ngomfanekiso ochaphazelayo wentombazana edidekile enefestile esandleni sakhe, ubuso bakhe buphelelwe yithemba: "Ndandifuna ukukulungisa, kodwa akuzange kusebenze kum ..." Kubalulekile ukusabalalisa indlu yokugezela engenamsebenzi kunye nendawo isethi yezixhobo, kubandakanywa i-saw kunye nentsimbi ye-soldering. Ngethuba uxakeke ngephepheni, kuyimfuneko ukulandela izenzo zakhe ngokumangaliswa okungekho nto kwaye ubuze imibuzo efana nale ndlela: "Ngoko ke le nto ixhambileyo iyinyumba, ewe?" Yonke into ehamba ngokuhlwa ihamba phantsi komqondiso wamandla akhe.
Isimo 2
Words Magic
Le ndlela ifana neleyo esetyenziswe ngabaphengululi be-psychotherapists abathi, ngoncedo lwabantu abangabonakaliyo begama, bangakwazi ukucwilisa izigulane ezingenakuzithengisa ukuya kwi-trance. Ukuze unobtrusively uchukumise umbono wakho ozithandayo wale meko, imibuzo ye-pseudo-type ilungile kakhulu:
"Ingqungquthela, kodwa i-kettle sele isele ibilisiwe?" Okanye iinguqu ezizifihliweyo: "Uye waphawula ukuba unobhala wakho unxibe njani?" Igama elithi "OK" lisoloko lingenakwenzeka. Ngokomzekelo, unokubuza: "Siya kufika nini kwi-bazaar ngoMgqibelo okanye ngeCawa?" Njengomthetho, umbuzo othi "Ngaba ndifanele ndihambe nonke?" Akusayi kubizwa.
Isimo 3
Ngokuphathelele inzuzo yokubetha
Ngubani owathi yintokazi kuphela ethanda indlebe? Enyanisweni, amadoda awanandaba nokuncoma. Into ephambili kukuba ukhethe isithunzi esinzima ukuvavanya ngokucacileyo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntu uthi unomxholo obumnandi wezwi, kunzima ukuyijonga, kodwa iimeko zakhe ziphakame, kwaye oku kuyimvelaphi efanelekileyo yokuthetha ngokuthenga i-vacuum cleaner entsha. Into ephambili apha akuyikuyidlula. Ngokomzekelo, akufanele uxelele umntu onqabileyo ukuba unesilongwe sokuqala.
Indlela eqinisekisiwe yokumdumisa umntu phambi kwamaqela asithathu: "Uyazi, unengqiqo, inokuthi iintyatyambo zingenasiphi isizathu sokunikela" okanye "Uhamba kakuhle kunye nabantwana, andinakukwenza." NgeCawa, xa uya kuqhubela abantwana kwi-zoo, unokulala ngokulala ngokulala kwiqhekeza kunye nencwadana yomcuphi.
Isimo 4
Sithatha uloyiko
I-avarice yamadoda yokuncoma enye yeengqungquthela eziphambili zeengxoxo zethu. Kuhlala kuthethwa ngento ethile, ngenxa yokuba imeko ihlala ikhona kwi-anecdote. Ukuze uzenzele ingqalelo kuye, unqwenela ukubeka i-mask mask. "Ngaba wakhupha iilebe zakho?" Uphendula. Kukho imbono enkulu. Ukudibanisa iinwele zakhe ezinde, engazange azithande ixesha elide, umntu kufuneka abe nokungathembeki: "Ingqunywe, okanye yintoni?" Akukho mandla okomisa le inwele. Mhlawumbi unokuzilungisa kwakhona? "Ungacinga nangomsebenzi weplastiki ukwenzela ukunciphisa i-lens okanye umbala womnxeba:" Bathi ngoku amehlo asemdaka asemfashini ... "
Ukuziphatha kuzo zonke iimeko ezinokwenzeka, ewe, akunakuchazwa. Kodwa umgaqo oyintloko wexesha elithile loqhagamshelwano nesigxina sakho esixabisekileyo, mhlawumbi sele uqondayo. Into ephambili yinto enobulumko.
Umphumo womtshato uthathe isigqibo ekuqaleni
Ingxaki yomtshato ingaqikelelwa ngokuchanekileyo kwiminyaka yokuqala yokuba khona kwayo. Esi sigqibo senziwe ngabaphandi baseMerika, ukulandelela, kwiminyaka engama-20, izibini eziyi-156.
Kwabonakala ukuba uninzi lwezithemba zomtshato ophumeleleyo kunye ohlala ixesha elide unokufumaneka phakathi kwalabo ababenokukwazi ukugcina isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kumlingane kwiminyaka emibili yokuqala yobomi. Abo baqhawula emva kweminyaka eyisixhenxe yomtshato babenomdla owonwabileyo ekuqaleni kobomi obutsha. Kodwa iphupha elimnandi alizange lide: ukuzahlukana neengcamango ezithatha kuphela iminyaka yokuhlala kunye. Le "ntshukumo yobudlelwane" ibonisa ithuba eliphezulu lokuqhawula umtshato emva kweminyaka emininzi yomtshato.