Ukuzithemba kubaluleke kakhulu kumntu waluphi na ubudala. Emva koko, ukuba ukuzithemba kungaphili, umntu uqala ukuvela kwiinkqubo ezichaphazela imeko yakhe yengqondo. Ukunciphisa ukuzithemba ngokukhethekileyo kukuchaphazela ubomi bentombazana. Ngaloo minyaka, xa umntu eqala ukujamelana nobunzima behlabathi, indima yayo ibaluleke kakhulu. Yingakho kuhlale kuyimfuneko ukunyamekela indlela uluntu oluchaphazela ngayo umntwana osemtsha, aluxinzezeli.
Kubomi bentsha, inxaxheba ebaluleke kakhulu idlala yimibono kunye nembono yabanye, izenzo zabo kuye. Ngelishwa, akubona bonke abazali abaqonda ukuba ukuzithemba kunye nendima yayo kwimfundo yentombazana eyona nto ibalulekileyo. Ukuba kukho iingxaki ngokuzithemba kunye nendima yayo kwimfundo yabantwana abaselula, kungenzeka ukuba xa umntu ekhulile, unokufumana iingxaki zokuziqonda, ubudlelwane kunye nesini esahlukileyo kunye nabanye abaninzi. Yingakho kusoloko kuyimfuneko ukuqwalasela indlela intombazana ezisebenzisayo ngayo, nokuba uyazikhusela izimvo zakhe kwaye alwe nokuhlaselwa ngumhlobo wakhe.
Uvavanyo olwaneleyo lwabantwana abaselula
Ukuze intsha ikwazi ukuzithemba ngokuqhelekileyo, ngaphezu kwayo yonke into kufuneka ikhule phakathi kwabantu abavavanya ngokwaneleyo amandla akhe, abanakudumisa kuphela iimpumelelo, kodwa banokugxeka ngokungazenzisiyo ngenxa yokungafezeki. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba abanye abazali benza iimpazamo xa beqala ukuphakamisa impumelelo yomntwana wabo kwaye bangaqapheli iimpazamo. Kule meko, uqala ukugqithisa ukuzithemba, uyayeka ukuqonda ukugxeka ngokuqhelekileyo, uzibheka njengomntu obaluleke kakhulu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuziphatha okunjalo kubangela abantu kwaye ngoko ke umntu uyaba neengxaki zobugovu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho uhlala eqaqa ingcamango engalunganga, engalunganga, akwazi ukuba njani, njalo njalo, kulo mzekelo kufuneka uzame ukuqonda ukuba sisiphi isizathu sokunciphisa ukuzithemba.
Indima yotitshala
Inendima ebalulekileyo ebomini nganye yeselula idlalwa sisikolo. Kukho apho abantwana banxibelelana ngokubanzi, bancintisana, bafunde izakhono zentlalo zesiseko. Nangona kunjalo, ngelanga, akubona bonke ootitshala baqonda ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukukwazi ukuphatha kakuhle abantwana, ukufundisa i-science zabo ngelixa bengangcolisi isidima sabo. Yingakho abaninzi abaselula baqala ukulahlekelwa yinto yokuzithemba ngenxa yokuba ootitshala bayabagxeka, baveze zabo iimpazamo zeklasi lonke, ngaloo ndlela bafundela abafundi ukuba bahlekise. Kule meko, abazali abaninzi baya esikolweni ukuthetha notitshala. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko kubonisa ukubonisa, abantwana abakwishumi elivisayo baqonda indlela enjalo ngayo umama okanye utata "ngama-bayonethi." Oku akumangalisi, kuba ulutsha kufuneka luziva luzimeleyo kwaye lubonise ukuzimela kwabanye. Yaye ukuba ngaba umama okanye ubaba ebonakala emnyango wesikolo, bacinga ukuba abanye bayayeka ukuzithatha ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kuba abazali bayabakhathalela njengabantwana. Ngoko ke, kufuneka uhambe esikolweni kuphela njengesisigqibo sokugqibela, xa uqonda ukuba umntwana akanako ukumelana nomfundisi ngandlela-thile, kwaye okokugqibela, akayiqondi ukuba amagama akhe abaluleke kangakanani kwi-self-affirmation of the teen. Okokuqala zama ukunceda umntwana wakho. Ukuba ubona ukuba akakhange anikwe le nto okanye loo nto - ungafaki uxinzelelo kuye. Chaza unyana okanye intombi yakho ukuba akukho mntu uya kumthanda xa engayiqondi i-algebra okanye i-chemistry. Uze ucacise ngokubhekiselele kwinto enomdla kuye. Makhe afinyelele ezinye iziphumo kwimidlalo, udonsa, ubhale inkondlo kunye neprose. Ukuba umntwana osemtsha uba yinto engcono, akayi kukukhathazeka ngokuhlaselwa kotitshala, kunye nabafundi abafunda nabo baya kuhlonishwa ngenxa yezinye impumelelo.
Ewe, xa abantu beselula behlaselwa ngabaontanga, kubalulekile ukuba bafundise ukuzikhusela. Kwaye akusoloko nje nje igama. Ewe, idiplomacy yindlela efanelekileyo yokulungisa iingxaki, kodwa kungekhona kwihlabathi elivisayo. Kukho imfuneko ukuba ukwazi ukuzikhusela kwaye ukhusele ilungelo lakho nangaliphi na indlela. Ngoko ke, xelela umntwana ukuba akwazi ukwenza oku, ucinga ukuba kuyimfuneko, kodwa kuphela ukuba ulungile, kungekhona umchasi wakhe.