Ixesha lesantya kunye neengxaki zalo


Wonke amaphupha omzali oqhelekileyo onoyolo lomntwana wakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo wenza izicwangciso zekamva lomntwana wakhe. Ikhetha ukuba ngubani umntwana ukuba abe ngabahlobo bakhe, apho ahamba khona emva kwesikolo, ukuba ngubani oza kutshata naye okanye atshate, ekhohlwa ukuba umntwana ngumntu. Uyazi yena ukuba yenzeni kwaye nini, kufuneka abazali bamxhase umntwana ngokunyamekela kunye neenjongo zakhe. Ukuba awuyithandi omnye wabahlobo bakho, ngoko kufuneka uchaze umntwana ukuba kungani ungayithandi, kwaye uphulaphule iingxabano zomntwana ekukhuseleni umhlobo wakhe. Hlanganisa ukuhlalutya imeko, kwaye ufumane indlela yokuphuma kuyo. Umntwana akayiyidalwa esisisidenge engakwazi ukuyiqonda ngaphandle kwakho apho kulungile, kodwa apho kukubi. Abantwana bahlala bezilumko kwaye banengqiqo kunabantwana babo, kuba iingcamango zabo zihlambulukile, kwaye abazali baqala ukunyathela ngobomi bomntwana kunye negunya labo.

Ixesha lesantya kunye neengxaki zalo. Ukuba uhlawula umntwana ngokuziphatha ngeli xesha, uqala ukubonisa ukuba unelungelo lokuba khona kuzo zonke iindlela ezingenakucinga. Abafana bavame ukuqala ukutshaya nokusela ngexesha lexesha elivisayo, musa ukuza ekhaya ukuchitha ubusuku, okanye ukuhlala emva kweso sitrato ukuze bangava ukuziphatha kwabazali babo, beqhekeza isikolo. Amantombazana athoba, angaphula isikolo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba baqale ukulala ngesondo. Amantombazana afuna ububele kunye nothando, apho kunikwa khona, okanye kweso sikhashana kubonakala ngathi lo luthando. Aba bantwana babonisa "I" yabo, ukuba ngaba abazali abafihli ingqondo zabo ngexesha kwaye bangawuqwalasela indlela yokuziphatha komntwana, kuya kuba nzima ukuyeka inkqubo yokubunjwa komntu.

Kwixesha elivisayo lomlingani wolutsha, kuvela ubunzima obuthile, abafana bafumana utshintsho olubi kwaye banokuthi bangasemva kwemivalo. Kwaye kunye namantombazana afuna ukuthanda, abe ngumama eselula. Ngokweengqondo zengqondo, iintombi ezingaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-12 zifanele zifundise abagadi babo nge-caress kunye neengqalelo. Kwaye oonyana kufuneka bafundise oomama, kunye ne-caress kunye neengqalelo. Akuyimfuneko ukuhlwaya abantwana, kuya kubakho into enhle, ufanele ube nomonde ngexesha le-adolescence kwaye uncede umntwana aziqonde yena ngebhanti, kodwa ngoncedo lweengxoxo, ulungelelanise kakuhle intetho. Ukuba ngaba abazali ngokwabo abanakukwazi ukujamelana nale meko, kufuneka uguqulele kwisazi senzululwazi oya kuhlala esinceda kwaye akuxelele indlela yokwenza ngokuchanekileyo kule nto okanye kuloo meko.

Ukuba intombi yakho yafika ekhaya yathi uyakhulelwa kwaye iya kubeleka, ungamthumeli ekukhiphe isisu. Uya kuphula ubomi bakho kunye naye, uya kukukhumbula kuwe kwikamva ukuba awuzange umxhase. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuzalwa komntwana, kwaye ungacingi ukuba intombi yakho iya kuphulaphula ubomi bakhe nale nto. Hayi, uya kuba ngumama olungileyo kumntwana wakhe, kwaye uyamnceda ngale nto. Yaye ndikholelwe, xa umzukulwana okanye umzukulwana uzalelwa, uya kuba ngumakhulu nozala omkhulu.

INyana akakho nawuphi na umkhondo ongaqhubeki, ngokokuba wenzayo ebomini bakhe obuncinci. Kufuneka ahlale eyazi ukuba unendlu kunye nentsapho apho ayithandayo kwaye ilindeleke. Nantoni na, kungumntwana olahlekileyo kweli hlabathi elikhulu lezilingo. Yaye kunye nentsapho, abazali ukuba banikwe kulo mhlaba, ukukunceda umntwana wakho azifumane. Uya kuvuna uthando, kwaye uya kuqokelela kwisivuno esikhulu!