Ubuqhetseba obusetyhini sele buhlala kwaye buhlala bubethusa. Ukufunda ngokungcatsha komyeni wakhe, emphefumlweni womfazi ngexesha elifanayo ukulwa nemvakalelo enjengomsindo nentukuzelo yomyeni wakhe, ukungaqiniseki kwixesha elizayo kunye nokudideka, ukuzithobela. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuphuma kule meko. Kodwa ukuba ukuphikisana okungazange kwenzeke, kuyintoni na oko? Kuthiwani ukuba iimpawu zokuqala zokudlala ngothando ziqala ukuzibonakalisa? Kuthekani ukuba ndifumene inyaniso engathandekiyo - umhlobo ulala nomntu wam?
Okokuqala, zicacise ukuba umfazi odlala nomlingane wakho akakwazi ukubizwa ngokuba intombi. Umfazi onjalo unokuba ngumntu osebenza naye, umhlobo, owayengumfundi ofunda naye, ngokubanzi, ngabani na, kodwa kungekhona nje umhlobo. Ukuze ubeke yonke into kwindawo yayo, unokumema umdlali wakho kwi-cafe kwaye ngelixa uphuza ikhofi, uthetha ngokunyanisekileyo naye. Kodwa olu khetho kufuneka lisetyenziswe ukuba umlingani ungomnye wabahlobo abasondelene nabo. Ingxoxo ephosakeleyo nomhlobo kule ngxaki iya kukunceda ukuba ugqithise izikhalazo zakho, okanye uqinisekise. Mhlawumbi, emva kwengxoxo ephosakeleyo, umhlobo wakhe uya kufumana izigqibo kwaye unqwenela ukugcina ubuhlobo bakho. Nangona kunjalo, olu khetho lunokusetyenziswa kuphela xa unobungane bokwenene.
Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kukho enye imeko: umyeni wakho udlala ngothando nomhlobo wakho oqhelekileyo okanye owaziwayo. Kule meko, unokuthetha nomlingane, kodwa kuphela xa ulwalamano oluthembayo kwaye umxelele oko kukukhathazayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwintsapho apho kukho ubudlelwane obusondeleyo phakathi kwabatshatileyo ngaphandle kwamabhondi e-conjugal, ezinjalo iingxaki zixazululwa lula. Ukuba umyeni unomntu kwaye uvakalelwa iimvakalelo ezithile kuye, akayi kuxoka kuwe ngenxa yenhlonipho enyanisekileyo kuwe. Kodwa ukuba unomntu kwaye akayiva nantoni na, ngoko unokugqiba kunye kunye nezenzo zakho.
Ewe, ukuba uyamthanda umyeni wakho kwaye ungalindeli ukuthetha naye malunga nezikhalazo zakho, ngoko yintoni ehlala isenziwa? Lindela uphinde ulandele intuthuko. Kwimeko apho ungathandabuzeki ukuba umhlobo ulala nomlingane wakho, uze unqande ukuthetha naye ekhaya. Kodwa kungcono, ukuba kunjalo, ukuphelisa naluphi na unxibelelwano nomhlobo onjalo. Ukuba umlingani udlala ngesobala kunye neqabane lakho phambi kwamehlo akho, ngoko nawuphi na umzekelo, musa ukulungiselela "ukulwa" kunye / okanye ukuhlaselwa, ukuphendula okunjalo kunokwandisa umnqweno wakho kumdlali ukubetha umlingane wakho.
Khumbula ukuba kulula ukukhusela ingxaki, kunokuphelisa iziphumo eziza kubakhokela. Ngoko zama ukuba ungasondeli kakhulu neentombi zakho. Amantombazana akuchazi ngokucacileyo iinkcukacha zakho kunye nobomi bomyeni wakho kunye. Ubungane buhle, kodwa phakathi kwabahlobo abasondeleyo kufuneka kubekho umgama othile.
Ukuba intombi yakho idlala ngothando nomyeni wakho, yenza yonke into kumyeni wayo ukunyamekela kuwe kwaye akayi kuba nexesha lokunyamekela ingcweti yintombi yakho. Ngamanye amaxesha xa uthi kumntu: "Ndabona ukuba u-Irochka ukhangelele lonke ixesha, akanakukhathalela, kwaye wena, ndabona, ndibuyele. Ewe, ukuba unquma ukuxhuma i-destiny yakho kunye naye, ngoko andiyi kukubamba! ". Kwaye amadoda, njengokuba uyaziyo, isithandwa esinqatshelwe. Ngako oko, emva "kwinconywa" ngqo ", mhlawumbi umyeni uya kulahlekelwa ngumdla wokudlala ngothando.
Kodwa nokuba yintoni na, kwiimeko ezithile, kufuneka usebenze ngeemeko, kuba "iipokethi" eziza kufanelana nazo zonke iimeko azikho.
Ngokungenasiphatho sothando, ewe, akukho nto iyingozi, ukuba le ngxabano ayinakuphucula ngaphaya kwemvume evumelekileyo. Emva kwakho konke, mhlawumbi mhlawumbi unomnye ebomini bakho udlalana nomnye wabasebenzi bomlingane, umzekelo, kuMhla woNyaka omtsha. Esi sizathu sokuba akasayi kukuthatha kwiintlanganiso zenkampani zakhe. Ukuba kunjalo, ke iqabane lakho lizilumko, kuba akazange abe yintlonelo yokufuna ingxoxo, kodwa wayekungqongileyo kunye nokukhathalela ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye waqinisekisa ukuba awuzange uhlangane nomntu onokubambisana naye. Kutheni ungenzi oko.