Kule meko, kufuneka usebenze ngokuchanekileyo nangokuchanekileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunzima ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza wenze isigqibo sokuba wenze ntoni xa umhlobo omdala evuma ukuba uyakuthanda.
Okokuqala, ukuba umfana uvuma kuwe ngeemvakalelo ezinjalo, wenza intando enkulu. Inyaniso kukuba ukuvuma okunjalo kungonakalisa ubuhlobo bakho, kwaye wayesazi ingozi ayithathayo. Kwaye kwakungekho lula kuye, kuba ngenxa yezizathu ezithile wayethule ixesha elide. Ngoko ke, into engenakuyenza, ukuba umhlobo uvuma uthando, ukuhleka kuye. Ndicinga ukuba akukho mntu uya kudlala kunye nomntu osondeleyo kwaye akufanele umbuze into efana nale: ihlaya, uyabetha, kunjalo? Iinkcazo ezinjalo ziyakhathaza kakhulu umntu omncinci. Enyanisweni, kuvela ukuba uhleka kwiimvakalelo awavuma ngazo. Khumbula ukuba lo ngumhlobo wakho omdala, oye wancedisa amaxesha amaninzi, ngoko ufanele umphathe ngokuhlonela. Kakade ke, ngeli thuba unomothuko kwaye unokuziphatha ngendlela engafanelekanga. Ukuba kwenzeka, kha wuleza uxolo kwaye umcele ukuba athethelelwe. Akufanele wenze inhlekelele yehlabathi ngokuvuma kwakhe. Kodwa akufanelekile ukuthabatha oku. Kubalulekile ukuba ugcine ubudlelwane bakho. Ngoko, mbuze kuqala ukuba uyakuthanda kangakanani kwaye indlela aqonda ngayo ukuba iimvakalelo azikho ubungqina kuzo zonke. Ndicinga ukuba uya kubuya umphendule lo mbuzo, kuba ufuna ukuthetha. Kwaye, nawe, uya kuqonda ukuba lo nthando ngokwenene, okanye uthando olungapheliyo oluye lwavela ngesizathu esinye okanye esinye. Uvela phi uhlobo lweemvakalelo analo, uya kuqalisa, ukhethe ukuba wenze ntoni emva koko.
Ukuba intombazana inomdla oye wavela ngenxa yeziganeko ezinxulumene nawe, mxelele ukuba, mhlawumbi, wayedidekile imizwa. Ngoko ke, ucebisa ukulinda elincinci, ukuze uqonde ukuba ingaba luthando ngokwenene, kwaye ke yonke into iyagqitywa. Kwimeko apho akusilo uthando olude lwexesha elide, umfana uya kutshisa ngokukhawuleza, kwaye uya kuba nohlobo, njengangaphambili.
Kodwa ukuba ubona ukuba uyakuthanda ngayo yonke intliziyo yakhe kwaye uyayithanda ixesha elide, ngoko kufuneka usebenzise elinye iqhinga. Okokuqala, kufuneka uthathe isigqibo malunga nendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo. Emva koko, unokwenza ubungane nomntu, ucinga nje ukuba akukho buhlobo, kodwa uya kuthanda. Kule meko, akufuneki ukwesaba nantoni na. Nangona ucinga ukuba awukwazi ukuba ngumtshato, kufuneka uzame. Mhlawumbi ulahlekile, kuba unokuba ngumhlobo iminyaka emininzi. Yaye ubuhlobo, okokuba, ngokwenene, uthando olufanayo, kodwa ngaphandle kokwabelana ngesondo. Ngoko uzama ukugawula kwiphepha uze ukhangele iimvakalelo zakho. Nangona akukho nto eyenzekayo, unokuphinde ube ngabahlobo, kuba ubuhlobo obuqinileyo obunamandla abuyi kuphula nantoni na. Kukho nawuphi na, kungcono ukuzisola ngokwenza ngaphandle kokungenziwanga. Olu bulumko bulumko luye lwaqinisekiswa ngokungekho nanye kwisithandane. Ngoko ke, qwalasela le ngcebiso.
Ewe, yintoni oyenzayo ukuba ungayithandi umhlobo wakho njengomntu, nangona uyamxabisa, kwaye awukwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwakhe, kodwa, kunokuba, ngaphandle komzalwana, kunokuba ungumfana. Kule meko, ngokukhawuleza, cacisa ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokucacileyo isikhundla sakho kwaye unganiki ithemba nakuphi na. Ukuba uthetha into engacacile, njenge: "ixesha liza kuxela", umhlobo wakho uya kuthatha njengesikhokelo sokuthatha isenzo kwaye uya kuqhubeka ukunyanzelisa uthando lwakhe. Ngoko ngokukhawuleza umchazele ukuba uyithande kakhulu kuwe njengomzalwana kwaye akayi kubangela omnye umvakalelo kwaye akayi kubangela. Ukuba uyakunxusa ukuba unike ithuba lokubonakalisa ukuba uyisiphephelo sakho, yishiye. Ngaphandle koko, le ntsha iya kuqala ukujika iintaba, ichithe imali kwaye ingagqibekanga kwisiphumo. Ekugqibeleni, uya kuthanda ukucaphukisa kuwe, nabani na oya kudana. Kodwa awufuni ukuba umntu omthandayo ahlupheke. Ngako oko, yenza oko ukuze aphile kwintlungu enye, kwaye akayi kuhlushwa ngenxa yakhe iminyaka emininzi.
Ukuba unomfana kunye nomhlobo uqala ukummnyama ngenxa yesikhwele, ngokukhawuleza, kodwa umxelele ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba nangona uqonda yonke into, kodwa awuyi kuvumela ukuba ndithethe izinto ezimbi ngomntu oyintanda. Ngoko ke, ukuba ingagqithanga, ngoko uvele uxabane. Kwakhona, khawuleza wenze isigqibo sokuba kulula kangakanani ukusinda kweli xesha. Mhlawumbi wena kunye nomhlobo wakho akakwazi ukubonana ngethuba elithile. Ukuba ucinga ukuba, wamukele ngesigqibo sakhe ngesigqibo. Ewe, kuya kuba nzima kuwe ngaphandle komthandayo, kwaye uya kuqale ulahleke. Kodwa ukuba uthe wagqiba ngoko, ubukho bakho buya kumlimaza, kwaye ufuna into encinane. Ngoko vumelana naye kwaye usho nje ukuba uya kuhlala ulinda umnxeba wakhe, kuba ubuhlobo bakho bubaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
Ukuba lo mntu uthi uya kuhlala esele, kwaye uya kuba ngumhlobo, uze ulungele ukuba ixesha elide uya kukhangela umona kunye nomona kwiqabane lakho okanye amadoda aya kukunyamekela. Kwakhona, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuhlutha, akrakra kwaye athukuthele. Zama ukumxhasa, kodwa ungabonisi ububele kwaye ungaziphathe ngokuphindwe kabini. Umfana kufuneka aqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba awuyi kutshintsha isigqibo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyithande kangakanani kuwe. Kwaye emva kwexesha, iimvakalelo zakhe ziya kupheka, kuba akukho uthando olungapheliyo. Emva koko unokwenza kwakhona abahlobo njengangaphambili kwaye, mhlawumbi, ukuhleka kule meko. Okwangoku, kufuneka nje ufumane amandla, ulinde uze ukholelwe ukuba ubungqina bokwenene bunokukunqoba izilingo ezinjalo.